ok heres what happened. my best friend had a crush on my boyfriend, but like any good friend she never said anything to me about because she could see how happy we where together. so when we took a break....i guess they started going out, but she didnt know we where back together so when she found out she broke up with him, and she was suposed to tell me, and i wouldnt have been mad because it was an acident and she didnt know. but she never told me, so my other friend told me and then i tryed talking to my boyfriend about it and he got all upset and denied the whole thing. but my friend that went out with him says it totaly true, and i dont think eaither one of them would lie to me, but if one says its true and one says its not, so someone has to be lieing, but who. i love my boyfriend and want to be able to trust him but i also trust my best friend. i dont know what to do.
2007-07-09 12:52:26 · 20 answers · asked by haylee k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sounds like both of them are lying to you. Your best bet is probably to trust the other friend (the one that DIDN'T go out with your boyfriend).
2007-07-09 12:56:53 · answer #1 · answered by Alecto 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-21 23:41:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If shes truly your bestfriend and you are hers then why does it matter if they went out while you two were seperated? and if you truly love him you'll love him no matter if it happened. When couples break up they often see other people, even each others best friends. Let things go thats all in the past now. Then only reason you should have to choose between them is if one or both of them gave you an ultimatum then the anwser would be simple- if she is your best friend she would never tell you its her or him and same goes for if he truly loves you. ultimatums like these show the true side of a person. so unless one of them has given you an ultimatum let it go - all you are doing right now is hurting both you, your best friend and your boyfriend. let the past stay where it belongs IN THE PAST.
2007-07-09 13:03:30 · answer #3 · answered by amazon691 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about who has a reason to lie. What reason would your friend lie to you about this unless she is trying to break you up or make you jealous? Most likely your boyfriend is lying. However, a true friend would not date someone you've just recently been dating, even if you break up - at least not without discussing with you first, so she would have some work to do to regain my trust.
2007-07-09 12:57:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, this one's easy. For one, you should always trust your best friend. A guy should never come in the middle of that. A guy can cheat, but a friend cant. Plus she said she did it, and she wouldnt admit to a truth that wasnt true now would she? Only reason she was hiding it was cause she thought youd be mad. But when u asked her about it, she told the truth.
Now your bf lied cause he thought youd dump him. And I honestly think you should. Trust your girls, suga. Theyll neva treat u wrong, even when guys r doing it left and rite.
2007-07-09 12:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boyfriends come and go, but best friends should be for life. If they are not going to be honest about it tell them both you want nothing more to do with them until one of them owns up and admits the truth about the incident. You dont want to lose your best friend but i am sure the same can be said of your boyfriend. Ask yourself who is most likely to lie to you?
2007-07-09 12:58:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's like guys say
"bros before hoes"
but in your case it's sumthing like
"friends are forever boys are what ever"
trust yer Best friend if u know her truly well and you know that she wouldn't lie to you..
you can't always trust everybody even though you want to but I can't tell you what to do.All I can tell you is follow your gut, make a choice you wont regret later on and good luck!
=)
2007-07-09 13:35:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask another really good friend if that happened to me. It's better to hear the TRUTH from someone whose not caught up in the whole thing like your best friend and boyfriend.
2007-07-09 14:23:07 · answer #8 · answered by Leah M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was such a good friend she would have stayed away from him. True friends don't date bf's ex's or present boyfriend or girlfriends. And by the way you can't trust either one of them!
2007-07-09 12:58:34 · answer #9 · answered by butterfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your a true "best friend" than you'd choose your best friend. Boys are never gonna be there for you for ever
2007-07-09 12:56:20 · answer #10 · answered by ♥iloveyou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋