Is the idea of relationships becoming more and more old fashioned?

Question

It seems these days monogamy and relationships have went by the wayside in exchange for "friends with benefits" and one night stands? Am I the only one anymore that believes in making a good friend out of someone and then slowly building a romantic relationship from that, that is monogamous?

Answer 1

I think relationships can unfortunately more times be "friends with benefits" and one night stands type things.

I don't want someone who wants me to take her out to dinner on weekends, expects me to service her sexually, buy her presents and then keep me at a distance. I want something real. One night stands are not real ... they are dangerous and increase the probability of getting a sexually transmitted disease. I do not whore myself to those type adventures like I did in my 20s and early 30s because I believe they are superficial and based on ego. I am not a player!

I was absolutely shocked as well as disappointed earlier this year. A good friend of mine cheated on her girl-friend. To me, that was so wrong even though the relationship was on the way out the door. They are broken up now but that is not the point. The "cheater" should have broken up first, then pursued her new interest. My expectations of finding a good, honest woman are not too strong. I know they exist but finding a compatible one is the hard part. Some people refuse to work on their issues and will continue to ignore or drag around excess baggage with them. I have seen them work themselves to death but refuse to look at the "elephant in the living room."

In my opinon, you have the right idea by wanting to make a good friend out of someone and then slowly build a romantic relationship from that ... and one that is monogamous.

Too many times people sleep with someone before really getting to know the person. I don't give my soul to people I do not know. I need to respect and have true, good-intentioned feelings for the woman. Sounds silly but I need to know her favorite color - things like that. It takes time to get to know someone.

Don't give up ... and stay true to your values. That will continue to make you feel good about yourself.

Best wishes!

Answer 2

My boyfriend and I met as a one night stand but now have been together for quite a while. I think that the dynamics of relationships and courting have changed but many people still believe in monogamy.

Answer 3

I'm with you, but I see that it's hard for people to hook up nowadays. People I know who have friends with benefits often want more than a shallow, possibly dangerous one-night stand, but don't have the current opportunity for a commitment. I don't blame them, but I personally cannot divide my relationships into platonic vs non-platonic. I'd rather simply have good friends until the right person comes along.

Answer 4

No, you are not the only one. I believe in those things as well. Unfortunately it seems that a major portion of society does not believe that and is all too eager to jump in the sack with just anyone. Guess we are just old fashioned my friend, but I believe that it makes for a happier future :)

Answer 5

Yes I think that is very true.

Most people talk about that is what they want but when they get it no one knows what to do with it since everyone has somewhat of a warped idea of a relationship. Wish that was different but I believe that is just the way it is.

Answer 6

I believe this too, but its hard nowadays!, I would love to meet someone go to dinner/movies. Sex isnt an issue isnt brought up. Get to know the person before the sex. In answer to your question i think it is dying the whole old fashioned relationship but i hope it wont.

Answer 7

I would assert that relationships have certainly not gone away. Monogamy hasn't either, although people are exploring more than one route to happiness in their relationships - whether gay/straight/or bi.

Reyn

Answer 8

I sure hope not. I'm in a relationship. Hell, once I tried "friends with benefits," and *that* turned into a relationship!

Answer 9

indexed under are some issues jointly with your premise: * human beings, the two women and adult males, at the instant are not under pressure for monogamy. Monogamy is a culturally discovered habit (not something incorrect with monogamy - in basic terms not confusing under pressure for it). *no count if admitted or not women look on the choice intercourse in basic terms as much as adult males statistically speaking. *Open relationships are initiated greater by using women than adult males (not so plenty greater yet statistically important greater) *Making those overly generalized statements to physique the questions you asked does not something to be greater descriptive for the respond you're finding for. you want monogamy and your boyfriend does too so the subject concerns for you should end there. although the two one in all you want monogamy, the two one in all you, on occasion will look at human beings. it incredibly is in basic terms organic and says not something on the subject of the dating the two one in all you have. women and adult males the two think of sexually and you will too (not that "adult males think of with their youknowhat"). that's the character of human beings to realize this, not in trouble-free terms adult males (even though it greater socially suited for adult males to confess it). women cheat statistically in basic terms as much as adult males even although the uncomplicated false impression is that adult males cheat greater.

Answer 10

i do like the "old ways" of courting a woman but i'm young.. i like having fun, but twhn the time comes i'l slow down and settle with someone...