so i'm 24 weeks pregnant... and my husband has been (ever so slowly) cutting down on how much we have sex. we went from doing it at LEAST once a day, to (if i'm lucky) maybe once a week. well it's been almost THREE WEEKS, and last night i straight up asked him what the hell is wrong?! he admitted: it just feels weird. i feel like i'm humping Abby (what we're naming her).
shot. down. what the hell?! so what, now i have to wait until November to have sex again?! possibly December?!?!?!? UGH! has this happened to any of you ladies? what did you do? i mean, i feel insecure enough already because i've lost my 18-year-old body, and now i have a little belly... and my face looks different, and i just feel gross all the time (i used to feel really good about myself)... but now that i know he wont sleep with me, i kind of want to cry. this sucks. :(
somebody make me feel better? even my pregnant best friend (who's 28 weeks) is getting more action than me!!! :(
2007-07-09 09:16:33 · 21 answers · asked by termite choking on the splinters 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Haha! sorry to laugh but the same thing has happend to me! i was around 15-30 week's i wanted sex ALL THE TIME!! BUT my feioncee didnt becasue he said it felt like he was having sex with the baby..most guys think that if you have sex the further along you are your going to hurt the baby..just tell him that it's okay to do it and tell him that the constant pushing in and out will put her to sleep..the baby axuilly likes it when you make love..and when you get further along you not even like the sound of sex any more! you wont even want to see him naked!.!but when you hit the 38-39 week mark your going to do it any wayse becasue by that time your tyerd of being pregnant and every one's telling you to walk and have sex to make the baby come out!..ive been trying that for the past week!!!
2007-07-09 10:02:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the Bible, there's a bodily detail to the whole thing and a non secular detail to the whole thing. Just like we now have a frame and a soul, the whole thing has a bodily and a non secular. The bodily detail is the sword, the non secular is the phrase. So sure, you might say that the phrase of God reduce off the ear, however what does this imply? Does this imply that God's phrase could make any person's ears open and likewise make one more's ears closed? Yet, it's intereting that Jesus used to be in a position to heal that ear, hence making the character be in a position to spiritually listen. These are the matters that we must think of if we're to realise the which means at the back of the bible. Good paintings.
2016-09-05 21:17:40 · answer #2 · answered by jahna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a personal choice for you both. If he feels uncomfortable, pressuring him will only push him away.
To be honest with you, you should feel lucky that you've even gotten as much as you've had. Plus, he's still around to cuddle with. My husband is on deployment in the persian gulf and has been since the first trimester when I was too sick to even think about wanting to make love. Now that I'm back in the mood he's gone and when he gets back it'll be just after the baby is born and we'll have to wait until I heal up again. Not to mention when we'll find teh time with a new baby in the house. So neither he nor I have had any action at all for the last 6 months of my pregnancy. Yes, 6 months.
Just remember, you're not fat, you're pregnant and you're beautiful. Your man still loves you, this is just a strange time of transition for you both. You're creating a new life and that is something very special. Spend time together. Cuddle. Hug. Be patient and understanding. Talk. All will turn out well in the end.
Best of luck to you!
2007-07-09 09:50:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 24 weeks as well, and my husband and I just have trouble finding positions that are comfortable so we don't have sex much either.
Most guys do think its weird, but explain to your husband your baby has no idea what is going on.
Your lucky you were getting it once a week. That is what we went from (my husband works nights and I work days) to when ever I am not freaking exhausted (which is rare now).
Don't think of yourself as unattractive, because I am sure that is not the reason for it at all! Your body is changing, but for something wonderful! I weigh more now than I ever have in my life, however, I feel more attractive and more feminine now than ever before. Your body will go back to normal. Remember pregnancy is temporary, not forever :)
2007-07-09 09:25:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if it makes you feel any better I'm 34 weeks and I'm not getting any either. I'm the opposite to you, since I felt my baby move it just turned me right off, luckily my poor husband understands ;-) some men get really turned on by pregnant women and others would rather not go there but it's nothing to get upset over really, you'll get back to normal once the baby is born, don't take it personally hun. Wait till you get a bit bigger you will probably be grateful that your hubby's not up for it, I've recently got a groin strain and I'm in agony with it so even if I wanted to have sex I couldn't!
2007-07-09 09:56:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't have kids yet, but I can imagine it would feel weird. I'm actually a little worried about not wanting sex myself later for that same reason. If he's willing, find research that says that sex is totally healthy during pregnancy. A lot of men have the fear of hurting the baby, too. Just try to talk it out. Don't tell him it's silly or anything...it's a legitimate thing. That is tough. I hope he comes around for you. Tell him how you're feeling, nicely. communication never hurts.
BTW, you and your BF are pregnant together!? that's so cool! I hope I get that! We can be crabby together....sychronized mood swings etc.
2007-07-09 09:29:34 · answer #6 · answered by Dj 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i sorta went through the same thing. Im 19 and lost my body but my husband (26) found me very attractive even after i gained 30 lbs. But the whole time i thought he was cheating and all sorts of things all because i was sooo insecure. what i would do (and what i do now when ever my husband is to tired from work) ask him to sleep naked and rape him while hes sleeping. chances are he will wake up to you getting him hard or inserting him in you and it will probably turn him on that you went through the effort to get what you want and not setteling. plus the darkness will cover up your belly.
plan B tell him hes a sicko for even thinking that and give him an ultimatum... you have sex with me or else im going to go and find someone who will!! according to my husband lots of guys think that its sexy especially when you are confident about it!!
plan c go to an adult shop!! need i say more!
good luck and keep in touch ifd youd like im full of advice on babies!! and men!! and about the same age! once again good luck
2007-07-09 09:29:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could always just force him to have sex... Tie him down and force him. LOL! That's what I would do. However, I'm on the opposite side of the spectrum. I kind of don't feel like having sex that much anymore. And I'm 24 weeks pregnant as well. Guess we're all different!
2007-07-09 10:17:27 · answer #8 · answered by FunnyValentine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel!!! I have a 6 1/2 month old, but my husband and I went through that same thing. It was just weird for him. It took a while even after the baby and I said it was ok to do it again. There are somethings that he doesn't do to me anymore either that used to be favorite things. Men just get weirded out! LOL!
2007-07-09 09:22:41 · answer #9 · answered by mom2rhylee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had your problem. I am thirty weeks pregnant and the last thing I want to do is have sex. There is just too much pain and pressure down south. My husband still wants it and I feel bad for turning him down. I was thinking about having my OBGYN write me a no sex excuse!
2007-07-09 09:21:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋