what do you think of a guy who refuses to have sex befor marriage?

Question

Chaste guys. Do they exist ? If yes, what's your opinion of them ? The question is for both guys and girls.

Answer 1

Good for them. A component of a good marriage is sex, but it's not the only thing. Cuts back on unplanned pregnancies, angst, and STDs.

Answer 2

Remaining chaste prior to marriage is a personal choice, and if a man or woman so desires, then more power to them. It isn't a choice I would make again, I did before I was married, and it was for me a huge mistake. I prefer now to Know someone well before commiting to a long term relationship, and sexual practises is one of those important things to know.

Answer 3

Speaking as a chaste guy, yes, we do exist. As for what I think of them: I think their decision to stay chaste can help them avoid a lot of problems.

Answer 4

I believe it's noble that someone can really stick to their morals but I have a problem with it... and just from my personal experience.

I know after my first sexual experience I found it very hard to keep my mind from straying at the thought of "I wonder if it's different with someone else?" I needed to get that whole way of thinking out of my system before I was ready to settle down into a monogamous relationship. I didn't think it was fair to any partner or myself if I had these recurring thoughts on the subject.

Once I felt that I had experienced enough to figure out what it was that would make me happy, I was able to put my mind at ease and move forward.

Answer 5

I come from a Christian background, and I knew of some guys like that that existed. They intended to stay chaste. A lot of them couldn't do it, of course, but I think some did. And some just got married super early, like in college.

Answer 6

I think it's very responsible for a guy to make that promise to himself. The reason? Well, besides religious conviction, it's mainly to protect the girl's heart (and his own). He wants that moment to be special, and only with one person. I really look up to guys like that. I'm not having sex til I'm married, but I'm a girl. For girls, I think it's easier. When a guy says that, then you know he's a very strong guy. Hopefully he stays true to his word. He's thinking about the future. :)

Answer 7

That's a good thing. Sex breeds disease. A couple who learns to have sex together will have that in common and it will keep a lifelong commitment strong. So I think he is strong and has a lot of charactor. A good catch for any woman. And Girls, some advice if you had sex with other guys before him? keep it to yourself forever. he doesn't need to know Lie if he asks.

Answer 8

I couldn't do it, but I commend him for it. Everyone knows(whether they want to admit it or not) that is the way we should all be, so how can anybody insult, belittle or criticism someone for having the strength to stick to his principles, in a promiscuous society that treats sex like it's the most important thing in the world. I'm not as strong as him, so I have the utmost respect for his fortitude.

Answer 9

Here where I live kids sign an agreement with their parents that they will not have sex before marriage and they are committed to that. I think they are sensible, realistic, intelligent kids and they are planning for their future. Kudos to them, they have my respect. Yes they do exist.

Answer 10

Personally, I can't figure out why anyone, male or female, would want to do that. But, it is a matter of personal choice and if that is the choice that a person has made then it is up to them to live that way. Sex and love are basic human needs. Denying these to yourself isn't necessarily healthy. You wouldn't drive your car without oil, would you? It would run, but it wouldn't be healthy.