Why is society not pasted the race issue?

Question

I am a black women married to a white man and we have two beautiful children. Recently I was asked what my children were. I told them they are both black and white. I was then told that they are what their father is and that is the way society will see them. I don't see it this way because if that was the case, my husbands grandparents will not have refused them so much. So, where does that leave me? Am I to tell my children they are considered white and leave it at that? Or am I to deprive them of their african american culture all together? My husband doesn't think of these things he hides from them in hope that the stares and fingers pointing will just go away. I do not want my children to be treated any different than any other child. It is not fair, I am not naive I know life is not fair but we are all human beings aren't we?

Answer 1

The truth is because it is politically beneficial to perpetuate racial, sexist, age, and religious differences in order to create a victim class that needs defending against an oppressive majority.

Don't forget that we live in the most diverse and most tolerant society on Earth. You have opportunities here that do not exist in the rest of the world. Ignore those who judge you on superficial things such as the color of your skin. Never vote or endorse those who manipulate or exploit your skin color as a basis to feel or act a certain way. Never be a victim and be aware of those who try to make you into one.

You live in America and are free to be whatever you want. Your choices are your own. If you want to know how to raise your children, raise them as an American and teach them to love their country and the sacrifices made by our forefathers for our freedom. Race doesn't matter. If you want to hinder your children's chances at success, focus on non-important things such as race and they'll find plenty to distract them while life passes them by.

Answer 2

The reason for his is because our society is so scared and frightened of seeing things that ain't the "usual" In earlier times in this country, I'm assuming your from the USA, the government considered anyone with black blood a black person, regardless of what they looked like. Your skin could be as white as snow, but if there was proof you had African lineage then you were black. That's not the case nowadays..its more of what you actually LOOK like what people consider you. Your children ain't white, they are both black and white. Tell them they are wrong when they say your children are only white because common sense would tell anyone that is not true.

The pointing and stares are just something you'll get used to. My girlfriend is Portuguese and I'm Black. We actually flipped it and enjoy the attention people give us....just goes about how you look at things.

Answer 3

I think your answer that they are both black and white is the right way to go Why limit them to one race, when to do so would deny the other. This way their world is much larger. Don't allow your children to have their minds limited by the small minds of other people. When you deny one race a child learns not to like himself, because he is both. I am a biracial child of American Indian and Irish parentage.

Answer 4

We are not all human beings to the white. They will never be accepting of you. The fact that his parents are not accepting of your children is in no way surprising. The white is far less accepting of Africans than we are of them. We are too nice, and that has hurt us as a people. I'm sure your parents are accepting of your children. All you have to do is spend a few days on Yahoo Answers to see how whites are. NEVER deprive your children of their African heritage, tell them to be proud of their African heritage and the noble, courageous people that came before them. Teach them all about African history. Do not let whites dictate what you should do with your children!

Answer 5

Sweetie, people will be @sses; that's just what most are. When they act like morons, you just ask them "what are you, like that nazi thing or what do they call that bad thing"? They will look at you in like shock and disgust. Just smirk a little and learn to leave them wallering in their cesspool.

Also, when they ask what you are, say "human beings", and you are...oh, wait...that nazi thing?---- like that. Most times people are not being curious, but implying some racist bigotry towards you because it's engrained in them and they don't want to quit.

Ask them are they human because you've heard about some mutant garbage running around who doesn't recognize human beings when they're right before their eyes, so you want to be sure what they are. When they laugh in disbelief sort of, just say "ok" and turn and walk away. Say [to your kids] "Ok, kiddies, let's go do some boating! Come on! Let's have some fun"! Leave the weirdo bigot wallering once again in the feces cesspool. That's the only thing that works on them. They learn by having their garbage thrown right back in their faces.

Sorry, but that's just the way their genealogy is. Deep-rooted from generation to present. It's just the harsh reality.

Answer 6

Yes we are all human beings and I truly believe that we will get there probably later than sooner. I would like it to happen tomorrow but I have seen many improvements in my life time, apparently many more than in my Mom's life. Hang in there! You and your children are going to make a difference! In most big cities in this country (USA) your children are already accepted by most people regardless of their race. We are working on the other parts, it is just slow. Good luck and I do believe your kids will be just fine!

Answer 7

These are your children.. it doesn't matter if they're orange and purple. Next time someone asks (and how rude!) what they are... just say "they are mine... they're my beautiful children." People are frightened of what they don't know... and say stupid and hurtful things. Embrace people who think like you do. And stand tall. It's hard to reason people out of a place they didn't reason themselves into. It takes education. Your children are are the blessing of both of you... regardless of color or nation or heritage or belief. Don't draw lines inside your own house... then 'they' are winning. Teach them joy. Teach them kindness. Teach them about every color of the rainbow. Teach them to love and respect. We're all just the same... some people don't know that yet.

http://www.tolerance.org/speakup/index.html

Answer 8

Clearly ignorance, instead of getting to know some one as an individual, a lot of times society will used stereotypes and lables to judge that person according to what race he/she belongs too. I used to date a white girl and everytime we went places people would look and stare at us as if we weren't a part of society.

Answer 9

humm. well i see racism is kinda stupid and useless. we are all people. the human race. your children are of the human race. does it matter what kinda blood that flows in them? if your kids past me, i personally would not even care to ask what they are, becuz i know their humans.....or maybe thats just me. it would annoys that that some people are superfical and ignorant that they have to take the time to wonder what mixed kids are and catergorize them. i think its time wasting. your kids are the offspring of you and your husband. its that easy....

Answer 10

Shoulda figured this one out a long time ago, like before marriage. The tell-tell signs were if your husband shared your African-American experience with you.