I've been sexually active for about 9 months now and I've never had an orgasm. It isn't my man, he's very pleasing in bed. I know it is normal for some people not to.. but does anyone know any 'tricks' that could cause me to have one?
2007-07-09 15:06:22 · 8 answers · asked by Kari 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
i got this ifo for me a while ago and it was ver informative I hope it can work out for you too just one thing you need to learn how to relax have a clear mind away from problems family anything that can disturb you from finding and enjoying yourself the rest is history believe one you your first orgasm you are goin to fell so light so different that everyone is gonna look at you and the are gonna say i wonder what happend to Kari but its goin to be your little secret so read on girlfriend!
This may seem obvious, but many women, even today, feel very inhibited about self-love and can't help feeling that it isn't something they should be doing. But the fact is, masturbating helps you to learn just exactly which pressures and rhythms you need in order to bring you to orgasm. In particular, you need to explore your own body in order to find out precisely how to stimulate your clitoris.
However, it's important that, if you are using masturbation to help learn about orgasm, you should always do it when you are warm, cosy, relaxed... and, above all, alone. Learning to love your own body should be a delicious experience, but it can't be if someone is hammering on your bedroom or bathroom door demanding that you come out and get their tea!
Once you have learned to climax easily, you can then show your partner exactly what you need in order to make you come.
2007-07-09 15:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by chula8260 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, If you've only been sexually active for 9 months you've got a long way to go before you find out what works for you orgasm wise. If you want to experience a great orgasm my best advice is that you ditch the man (temporarily, of course!) and have some alone time. No man is going to know how to please you unless you already know how to please yourself. Find your sweet spots and go from there, orgasms can be illusive so pay close attention to your body's reaction from your touch. Be open minded and take your time! Once you've experienced what an orgasm feels like for your body you can then take your new found knowledge into the bedroom with your man.
2007-07-09 15:28:17 · answer #2 · answered by taylrrslullabye 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of women do not orgasm from intercourse, but they do from oral sex or any stimulation of the clitoris. Also, it takes an average of about 20 minutes for a woman to orgasm so maybe he's not stimulating you long enough.
2007-07-09 15:19:19 · answer #3 · answered by First Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of women don't orgasm from intercourse. Try having him preform oral on you, focus on the clitoris. Also, try masturbation to discover what works for you, and what you like or dislike.
Good luck, and have fun..LOL!
2007-07-09 15:11:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there are many ways for you to orgasm. A woman can orgasm either with the partner or being alone...
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2007-07-09 15:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the two that answered above me..you have to explore your own body first before you let someone else try..only you will know where the spot is to get you going and have that orgasm... and try oral before sex ..this tends to work..good luck..
2007-07-09 16:14:22 · answer #6 · answered by ~Ashley~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the trick is...
not to think about it! it jus will happen wen ur in the mood for it.
2007-07-09 15:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by Cris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-07-09 15:10:51 · answer #8 · answered by 129 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋