only ever meet people that have been through the same as me and have friends only that have endured what i have, and that the doors will be closed on me to meet and develop relashionships with other types of people to?
certain doors in society and certain types of people wont be accessable to me? certain people wont be available to me to have relashionships with?
2007-07-09 08:05:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
this thought to me fills me with a jaw clenching rage, to consider a notion like this happening to me.
2007-07-09 08:06:53 · update #1
No bodies life is preordained or decided, life is what you make it to be you feel all of these pains and traumas like weights holding you in one spot. You and only you can make your life what ever you want it to be. If you don't pay attention to your flaws you will soon forget they exist and then begin to recover from all your problems. I f you walk up to a stranger on the street they can't tell if you have any problems, but if you act like something is wrong with you people will start to wonder why you act like you have a problem. When I started to recover I did make friends with people who had similar problems and that was OK in fact they were normal people like me who just had to work out a few problems just like me. People all have problems and different traumas that they had to work through just like you. If you do meet someone who has the same problems as you that isn't a bad thing, I have found that they are generally more understanding and helpful because they have had the same situations and know how I felt. So don't be so quick to judge people or yourself everybody has problems, makes mistakes and is just out to make a better life for themselves. Normal is the setting on a dryer and can not be used as a guide to determine where a person stands in life.
2007-07-09 16:23:05 · answer #1 · answered by stacey b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not true. You can have a very full, exciting life filled with all different kinds of people in it. You can be happy in all different kinds of relationships because there are good people out there that will understand you and love you for who you are. There is so much more about you than BPD--it doesn't have to run your life. Just the fact that you are asking this question means that there's something in you that wants more, that wants to break free, and you can have it!
=)
2007-07-09 15:12:30 · answer #2 · answered by SlenderMillie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are doors closed to all of us. Most people only want to deal members of their class. I have been looking for that person, the one puts you into your class. I have also listen to people who think they are better, some are not Christians. Hope the weather is better over there, my fish are coming to the surface looking for a.c.
2007-07-09 16:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by Coop 366 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goodness, who ever told you this didn't explain it very well. I think what they meant was that you tend to surround yourself with people you can relate with or to. You usually pick your friends that are like yourself in some way. Everyone has a possiblity of being accessible to you, it's just what you make of it.
2007-07-09 15:17:21 · answer #4 · answered by All Smiles 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have Bipolar Disorder and have friends who hold or have held positions in public office (i.e., Mayors), Doctors, University Professors, and Law Enforcement. I have been personally involved in local government for many years.
2007-07-09 20:13:15 · answer #5 · answered by SapphireSeaFairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No - there is no reason why you shouldn't have friends from all different backgrounds and groups as long as you take your medication to control your disorder and dont limit yourself as to whom you mix with.
One of my dearest friends has BPD, he has many friends from work, many friends from church, other friends from other sources and has just started seeing a lovely lady who doesn't have BPD.
It's up to you to be friendly and plesant so people want to know you.
2007-07-09 15:15:41 · answer #6 · answered by bri 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It will be much harder for you to have relationships with people who aren't ill. Friends breed friends. Popularity breeds popularity. If you have no friends people won't want to be your friend because all life is a harsh competition for everything. If you have plenty of friends already you'll find more friends lining up all the time.
Also if you have no friends and no job and no girlfriend you'll have little to talk about to a prospective friend and no one will want to know you because you can't afford to go anywhere with them as another reason.
I'll get plenty of thumbs down for this because people want you to feel better but i am similar to you with mental health problems and no friends, girl, job (though i have had some in the past) and I'm older than you.
2007-07-09 16:04:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
No. That is not true. You have to get control of your mind or it will have control of you. Put your mind on other things.
2007-07-09 15:14:40 · answer #8 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, thats crap.
you can meet and have relationships with whoever you want.
and you can actually make your experiences with pain and trauma work for you.
2007-07-09 15:12:46 · answer #9 · answered by yanceyholmes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋