I moved in with my boyfriend about 8 months ago and recently found out he is using chrystal meth. I want to leave so bad but I dont have the money to do so. Im scared to death of him. He is physically and mentally abusive. If I call the cops on him I will be homeless. He is extremely irrational and I know it's from the drugs. I have a job that holds me at a pretty high society level and I dont want anyone to find out that there are drugs in my house. I wear long sleaves in July to hide the bruises. Ive been trying to ride it out until I saved enough money but its gotten really bad. What do I do??
2007-07-09 14:25:51 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i was in the same situation a few years ago. i left with a backpack and 2 kids--no car. a friends parents let us stay with them for a while so i could save up some money. he died last june. get out while you can. wanna talk i am here. he will take you down to. there are shelters call the crisis hotline in your area
2007-07-09 14:52:15 · answer #1 · answered by jenni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a shelter for abused women or something -- you need to get out. Is there any way you can go to your parents'? What about an aunt, uncle, cousin -- anybody. Also, get a restraining order right away. This is not something to mess around with. My best friend worked in a shelter for victims of domestic violence -- you need to get out. Now. You may be scared, but you're only stuck if you let yourself be. You are not in a country where anyone will make you stay in this position except yourself and your fear.
2007-07-09 14:30:45 · answer #2 · answered by mj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will only drag you down with him! You are a strong independent person and you don't need a man who will drag you down with him. Call the cops, they'll help you. Call a drug problem center or rehabilitation center they could help your terifying boyfiend. If you don't want him anymore after he cleans up then leave. Contact your family or a shelter for battered women maybe even a friend to stay with and then stay with them until you can get up on your feet. Don't use your friends or family as a crutch though. If that happens, then you will never get back up on your feet. Don't be affraid to call for help. An addictee is not worth dying for :( Get Out NOw.
2007-07-09 14:59:30 · answer #3 · answered by smartlady2028 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not stuck, you are choosing to stay. You are a grown woman with a good job (according to you). Do you have any friends or relatives you can stay with? If not go to your local womens shelter or planned parenthood and they will be able to help you or put you in contact with with people who can help you. Once you are out call the police and tell them about the drug activity.
Your boyfriend can not make any rational decisions because his brain is messed up from the drugs. It won't get better, only worse and he may kill you while high.
2007-07-09 14:33:50 · answer #4 · answered by alisjohnst 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about what's worse. The possibility of people finding out that you live with a meth-head or ending up in the hospital or worse? I don't know where you are from but in most areas there are women's shelters you could go to if you have no family nearby.
2007-07-09 14:35:19 · answer #5 · answered by theoriginalquestmaker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to leave him immediately. If the police come to the house and find the drugs, you would be held responsible as well as your boyfriend. In other words you would end up in jail. You have to get out of the situation. Stay with somebody else until you can get yourself situated. There's always a way out. You just have to realize the seriousness Legally of your situation.
2007-07-09 14:34:24 · answer #6 · answered by Cherokee Billie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to get out. He could kill you, and being homeless is better than being dead.
There are, however, always alternatives, you probably are just so freaked out you aren't seeing them all. Obviously I don't know you, but surely you could do one of these:
1. check into a motel/hotel - if you have a high society job, you can afford Motel 6 till you get on your feet.
2. move in temporarily with a friend or family member.
3. Turn him in, have him arrested and stay in his place until you are forced to move or have enough money for your own place.
4. go to a battered women's shelter.
You owe it to yourself to get out tonight and move on. Anyone with a meth habit is capable of just about anything, and if he's already been physically abusive, then he could easily cause serious injury to you.
Leave tonight!
2007-07-09 14:33:06 · answer #7 · answered by whiskeyman510 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you know what, you need to get out of there as fast as you can. call the cops, tell them about your situation, they might help with your housing issues. you could go to a relatives house, friends, neighbors, im sure there are places for you to go.
stop worrying about the money, just keep yourself safe!! and as far away from him as possible
also, how can you have a good job and no money? i think that is what that means, im not sure what a high society level job is
2007-07-09 14:33:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're in a risky relationship anyway - you might as well call the cops on him and take the plunge to get yourself out!
Hanging around this addict ISN'T going to help you at all.
Do you have friends or ANYBODY you trust that you can stay with until you can put your life back together?
DO NOT STAY WITH HIM ANOTHER NIGHT, he is bad bad bad bad news for you!
Good luck!
2007-07-09 14:33:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you stay with a friend or family? I would do anything to get out of that situation if I were you. Maybe they could give you an advance at work and you could rent a new apartment. Get out before he does something really bad to you.
2007-07-09 14:30:05 · answer #10 · answered by asldfkjdfj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋