A close friend of mine is havin an extramarital affair with her boyfriend.She got married recently but to my surprise she is not really attending her husband and find ways to stay away from him.I m really upset about all this as i don't want things to get messed up.If anyone has a solution then plz reply.
2007-07-09 18:58:52 · 10 answers · asked by himanshuset 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The very fact she had a boy friend why then she married some one else just to indulge in adulterous relationship with this boy friend even after her marriage? If she was not interested to marry this man she should have refused it point blank but now after her marriage her indulging in such illicit sexual relationship with another man is most un call from her. This the reason why I always insist for couples to tie in matrimonial ties with someone they like or love so at least the concept of adultery doesn't happen in their life. I have been criticized by some back ward & Hippocratic people in yahoo answers who always say my encouragement for marriage between the friends or lovers irrespective of their religion, caste, social status, race or nationality is wrong & that goes against the social norms & ethics, now I want to ask all those guys out here what happing in this case is moral or ethical in any scratch of society? Had this friend of yours married this boy friend of her she would not be upto all this mess, but just to satisfy the unreasonable demands of her parents she must have got married to another man, who is of not her liking & interest hence she's indulging in the said illicit sexual relationship with her boy friend. In the twenty first century we should live as the present demands & not follow what was told or followed in the eighteenth century as my few friends out here will come out & speak bringing in irrelevant topics of religion & morality based on their hypocoristic religious belief. As far your friend is concerned now what is best for her is break her relationship with either of these two & finally settle with one. How she will do it is upto her to decide, no use if she is in love with her boyfriend to continue with her husband, better for her to seek divorce from him on mutual consent & move to her boyfriend for ever.
2007-07-09 20:16:16 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You have asked "if anyone has a solution....". The solution is with your friend only. She should not carry on extra marital activities and be with the husband, forgetting whatever wrong she has done. This is the only way she will be happy in life. If she continues having extra marital affairs, she will be ruining the life of three people. And what guarantee is that her boyfriend will support her if she is separated from her husband. If she had a boyfriend, why in the first place did she marry.
2007-07-09 19:07:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it’s really none of your business...
Secondly, if you really were such a good friend of her, you would try ate least to understand her.
You say, that you are upset? Why? Is she doing some harm to you??
Don’t you agree, that your friend should be married with her boy friend and not with this so-called husband she obviously doesn’t even like at all?
What kind of friend are you? I love to see my friends happy and I accept my friends just the way they are without criticize them for what they do or not.
If you were a real friend, you would support her and try to understand the reasons why she avoids her husband.
Your friend isn’t happy in life and it’s obvious, that she got married to somebody who means nothing to her. Another victim of this hippocratic, traditional society. Well, as long as her parents are happy with this marriage...
Listen, if you were a good friend, then you really would encourage her to leave her husband immediately and stay with her boy friend, as this is the man she loves.
If you don’t do so and prefer to be one of these so-called friends = we are friends as long as you do what I think is right... well, stay a way from her, because nobody really needs such hippocratic friends at all....
2007-07-10 00:47:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anita P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-08 21:26:26 · answer #4 · answered by deller 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is none of your business. Your remit is just this - be a support to your friend. What she does with her life is up to her seeing that she is an adult. I take it you have advised her against this and she has not listened to you. Leave it alone. She needs to learn lessons and will not if there are people around to clear up her mess.
2007-07-13 03:09:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
STAY OUT OF IT!
It's none of your business. Your meddling will just make matters worse. She needs to figure it out herself. Don't try to play the the martyr by trying to solve her problems. Let her life takes its course. She must be doing it for a reason that you may not be aware of. She may have been forced into a marriage that she did not want. She may have been threatened, who knows. It is her life not yours so leave her alone.
2007-07-10 17:15:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the husband about her affair and let them sit together for a divorce. then ask the husband to find somebody else who is faithfull because marriage is to live together for ever with each other.
2007-07-10 04:25:38 · answer #7 · answered by vighnesvaran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask anita p can we have an affair iam successful,well what right about me just i can say onething iam really a good human being that is what even my freinds tell me
2007-07-10 03:21:17 · answer #8 · answered by venkatraman s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
solution is with her. why her boyfriend not married her? he simply wants to enjoy without responsibility. if her husband has no objection, then who r we to take objection? if he doesn't want this, he should give her ultimatum to chose one. if she wants to go with boy friend, let her do like that.
2007-07-09 22:12:31 · answer #9 · answered by dattusing p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its none of ur business.... u advised her now leave it ...it up to her...better see that her husband doesn't think its u...lol
2007-07-10 08:59:06 · answer #10 · answered by Raymond 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋