Do you think im too young?

Question

Do you think im too young to be pregnant?..i have graduated from college and i have a full time job anf getting married soon..thing is im only 20 and i know theres girls alot younger than me who get pregnant...but i want to talk to the doctor about it and i feel like she'll give me a stupid look..like im too young or something...any opinions?

Answer 1

No, you are more together from the sound of it then most women are in their later 20's. Of course you may want to get settled into the marriage so that you know you will be able to whether the hard stuff. Babies are very stressful on a marriage...get at least one anniversary and a good honeymoon in too so that you can remember at least some sexy times with honey before you only have family trips to remember.

Answer 2

My mom had got pregnant for the first time when she was 20 and had 5 kids by the time she was 27. Having 5 kids aged 6 and under... WOW... she's amazing. Then she had her sixth at 33! It's seems like you are pretty well grown. I would wait until you actually do get married though. But you said that is soon. If your going to plan this plan it in order. I'm 18 and 24 weeks pregnant and I know I'm too young but I can do it. I only have a HS diploma. You have so much going for you and if you know you can do it then go for it. Talk to your doctor but I'm sure she won't say your too young. Have her just check you out and make sure you can get as healthy as you can before trying to get pregnant. Have her prescribe you prenatals, which you should take before you even are pregnant when you are trying to conceive. Well, good luck.

Answer 3

You are definately not too young to have a baby, if you are in love and you have a job, then you are fine to have a baby. Also, you should feel comfortable talking to your doctor about these issues and if he or she gives you a stupid look then he or she is a bad doctor. And you are right when you say many other ladies get pregnant way younger than you because I knew a girl who got pregnant when she was 13. So, in my opinion you are fine and you will be a good mother. GOOD LUCK WITH THE BABY!!

Answer 4

The "appropriate" age of conception is a cultural construct. In medieval ages and countries still living in medieval ages, girls were eligible to be mothers as soon as they could conceive. Many families still start pressuring their adult children to have babies almost as soon as they turn 18. Different social classes have different expectations as greater wealth allows for greater mobility at a younger age to do frivolous things and put off "settling down."

Keep in mind that having a baby is an important responsibility. I would expect your doctor to point this out, but not in a patronizing way. Clearly you are a bright person and can figure these things out for yourself. I will give you the same advice I gave my friends: wait until you feel like it is the right time, such as after you have completed your college education and are already married (preferably for at least a year). Once the child is born, don't expect to get much sleep or have much of a sex life for at least 2-3 years due to exhaustion. Babies do need to be changed or fed at 3 or 4 a.m. from time to time...

Answer 5

You are old enough but if you can wait until after you have been married a year you will be more ready.
Women in my family have them young, my mom was 20,21 and 22 when she had us and her mom was 19 and 21 when she had hers my brothers wifes were 18 when they had the first. my nieces were 18 and 22. They seemed really young but had energy to raise them and were ready only the 18 year old niece wasn't married and didn't plan hers. I was on fertility drugs at 20 I had been trying over a year before that.

Answer 6

I'm 20 and married and 35 weeks pregnant, still in college. She shouldn't give you a stupid look, cause you're old enough and mature enough to provide for yourself an your baby. No one has looked at me weird or given me bad looks at all, in fact the only attitudes I've seen towards me have been positive, even from strangers. Good luck and congrats!

Answer 7

Yes
If you have to ask that question at 20 then you are too young
Please do not get pregnant until you and a man you call husband have steady long term jobs you both LOVE and you OWN a home, two NEW cars, and both have good credit.
None of this seems like a surety for you in the next nine months and to not have any one of these things would be seriously depriving the child and you of a happy life.

Answer 8

I'd suggest getting married first, just based on the fact that I just went through the wedding thing myself & it's super stressful. Being pregnant would just add to the stress. Anyway, a good doctor will not judge your decisions. If she does, you should obtain a new doctor. If you're will to take on the responsibility & are stable enough to do so, you don't need approval from others. Good luck.

Answer 9

Your not too young. too young is the teens that get pregnant (13, 14, 15, 16,) you get my drift. You are out of college that is good, your getting married soon that is good. but i would say to wait until after you get married and you and your husband have a house and are financially and emotionally ready for a baby. they are hard work and you want to make sure your ready for them. But if you think you already are and your soon to be hubby is with you then go for it. good luck

Answer 10

It all depends on what you want to accomplish in your life. You are too young if you want to enjoy your younger years. Hopefully the father is going to be there with you for support both physically and emotionally. At 26 I think I am too young to support a baby both financially and mentally. I stilll want to go out with my friends, travel, and buy a house.

However, both my sister had kids early. One at 18 and the other at 20. They struggled at first, but now they are happy. Not to mention they can relate to their kids better and are still young to keep up with them. By the time they are 40 their kids will be out of the house and can support themselves. So it all depends on you and what your goals are in life.