how do you get over a relatonship that you have be in for 11 years and want to move on but he will not let you

Answer 1

just do it

quit taking his input, it is over, cut him out of your life -- don't let him control you any longer -- life is too short to waste it on stuff/people who are holding you down

Answer 2

The point isn't that he won't let you... the point is that your stuck between decisions. you see whats on the other side and you like it however, it scares you. So because of this you stay with whats comfortable and familiar because it's safe, not because it's what you truly desire. Trust me, it's time to throw in the towel and move on. No point for either of you to stay. Sure it's hard and there are risks and worries to be involved. If it were easy to move on, no one would ever be in this situation. Keep this in mind, if you stay, you will always wonder what and where your life would be had you left....Would it be better? Would you be with Mr. Right? What about that career or dream you always had? If you stay, there will come a point where you completely regret what you have done, and there will be so much time that is lost because of it. You only have one life...do you really want to spend it thinking about the "What ifs" ? My guess is the reason (or at least one of them) he wants you to stay, is because he's also scared about moving on. Seriously...what kind of relationship is that? Never settle for something that you really don't want. Would you be happier with a shiny new Cubic Zirconium ring or a Shiny new Diamond Ring? Choices, Choices...choose wisely!

Answer 3

Move away or he probably will never let you. Sometimes the thought of relocation seems harder than living with the fact that you are just a prisoner of your own making, but reality is, if you ever want to feel free and happy, you need to make a move and start over. He's never going to give up as long as you are available to bother.

Answer 4

Tell him something like, it's been over 11 years thing aren't working right, the way I wanted to, ur a good guy. it's just Im not good enought for u. ur better off with someone else that's better than me

Answer 5

You have to cut off all unnecessary communication. If you have children, just deal with him about the kids. Live your life, don't answer to him and don't give him details. If he asks, pretend like he didn't say a thing. Just move on to the next subject. Deep breaths, and just move on.

Answer 6

He's not the one not letting you move on, you are. No one has control over you but you. Why don't you want to move on is the question you should be asking yourself.

Answer 7

If you are a red-blooded American woman, you kick his ass out and never talk to him again. That should send a pretty clear message to Mr. He Will Not Let You Move On.

Answer 8

he is not you, you are your own person, he may bug you and call you but if you really want this to be over, you just need to avoid him and ignore him and move on with your life and eventually he will get the point and back off,

Answer 9

you r ur own person and no one can tell u what 2 do, tel him u r serious about leaving and just do it. Move ur stuff and go, live independently. if he gets crazy, get a restraining order!
explain in detail y u r leaving him.

Answer 10

it sounds like your wanting us to tell you to just walk away, but why? what does he have to keep you there? or why are you still there? you need to put more infomation in the question to let us know whats going on for any good help. anyways, if you want to be over it, walk away and life does go on.