2007-07-09 10:22:26 · 18 answers · asked by I_color_outside_the_lines 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
The person doing this to you isn't good enough to be your friend or your lover. Move on, honey....
2007-07-09 10:30:24 · answer #1 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes being a good friend means more than being a lover. I started dating my best friend after years of classifying him as just a "good friend". The reason it took so long to get with him on that level is because I knew how jaded I had become and had been through some awful relationships. I was scared that somehow something would change and I would ruin something that was sacred to me. after all lovers come and go (no pun...) but friendship is lasting.
2007-07-09 10:31:09 · answer #2 · answered by elyra d 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your "friend" isn't attracted to you. You need to move on or do something to get his attention. It is impossible to be perfect to someone. You have to decide if it is worth your time or if he is just going to string you along until he/she gets what he/she wants. You could start by acting like this and not getting too caught up in the dynamics of this self loathing / hero worship. It's not attractive. Some people have unrealistic standards of who their type and they will probably never be happy with anyone so if you enjoy being around someone like this then go for it. Don't be so open about yourself, create a mystery persona and don't be like a little squid that just keeps taking this kind of abuse.
2007-07-09 10:49:26 · answer #3 · answered by SweetKisses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly some people make better friends then a b/f or g/f. I have had friends like that. It is usually the really cool and fun ones that don't work out in a relationship. Plus if you have known the person forever and grew up together it makes things different. That person might see you more of like a little sister. Since you can't force anyone into a relationship I would just accept thier friendship.
2007-07-09 10:27:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you are trying to be a lover to the wrong people?? Maybe you should be a good freind and stop worring about getting into someones pants. The right person will come along and you will be a great lover. Just wait. It's worth the wait.
2007-07-09 10:26:48 · answer #5 · answered by Windy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's how you tell someone they aren't hot enough. Although I have to say it is really annoying when a good friend wants it to be something more. Good Friends are Gold, Good Lovers a Dime a Dozen.
Sorry, just being blunt.
2007-07-09 10:26:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
because they are not interested in you "that way," but don't want to completely blow you off, since your friendship still means something to them.
It's perfectly possible to be a "lover" with no friendship whatsoever (plenty of folks do THAT), but the opposite is actually a lot more work, so maybe in a way it's a sort of a compliment. Otherwise, they'd just tell you to get lost.
2007-07-09 10:25:44 · answer #7 · answered by Izzy F 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being someones lover will make you selfish and you will think only about yourself. Be a good friend and love all.
2007-07-09 10:30:21 · answer #8 · answered by its me 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I usely have have the same prob, they get to know me then f^ck me then move on... we still good friends but man that was a awesome ride =)
2007-07-09 10:38:14 · answer #9 · answered by Airstrike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the person you are after is too shallow and is hanging on to you while looking out for something better! Move on and find someone who loves you for you!
2007-07-09 10:25:56 · answer #10 · answered by meedebi 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋