"I'm not saying NOTHING!" Like for example, I might tell something that happened about an unfortunate event about something that happened to me, & the friend might say "No comment". or "I'm gonna leave that subject alone". & by personal experience, when they say that, that means that they figured I deserved what bad happened to me, but just don't wanna say it. Like I just told a so-called friend about me not making good grades in courses that were easy A's & she said, "I'm not sayin' nothin'." Like deep in her heart she wanted to just LAUGH IN MY FACE.
Is that a true friend? A friend who when you tell her your problems, she says NO COMMENT b/c she figures you deserved what bad happened to you?
2007-07-09 17:38:06 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I had extenuationg circumstances that caused my grades to be poor. Like me moving around a lot because of being a homeless college student. No this is not my fault.
2007-07-09 17:59:46 · update #1
Yes you have it exactly. I think that is so rude when someone says that. FRIENDS don't say crap like that in my humble opinion.
2007-07-09 18:11:23 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Did you ever stop to consider that maybe you don't take criticism well? I have a feeling that no matter what "unfortunate event" befalls you, you have a tendency to want to be coddled. Deep in your friend's heart, she probably wants to kick your *** for screwing up! And, in my opinion, she's being a GREAT friend by choosing not to say anything at all because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Example - "I just told a so-called friend about me not making good grades in courses that were easy A's".
If they were easy A's, why didn't you get them? Sounds like you already know you screwed up - so why question your so-called friend's loyalty?
2007-07-09 17:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
In a way yes and in a way no, it's not like she is laughing in your face, but then she should be supportive. I know it's hard to figure out a good way to cover how you feel. Do you know for sure that she figures you deserved what happened to you, and does she say that to all your problems? Try to look at it from her perspective as well as your own, and talk to her about it.
2007-07-09 17:49:02 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The person is unable to deal with your problems. The person may believe your either exaggerating or you perhaps you wanted (fantasy) whatever had happen. For example: If you told your friend that you where rape, you friend may had felt that this was a sexual fantasy despite the fact that it really did happen. Some people enjoys the the thrill being sexual control including men.
God Bless
2007-07-09 17:55:30 · answer #4 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sound like shes not an extremely sturdy chum. what you should do is confront her approximately this and tell her shes not performing like a sturdy chum. and if she doesnt desire to place the attempt in workin in this friendship, in basic terms forget approximately her. you will make greater acquaintances and she or he replaced into in all probability jealuos which you will artwork the look and she or he will't. desire i helped
2016-11-08 21:19:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are reading wayyyyyyyyyy too much into a casual comment.after all what can she do about your poor grades etc etc.........you are not actually asking her to solve your problems are you, you are just sounding off to her and she knows so does not really say anything about the subject. and she said NO COMMENT, not no comment cause I think you are being an idiot and not doing your work and deserved the bad grade...................
2007-07-09 17:48:41 · answer #6 · answered by candy g 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Well you did deserve what happened,those were easy a's and you messed up..Stop trying to put this on your girlfriends shoulders.
2007-07-09 17:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by wayne 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
what u should do is tell her that what she is doing is wrong and u really need some one to talk to u can email me bye
2007-07-10 01:49:55 · answer #8 · answered by Marry J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know when people say that, it seems rude but maybe they just know what to say to your problems
2007-07-09 17:44:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
they may not want to hurt your feelings
2007-07-09 19:24:57 · answer #10 · answered by *Jenn* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋