MY BOYFREIND!!!!! is this normal or he just have great morals?? BUT WAIT.... MORE TO THE QUESTION.......!!!!!!

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MY BOYFREIND!!!!! is this normal or he just have great morals?? like what 14 YEAR GUY DOESNT WANT TO?????

my boyfriend says he is terrified to have sex because he is afraid of getting AIDS or STD or HIV or another sexually transmitted disease. his friends kidd and tease him about it but he still says hes gonna wait and have sex when HES ready to have sex. he said he WANTS to but hes not READY. i know he has a good head on his sholders,but is this weird or is my boyfriend just responcible with good morals?

i have more to add,

well my boyfriend is emo and people tease him and call him a fag because hes emo and doesnt want to have sex, like i said in the question above... and hes not gay, thats for sure, but what can i do to make him be more confident about his freinds teasing him? som of his ex gfs gave BJ's to his friends and a lot of his freinds and peers are having sex. what do i do to reasure him he is makin a good decision and his freinds arnt?

no no no! im not PUSHING him to have sex. im trying to support him.

he doesnt talk to his dad and his mom didnt talk to him about STD's. its his own decision.

Answer 1

It sounds like your bf is really mature - especially to be so convinced of what he wants to do even tho his friends are pressuring him and teasing him. Just continue to respect him for sticking up for what he believes in - he's protecting you too. There's too many 14 year olds on here getting pregnant. And let his friends know that you can get STD's and AIDS from bj too.

The truth is - he probably really wants to do it, he's just trying to stay strong and do the right thing. Support him and you're supporting yourself, too.

Answer 2

You can show him this post. I kept my virginity until college, and wish I'd held out longer. Being afraid of STD's is much better than sleeping around. Also, sex is better when you are physically, emotionally, and spiritually ready for it. The silly people at your school are going to regret sleeping around in the future, especially when the first, second, or third round of diseases floats through. There will be unplanned pregnancies and pain that they aren't ready for and never expected. Your boyfriend is more intelligent and mature than the others. Stick with him and tell him that it is great to hear about a 14 year old that is willing to do the right thing and stand by his decision.

Answer 3

14 years old is really young to have sex. teenage years are really hard. He will just have to get htrough it like all the other pressured kids. reassure him that you BOTH should wait. It is not a game and should not be taken lightly. He could gets an STD or get you pregnant. Even if you take precautions such as birth control and condoms. Be careful. and WAIT!

Answer 4

Okay I'm happy to hear that you aren't pushing him to have sex...as for helping him feel he is not wrong in his decision, is to just make sure he knows hat you respect his choice and don't care what other people say, you know that they are just stupid lies from more than stupid people.......that's all you can do....because you know it would be pointless to try and make his friends cut the crap, it sounds like they are really big jerks and telling them off would most likely just make it worse.......just quietly make it known that you think your boyfriend is right in this and let those jerks know you support you boyfriend, I mean that if the subject comes up, you know, don't be all loud and in-your-face, because that is exactly what people like that (meaning the ones that do the teasing), want, to get a rise out of you...just know you are better than that and support you boy 100%........I hope that is at least a tinsy bit helpful.....your boyfriend sounds like a real stand-up guy..... ;)

Answer 5

i think he's wise to say that you should be like him
and if you really need s*x now and will do something wrong if you don't have it then tell him that and tell him that you will make an analysis to make sure that you are both healthy and if he still doesn't agree then that could be a sign of
his love to you is decreasing
there is another girl
or he has a se*ual problem
tell him that you are in love with each other and every one should talk to the other about his problems maybe he can solve it
tell me the results i'll wait for your e-mail
best of luck

Answer 6

I wouldnt worry about what others are saying. It takes more maturity to wait then to give away freely what should be reserved for seriously commited relationships later in life. Does he have good morals, sounds like hes on the right path to me.

Answer 7

If you've reached the stage of telling each other you love each other, keep telling him that you love him for his decision, and that he's right for being safe with you. You should feel very special for having a guy like that. A lot of girls don't want to do it, but feel pressured by their guy and give in so her won't break up with her. Hang out with him, alone, and talk to him how your feel about his decision. He defiantely needs a great kiss for that decision. Tell him that you DON'T think it's weird and tell him it's responsible of him to think like that.

Good luck with love. ♥

Answer 8

Ok, first off, your boyfriend is great. It's very mature of him to not be having sex when he's not ready. That shows respect for himself and respect for you(as his girlfriend).If he brings it up some more, just tell him that he's doing the right thing. Seriously, I would be so glad to have a guy like him. Don't worry about it.

Answer 9

Tell him if they were truly his friends that they would not tease him. Sex is not something to enter into lightly. Obviously his parents instilled a fear of STDs in him, which is a good thing. There are STDs that can kill you and some that are not curable, so he is just looking out for himself, and his future partner/wife.

Answer 10

no there's nothing wrong with him. he probably just wants to wait till marriage to keep a sexual bond strong. he might just be using STD's as an excuse. there's nothing wrong with waiting will marriage to have sex. the best thing you could do is support him with his views. And if his friends are making fun of him then he should tell him that at least he doesn't follow everything everyone else does and he has morals and he sticks to them. you should be proud of your boyfriend who's willing to be teased and stands up for himself.