ok what if you are in love with your ex of 5 years but he is married to someone else but you know that his wife is just using him for money and his car and he tells you in emails all the time he misses you and loves you almost everyday would it be bad if you try to break up their marriage cus you feel he is still in love with you
2007-07-09 18:22:31 · 14 answers · asked by shorty28 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's always bad to break up someone else's marriage. If he really loves you then he'll leave her and this bad situation he's in and come to you as a free man. Talk is cheap and he could be romancing you while she's tending to every need she thinks he has at home. Demand better for yourself and find a man that respects you and your commitment to him.
2007-07-09 18:42:00 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YUP, it would be very bad! He may have these feelings for you, but he is married and the only one who should be breaking up his marriage is him. If he wants to leave his wife and try things out w/ you, that is his decision and his only!
He is off limits! Regardless of what you guys had in the past. Right now he has a present and a future w/ someone else! Most likely he is feeling lonely in his marriage and playing w/ the idea of having someone else, but ultimately, he will probably not leave his wife, and hopefully never pursue anything physical w/ you, since this "affair" is strictly emails at this point.
Time to move on sweetie! Life is too short to be pining over someone else's husband!
2007-07-10 01:33:29 · answer #2 · answered by hereigoagain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are tempting some seriously negative fate here. If he loves you so much and misses you so badly then why didn't he marry you instead? You're asking for serious drama in your life and if you pursue this relationship don't be surprised in six months or a year when it all falls apart and you are left alone and this guy's gold digging wife has hit the border with all the loot!
Cheers!
2007-07-10 01:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by sleepydad 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it would be bad. Take a look at Proverbs 5 from the Bible:
"1 My son, pay attention to my wisdom, listen well to my words of insight, 2 that you may maintain discretion and your lips may preserve knowledge. 3 For the lips of an adulteress drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil; 4 but in the end she is bitter as gall, sharp as a double-edged sword.
5 Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to the grave. 6 She gives no thought to the way of life; her paths are crooked, but she knows it not.
7 Now then, my sons, listen to me; do not turn aside from what I say. 8 Keep to a path far from her, do not go near the door of her house, 9 lest you give your best strength to others
and your years to one who is cruel, 10 lest strangers feast on your wealth and your toil enrich another man's house.
11 At the end of your life you will groan, when your flesh and body are spent. 12 You will say, "How I hated discipline! How my heart spurned correction! 13 I would not obey my teachers or listen to my instructors.
14 I have come to the brink of utter ruin in the midst of the whole assembly." 15 Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. 16 Should your springs overflow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares? 17 Let them be yours alone, never to be shared with strangers. 18 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. 19 A loving doe, a graceful deer—may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love.
20 Why be captivated, my son, by an adulteress? Why embrace the bosom of another man's wife? 21 For a man's ways are in full view of the LORD, and he examines all his paths. 22 The evil deeds of a wicked man ensnare him; the cords of his sin hold him fast. 23 He will die for lack of discipline, led astray by his own great folly."
In the verses above, God highlights three people. He points out the man, the wife, and the other woman. The man is definitely who the story is written to, in a way. The other woman is the adulteress. Notice what the Bible says the characteristics of an adulteress are and what she will bring upon the man if he follows after her.
In your situation, you would be considered the adulteress. Why? Because you are trying to lead him away from his wife. No matter the case, he is married. And you should honor those vows. Realize that what you had with him is over now, and he is joined with someone else. Take a look at verse 5...it says that the adulteress will lead him to death, right? If you continue to do this, you will be leading him on a path of destruction, hurt, and a broken marriage.
Now, I am not saying these things to be hurtful. To be honest, I am not even being judgemental of you. It is God's word that says what it says, I can't change that. I care for all people and want to see the best for them. I REALLY care about marriage, and it tears at my heart to see any marriage fall apart. Please do what is right here. Tell him to stop sending emails. Tell him to love his wife, or as the verse says, "rejoice in his wife...let her breast satisfy him," not yours.
2007-07-10 12:20:24 · answer #4 · answered by Dead 2 Self 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he your ex?? Think about that and you'll answer your own question. Did you leave him, did he leave you and why?? Do you want to go back to that? Sometimes it works out, but most times it doesn't... personally, i wouldn't want a man, ex or not, that is married to someone else and emailing another woman. If he's doing it to her, he will do it to you. Leave their marriage alone and quit reading his emails.
2007-07-10 01:29:43 · answer #5 · answered by askmeimightknow 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it would be horrible because at the end of the day, if he loved you he would of married you.
You cant be sure that she is only using him for his money etc.
Cut all ties with him and go and find your own hubby u dont want to be known as a homewrecker do u? for something that probably wont last.
2007-07-10 01:29:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's real easy for him to fire off an e-mail saying that he loves you. If he truly loved you he'd be with you.. Breaking up their marriage is a hollow victory for you in that you aren't getting much of a prize in him. God knows if you two get together he'll be e-mailing HER telling her he loves her. Forget him.
2007-07-10 03:36:02 · answer #7 · answered by Sword Lily 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it would be bad for you to try to break up his marriage. He is your ex for a reason. If you were to reunite with him, the odds of it working out would be slim to none.
2007-07-10 01:29:40 · answer #8 · answered by Max 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be horrible of you to try to break up their marriage. Move on with your life. If he wants you, he'll break up his own marriage.
2007-07-10 01:25:53 · answer #9 · answered by t 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
if he tells u all that stuff and u two get together whos to say he'll be telling another girl things and cheats on you..think about it??
2007-07-10 01:35:58 · answer #10 · answered by J-LO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋