Question for gay community?

Question

Are there any homosexuals out there who are against gay marriage legislation the same way some women were against the ERA? If so why?

Answer 1

Not me, I'm for it.

It will be good for me, my partner and society as a whole. Equality for all has proved to be a good thing, not a bad thing.

I'm confident that, when gay marriage is tried in a state or two, it will prove successful. _Good_ for marriage: a step toward re-establishing marriage's preeminent role in American society. And so other states will adopt it.

And gay people will get not just legal marriage but social marriage as well. Which is like getting a bicycle instead of a unicycle.

Answer 2

I don't think they should call it marriage. It should just be called equal partnership or whatnot. But, if they do decide to call it marriage, whatever...not a big deal. It's just that the dictionary defines marriage as between a man and woman.

Also, I wouldn't ever want to get married. I'm just against marriage in general. I think it has a lot to do with the way you're raised - my whole life I looked at how unhappy my mom and dad are together, and I'd never want that for myself.

Answer 3

The answers here so far seem to reflect disenchantment with marriage as a whole, not just for same-sex couples.

There is a definite difficulty to remaining married, particularly with longer lifespans, people changing careers 1-3 times in a life-time, the option of children. Marriage longevity becomes based on individuals' values, not a cultural norm. Margaret Mead, the renowned anthropologist used to say, "I've had three marriages, each one successful."

This kind of thinking can help people develop a broader framework for marriage. I still believe in "until death do us part." (And indeed, I lost my second partner to cancer during our 12th year together.) However, my first relationship broke up after 7 years because of incompatibility & infidelity.

Now that marriage and civil unions are available (I live in New England, where we're becoming more and more uniform in our approach to same-sex partner rights), the question of what a coupling looks like is becoming more public. Same-sex couples tend to be more egalitarian than opposite-sex couples, they tend to have better communication, and they tend to endure infidelity more easily. Opposite-sex couples tend to emphasize children more, since they can often come by them without special arrangements.

The issue of same-sex marriage is actually expanding, in spite of the efforts within many Bible-belt states to outlaw them. The issues of civil rights will continue to fester, just as the have with women, with ethnic minorities, and with the poor. People who must live next to others who are denied the rights that they have begin to feel somehow life is unfair, and often they will begin to seek to equalize those rights. As gay & lesbian couples are more apparently neighbors, and more often suffer from the lack of rights, then the rest of the country will become more accepting of a legal arrangement to ensure those rights.

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Answer 4

I say gay community. "Queer" implies, by its very definition, something amiss or wrong. Why would you want to use a term that means strange or skewed? I'm straight and I'd never call any of my gay friends queer. It's a horrible word. I'd think gay people would have a little more sense than that.

Answer 5

I am. I think its just, weird. I mean, I'm gay, and I'm accept that. But ONE of the main intents of marriage is to start a family. You can't really do that with a gay marriage. It just seems so fake, and marriage needs to be taken more seriously these days.

Answer 6

I'm not for it or against it. I think it's a personal decision and shouldn't be legislated one way or the other, certainly not to the extent of being addressed in a constitutional amendment.

Answer 7

I cannot fathom why anyone would actively campaign to get their equal rights taken away.

I have heard one line of thinking that "we are asking for too much" by not settling for civil unions and the like. Sorry, but the last time I checked the Constitution, it said that ALL citizens deserved the SAME rights - including the 1000+ rights that go with marriage. 'Separate but equal' is always separate but never equal.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

I have been in a relationship for 27 years and I see no need for some bureaucrat to legalize it. I fail to see why we would want to imitate a failed institution.

Answer 10

I am. I don't see the point (from a personal view) of marriage. I understand that there are many that want the right to marry...to each their own. I come from a very broken home...father married 3 times, mom is on #7 (go team!!)....all my sisters have been divorced at least once...i know only one family that has stayed together...at it's not for love.....

I think that a partnership is better than a marriage contract...just the words send shivers down my spine.....

ALSO....the american society isn't ready for same-sex marriages....if we put it to a vote today..it wouldn't win....