thinking patterns???

Question

what are some similarities between ppl that are always yoyo dieting?? i was reading in an NLP neuro-lingistic programming) book and they were talking about something called "away from" and "towards" kind of ppl?? any tips??

Answer 1

It sounds like these are people who have a tough time making decisions or committing to any one thing or direction because of the emotional cost of such a decision/commitment. It's like people who relate to others romantically with the same yo-yo pattern: come here, go away, come here, go away. They find something attractive about the other person, but some internal "alarm" (if you will) pushes them in the opposite direction of their attraction. They want to be *around* that person, but don't want to be *with* that person. Get what I mean?

Basically, it's a safety or defense mechanism. Anything that hints at getting too close to the real person inside is considered a threat. Many people are uncomfortable with revealing themselves in any true or honest way. They let people get only so close, preferring to keep them "at arm's length." This way, their true emotional, psychological, spiritual etc. identity cannot be revealed, and therefore, the person cannot be hurt. (Revealing oneself doesn't necessarily mean a person is going to be hurt. However, NOT revealing onself guarantees they won't. I don't truly believe that, but that's the unconscious thought process of such a person.)

Yo-yo dieting, I suspect, is a similar phenomenon. I'm sure you've heard that people who are really overweight, or morbidly obese, remain that way as a defense mechanism. Quite literally they keep people at arm's length by virtue of the fact of their size. The more fat that accumulates on the body, the more emotionally *insulated* they feel. Who wants to genuinely know a fat person, right? (By the way, that is NOT how I think or feel about large people. I'm just writing what I know to be a typical thought process of an obese person.)

Any diet is begun because the dieter feels overweight to a particular degree. Yo-yo dieters may experience the psychological conflict of, "I want to be thin," "I don't want to be hurt." The juxtaposition of the two thoughts may keep them in a self-defeating loop of dieting and binging.

Does this make sense?

Answer 2

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder:

http://www.chinapage.org/story/beauty.html

"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" - Origin:

This saying first appeared in the 3rd century BC in Greek. It didn't appear in its current form in print until the 19th century, but in the meantime there were various written forms that expressed much the same thought. In 1588, the English dramatist John Lyly, in his
Euphues and his England, wrote:

"...as neere is Fancie to Beautie, as the pricke to the Rose, as the stalke to the rynde, as the earth to the roote."

Shakespeare expressed a similar sentiment in Love's Labours Lost, 1588:

Good Lord Boyet, my beauty, though but mean,
Needs not the painted flourish of your praise:
Beauty is bought by judgement of the eye,
Not utter'd by base sale of chapmen's tongues

Benjamin Franklin, in Poor Richard's Almanack, 1741, wrote:

Beauty, like supreme dominion
Is but supported by opinion

beauty is in the eye of the beholderDavid Hume's Essays, Moral and Political, 1742, include:

"Beauty in things exists merely in the mind which contemplates them."

The person who is widely credited with coining the saying in its current form is Margaret Wolfe Hungerford (née Hamilton), who wrote many books, often under the pseudonym of 'The Duchess'. In Molly Bawn, 1878, there's the line "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder".

http://www.phrases.org.uk/meanings/59100.html

Have you ever noticed that good looking girls usually hang out together with other good looking girls, but when it come to couples the lousiest looking guy dates a Pretty girl and mostly vice versa too.

http://anthonysmirror.blogspot.com/2005/11/beauty-is-in-eyes-of-beholder.html

Beauty in eyes of beholder, study confirms:

WASHINGTON: When it comes to something pleasant, it seems that the phrase "easy on the eyes" may hold more truth than earlier believed, for a study has found that objects or people appear more attractive when the mind can process their looks faster.

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/2037080.cms

Scientists ponder beauty and the eye of the beholder:
Evidence increasingly suggests the human brain is hard-wired for aesthetics.

http://www.sigidiart.com/Docs/beauty.htm

I will give a simple explanation of my own. I will go to a blind man and
describe the beauty of a top cine actress. Can any amount of description
make him realize how beautiful she is? He needs eyes to see and understand
for him self.

When candles are off, all women are fair!