What is between these two people? Are there any feelings from any side?
A guy wrote to a girl after she said she loved him: ''...You weren't open and honest, again and again you kept telling me and other people that all you wanted was friendship. And I felt bad that I was not really able to give you that friendship, because it felt somehow weird. But all you've been doing was lying. Don't get me wrong, I'd probably done the same, but how I should have made that clean cut if I was not sure it'd be necessary. You call me a coward, but what are you? A victim of your love?''
2007-07-09 07:54:47 · 5 answers · asked by Kitty C 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Sounds a bit one sided to me. The receiver of the note should leave the sender alone. He is obviously way too into himself to appreciate how she feels about him.
2007-07-09 08:05:35 · answer #1 · answered by pupcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl's feelings = love or some close facimille of it but not "real" love; Boy's feelings = cares enough for girl to write the note...not love but perhaps genuine caring...and feels betrayed by someone who deceived him!
I've seen this before (heck, I've experienced this before...from both sides). Sounds like the girl assured (and re-assured) the guy that she was looking for friendship only and then turned the tables and announced she was in love with him (probably as part of an emotional blackmail "but I love you" scheme given the tone of the reply). Guy was never interested in anything except friendship but didn't make that clear because he thought they were on the same page...however, his words indicate that he suspected something was wrong and hesitated to even be friends because he didn't want to encourage the girl's feelings.
The "A victim of your love" part is particularly catching...so many people are just that...when they forget the true nature of love and instead focus on emotions and selfish desires, they can become victims of that love. Love is patient, kind, and puts the other person first...if the girl REALLY loved the guy, she would have talked to him about her feelings the minute she realized they were changing from the friendship she claimed to want (assuming that claim wasn't part of a plot to get closer so she could "win" his love). More importantly, if (and when in this case), the guy made it clear that he wasn't interested in more, she would have accepted his feelings and not tried to make him feel guilty for not returning those feelings!
2007-07-09 15:20:49 · answer #2 · answered by KAL 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girl may have been hurt before and did not want to be hurt again. She told everyone she did not want a relationship, so she could avoid being hurt. A long came a guy that truly loved her. But she told him the same thing. He couldn't hide the way he felt. Even though It would hurt him so much to just be friends. He tried. But when he came to grip that he couldn't have her. She told him that it was a lie. You just didn't want to be hurt again. Now he feels betrayed, because she did not tell him the truth. Her love and fear was to blame for pain caused.
2007-07-09 15:56:47 · answer #3 · answered by Damian S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like confusion and infatuation from bothe sides.
teenage love?
i can analyse it using literature methods, but that might just be reading too deep into it. so just stick with my first impression
2007-07-09 15:00:43 · answer #4 · answered by bandawagon25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like the caveman says on the commercial..."UH... what?"
Really....just kiss and make up....life's too short!
2007-07-09 14:59:26 · answer #5 · answered by bumpusemt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋