Boyfriend breaks up and says he needs Mental Clarity?
He broke up with me yesterday and then he said he needed some "mental clarity" and then he wanted to call me back in a couple of days. I dont think I need to answer the phone if he calls. I've received mixed responses on the same subject. So trying to see what people think. He knows I don't:
1. I'm NEVER friends with exes. (he knows that)
2. I'm NEVER friends with benefits with an ex
The quick background: my bf just broke up with me and then he mentioned that he wanted to call me in like a few days. He broke up with me for a variety of reasons but some of them were because of the drama our fights packed as well as other things he said. i said ok to be polite but im trying to figure out what would be the point as he knows i dont believe in friends with exes. So WHY would he want to call me? i havent decided yet if im gonna pick up if he does but im curious to get others opinions. Thanks! :)
2007-07-09 06:33:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
honestly to me whats the point. he said he needed "mental clarity". i feel like he couldve gotten mental clarity with a break, not a break up. he never actually came out and said it. i had to ask him if i was single. then he got snappy and was like yea do whatever you want.
2007-07-09 06:47:35 · update #1
He never said he want to BREAK UP those words. He said i want to SEE you im just not sure if I want to be WITH you. To me, THAT'S A BREAKUP! Lol
2007-07-09 06:48:56 · update #2
Write your thoughts down. Write him a letter asking him what he wants from you. Does he want a relationship, does he want to be friends. Tell him that if you're important to him, he should ask for time away for Mental Clarity, not for him to break up with you. People take time away from each other to get away. Breaking up.. is breaking up. While you're doing this, decide what you want from him. Do you want to be in a relationship with someone who is like this? How long have you been dating? Has it been years, or only a few months? Decide what you want when you're asking your questions. Did he say he was breaking up or just taking a few days to get Mental Clarity? Think about it... prioritize what you want.. then take an action to go after it.
2007-07-09 06:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by Blip B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because if he said he needed "mental clarity" then it was sort of a break to decide what he wants to do so when he calls you he might want to get back together or just talk about the relationship you guys had
i think you should answer the phone and see what he says and if you guys remain exs and you dont want to be his friend then tell him that and that will be the end of it ...not answering the phone sounds kind of rude so at least just answer this one time
can i ask why you arent friends with your exs ?
2007-07-09 13:44:18 · answer #2 · answered by riskybusiness 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Answer! Who knows? Something good might happen. I don't think he actually broke up with you. IF you want to have a nice, clean break-up, pick up the phone, and tell him so.
2007-07-09 20:04:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anthony C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is your phone, why hide yourself.. just tell him that he was right in wanting some mental clarity and now that you have yours, tell him that your moving on.. wish him well and good bye.
2007-07-09 14:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
it does sound like a break up, or maybe he is trying to see if you will fight for him ( a childish game, but it happens) if you don't pick up the phone, will you always be asking yourself what if????? if so, pick up the phone, see what he has to say - and you do not have to say ok to be polite, tell him how you feel...
2007-07-09 13:57:32 · answer #5 · answered by brandi 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Why create even more drama? Answer the phone and tell him you wish him well, but you're moving on. Why prolong things?
2007-07-09 13:42:17 · answer #6 · answered by clarity 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
On one hand I say don't talk to him. Clean break is easier.
On the other hand maybe he'll say something that will really tick you off and you will know why you don't want to talk to him...
But really don't pick up.
2007-07-09 13:43:44 · answer #7 · answered by Maria S 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Pick up the phone, but tell him if he doesn't want to have a relationship you can't be friends still and warn him that you won't pick up the phone from now on.
2007-07-09 13:45:54 · answer #8 · answered by missenthusiasm 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You had drama and had fights Why would you want to talk to him
Get his number blocked
2007-07-09 13:49:33 · answer #9 · answered by aaricka 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes, I need to talk to you.
2007-07-09 16:54:28 · answer #10 · answered by photoguy1967 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋