Why is there no longer shame on out of wedlock birth?

Question

And I know it is not the childs false. But do you believe that because there is no shame, out of wedlock (marriage) birth is off the chain in spite of all the birth control method on the market.

Answer 1

Regrettably, Because Christian values are no longer the standard of the moral campus our society lives by.

Answer 2

There is no shame because this isn't the 1950s. The majority of people no longer wait until marriage to have sex, therefore, even with all of the methods of birth control, there are quite a few children born out of wedlock. I am happily married, but do I think that a couple should have to get married just because they are having a child together? Absolutely not. Trust me, having parents that aren't together is much easier than being a child and having to go through your parents' divorce.

Answer 3

Because that shame came from religious beliefs which no longer rule people. A very christian person may still feel a baby should be born in wedlock but someone who is say of no particular faith will feel that it's ok. I think no matter what the situation a baby is a blessing, and instead of running around judging everyone we should take care of our own lives. If you feel it's best to be married first, then you should do that. But if you are religious, I am pretty sure you aren't the one who is supposed to judge people are you? I was married for eight years before I fell pregnant but I understand that accidents happen, and that sometimes people don't believe what you believe.

Answer 4

I think that you're approaching too many topics and wanting just one answer.

1) Children have been born out of wedlock for centuries. Until now, they and their parents were given a fair chance. The stigma has been lifted, for the most part. Does that make it right? No, but people have finally realized that criticizing women who have children out of wedlock will NOT do any good. Single women have proven to be good mothers, and some single women are even able to adopt.

2) Birth control is on the market, but it is not available to everyone. It may sound strange to you and I, but birth control costs money. If you barely have enough to survive, why would you want to take precautions to prevent pregnancy? Which is more important: paying $30 for birth control or paying $30 for food.

Answer 5

Its not shameful anymore because morals has declined and now there is 'strength in numbers',,,,However, it is and always will remain shameful to sensible people for these reasons: 1. it reveals a lack of control, intelligence, foresight and a certain recklessness.....etc. 2. it shows an extreme disregard to the health and well being of the child and society at large...children of unwed mothers perform miserably in life, compared to those born in a home with two parents who tick together.. The commenters who think this shame stuff is a relic of a old fashioned past, that its simply outdated, these people simply dont know what what they are talking about.,

Answer 6

You're right, its not the child's false, nor is it the child's fault. Why are you asking a question like this? It really baffles me in some ways makes me hurt. Why not ask questions like why are gas prices so high? Why is America economy falling apart? Why do we have to be at war for 5 years with nothing improving?! Why ask why their are children out of wedlock. I used the protection I was given and it didn't work. And if there is a child out of wedlock, its meant to be here. God wouldn't put any child on earth if he didn't think it necessary. Why not ask questions like why are their so many divorces in the country this day... why do parents abandon their children? why are their serial killers? why worry about a child out of wedlock... if that child's getting proper care, then who cares. All that baby needs is love and someone to take care of it. And I plan on doing all that and more with my baby. I think theres more to be worried about this day and age than whether or not someones married when they have children.

Answer 7

I don't think it is the fact that there is no sham in out of wedlock children. I've had two children out of wedlock, with the same man,who lives with me and our children, and who I am now married to. I didnt want to get married, I was scarred, i was scarred when i got pregnant at 21, but I stepped up to my responsibility and so did my husband. Just because we didn't get married right away, doesn't mean we love each other less, or our children, or that we weren't faithful to each other. we just chose not to wed right away. I think that the divorce rate also scares some people.
In other cases, like that of teen pregnancy, i think kids get pregnant because they think it is cool. They want to show their friends that they are having sex, they are part of the in-crowd. what they don't realize is that a child is a very big thing.
Neither one of my kids were planned, they were both accidents from birth control. (one unknown broken condom, one failed new birth control pill.) but I figured god had a bigger plan for me and my family, All i had to do was step up to his challenge and not abort.

Answer 8

There are many reasons for this, a few of them could be marriage is not held in as high regard as it once was, women are better able to take car of them self and their children without the help of a husband, living together is much more common, a single woman who is pregnant is no longer looked down upon by society, and sexual relations outside of marriage have become common.

Answer 9

we are in a different age and I think if a child is brought into the world by two loving parents than thats all that matters- I had two out of wedlock and my boys have as much love as any other child, we have since married but I hated it when people would ask right away if you were married!

Answer 10

I agree with you. I am not saying I look down on people who do have babies outside of marriage because I got pregnant the first time (with my current husband) before I was married. I ended up having a miscarriage. I wish that I had never had sex before I was married, because at the time I didn't understand what kind of responsibilities were involved and the emotional rollercoaster sex and getting pregnant outside of marriage was. It also left me missing a vital part of what marriage is supposed to represent. I wanted to give something to my husband on our wedding night that he had never had before and I couldn't. Now that I am faced with being a parent again this time in marriage I understand that as a parent I have to teach my child that there is something wrong with sex outside of marriage. This may not be the 1300's anymore but just look around there is more stds and starving children and children having babies these days than ever before. I find it extreamly upsetting when I hear stories of 11 year olds who are sexually active. It doesn't set an example for children if adults are doing it as well and it is supposedly ok. I am sorry if I offend anyone but please don't think I am judging anyone I am just saying if we as adults change our behavior then maybe we could set examples for our children and reduce the numbers or stds and teenage pregnancy.

Answer 11

I believe that more and more people are having sex before marriage, and it's becoming more execptable. I had a child out of wedlock, and at first it was this big thing, now we are getting married 2 years later, and it seems like it was always supposed to happen this way.