What in the heeeell is wrong with me?

Question

I hate my job, but I never leave it or even try to get another job. What is wrong with me?!

i am a 27 year old female who has been at the same job for 7 long years. i am a receptionist at a computer software company. the benefits are great and i love the people that i work with, yet i hate my job. i dread coming every day and it takes every ounce of strenght not to wlak out every single day. i feel like i'm not good at anything. i never moved away from my hometown after high school. the firends i have now i've pretty much had all my life. i neevr went to college. how do you make a major change in your life when it's something that is so foreign to you?

Answer 1

I feel like chopped liver. I haven't known you your entire life....so see some things do change.

As for your job, in this area its very easy to get stuck in a halfway decent job since most jobs around here suck.

Come over to my house and we can watch the Secret. Maybe we can both get out of our ruts together.

Or you can go with me to the Palm Reader's house and she can divine the answers for you.

Answer 2

your stressing over something that you apparently do not have what it takes to change , and if your not going to change it, then you need to adjust to the fact that alot of people don't like their jobs, but some of the reason you would stay there is the money is good, you need the Insurance, Maybe pre-existing physical problems, it's closer to home, Your a senior citizen, and it would be hard to find another position, and there are bills to be paid. If non of these apply , then maybe your just a person who doesn't deal with change,

Answer 3

Most people hate jobs that fail to satisfy their brains, skills, imaginations, sense of accomplishment, need for challenge, need for variety, enough money or benefits, right working conditions, opportunities for career, recognition, job security, need for good management, or need to have pride in what they do. After all, most of us spend close to 50 years or 109,000 hours working and if we don't look forward to work most days, life is not a day at the beach.

As far as changing jobs, you need to know how you feel about change and how to go about it.

OK, what's wrong with you? Might be as simple as this...you know you have a problem with your job and need to solve it and aren't sure just how to get started. RELAX! Put together a plan about changing jobs, a plan that won't leave you up a creek because you didn't plan.

Look closely at yourself.

What do you want in a job (let your imagination go), what is your job missing (that is, what do you want from work that you aren't getting now? Do any of the things mentioned above fit)? What are your really good skills? Do those skills match a job you know about? Or do you need some additional skills. Match.Match.Match. Job requirements that you match with your current skills or with additional skills that you can match. What do have to have to get competitive?

Are there jobs where you work that suit you better? Do you trust the people where you work to talk things over with them?

RELAX! You're beginning to plan.

Most people look forward to change, particularly if they are in control; and in your situation, you know you do need to make a change. And that's the beauty of planning it; it makes you the agent of change, not somebody two floors up. You are in control of the kind, timing, frequency and magnitude of the change when you: Assess yourself, your skills, new skills you might need. Research jobs that match your skills. Identify
where are they? Determine the best way to compete for them? Do you know someone who has a job you want? and can you find from them how they got it?

Now here are few pointers:

Have patience. Work your plan. Have confidence and if
you need support along the way, seek out a close person
you can absolutely trust and talk things over with that
person.

Be absolutely candid with yourself about what kind of work
you want, whether you have the "stuff" to compete for it or
if you have the moxy and patience to pick up the "stuff"
you don't have. Take me, I want to be an NBA allstar and
makes loads of money, be recognized, beat up my
opponents and you say, "go ahead on, Ron S, all you gotta
do is be in the best shape of your life, go to basketball
school for 14 years, play in the playground league for two
more years, and compete with people who are 50 years
younger and 20 inches taller than you." And I
say, "riiight!"

Don't expect to find gold easy, or the first time. I'm not
saying it can't happen and I'm not saying you'll forever
chase around trying to improve your situation. It happens
both ways and in between.

Earlier, I said look at yourself. Now, again. How did you
get the job you now have?; how many other jobs have you
had? Did you plan to get this job, did it just happen, how
long have you been miserable in it?

Let me end by betting that if you want to make a change now, and put together an honest plan to make it happen, going to work will soon seem different to you somehow, not so like an 8 hour day that never seems to come to an end.

And better yet, you are bound to improve your situation
sooner, rather than later.

Answer 4

Nothing really. Millions feelthe same way you do. Either youre afraid to change or you like your job more than you think. Only you can change your situation and sooner or later something will happen to help you change it. You may not have discovered exactly what you really like to do yet so you havent decided what kind of job suits you best. Think about it and good luck

Answer 5

Nothing, you just love to hate your job. You're used to it. Maybe you're afraid of change?
Who knows!

Good luck!

Answer 6

You're a wimp! Get out while the getting is good! Try getting sexually harassed and sue their pants off!