I've been hurt countless times in the past years and am losing all my hope. Please help. I am very depressed and often suicidal-is there anyone else who's had a similar experience?
2007-07-09 05:56:20 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Im sorry youre hurting. Hmmm... I think the thing to do is look at the guys who have hurt you and see if you can see what they have in common. Maybe youre attracted to guys who are ladies men or maybe need to take things slower or something? Maybe adjust who you want in a relationship and try to remain positive. There are lots of men out there! I think you should speak to a counselor though if you are having depression that bad.
2007-07-09 06:01:59 · answer #1 · answered by timssterling 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd encourage you to talk to a counselor soon. If you become suicidal, let someone take you to a hospital's emergency room.
Since you also asked about similar experiences, I've seen that responsible people of good will are sometimes exploited by unreasonably selfish people. I don't think there's a guaranteed fix for the problem, but I'd like to believe that if one could involve oneself with organizations that try to make the world a better place, one would find at least a few people who truly care about other people, and perhaps they could become supportive friends.
I hope your situation improves. Take care and good luck.
2007-07-09 13:09:59 · answer #2 · answered by night_train_to_memphis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same why. I just got my heart broken yesterday. And now very depress about it. My boyfriend doesn't understand. He knows its wrong but he doesn't why i crying broken heart over it. He told me that he locks his self in the house because he has urges of cheating on me, and he avoids me alot so he can have a good day. The avoid me thing really hit my heart. Because no one never avoided me before. You know sometimes you can tell whether someone likes you or not but.. him... he says he likes me and he SOMETIMES like talking to me. And we have a date tomorrow. I don't wanna even see him! He can be so ......mmmmm! I am so mad and hurt at the same time. I have no suggestion. Once i find out one i would let you know. But i feel the same and exact way you do. Just hold on. Cry if you must, because one day.. prince charming will come along.
2007-07-09 13:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by Finally Got It 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All i can say is don't focus your life around being with a partner. It's particularly not worth thinking suicidal thoughts over.
You say your heart has been broken many a time, so this is probably what has made you feel this way.
Not all people break hearts, there are plenty of good people out there who won't mess you around.
I'm just saying, don't give up on love, you just obviously haven't found the right person yet.
2007-07-09 13:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by °♥Amelia Rose♥° 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Countless times ??, time to take all those people and figure out what it is that makes them heart breakers , because it appears that you tend to pick a certain type of person. Or it might be that you have a trait that is not conducive to a lasting relationship. Now , be honest with yourself and give it some thought.
2007-07-09 13:19:09 · answer #5 · answered by fuzzykitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES.........I have been where you are, I have experianced the pain, heartache, loss of faith, loss of hope, lonliness, desperation, self loathing, and seperating yourself from those that truely love and care about you, yet you can't see it.
It has taken alot of time and a good counsler(which I'm not ashamed of), to help me get to where I'm at today, and where I know you want to be!! Self assured, confident, positive, full of faith, and hope, a zest for life, able to be surrounded by family, and friends who love you,and the ability to love and care about YOURSELF!! I am also unashamed to say that I am also taking medication prescribed to me for the depression(not all people need that, but it's something worth discussing with your doctor, or a phsycyatrist). It may be hard for you to swallow this, but this is what I learned about why I had all these failed relationships, and was hurt, cheated on, emotionaly, mentaly abused, etc., because of MYSELF!!! I am not saying I deserved it, I just didn't have the ability to know any better, or feel like I deserved any better! Before you can truelly love or be loved , you have to first LOVE YOURSELF!!! It may sound corny now, but it's the truth and will save you from alot more heartache, and pain in the future. How can we love anyone, and form healthy relationships, when we ourselves are not healthy and happy alone!! To constantly need to find happiness by finding someone else is unhealthy. You need to go back to the beginning, find out why you choose these bad relationships, figure out a pattern(your counsler can help you with that) Then start learning how to be happy on your own, fall in love with YOURSELF!! Learn that you are smart, beutiful, funny, strong, and able to be all these things all the time no matter where you are or who your with! No-one can take that away from you, even if you do get hurt again, your strong enough and capable enough to cope with it! Lets face it, lifes not perfect, but feeling the way you do now is not normal and not o.k.!!! Somewhere along the line of these men/woman we develop unhealthy relationships with have taken our dignity, and self esteem, and we let them because we felt we weren't worth any more than that, THATS NOT TRUE, YOUR WORTH MORE, and thats what you need to re-teach yourself!! I know it doesn't seem like it now, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and slowly but surely, you will get ther but you need to travel that path alone this time(with the help of a qualified therapist, I did). I know that if you heed my advice in 1-2 yrs. time(NO RELATIONSHIPS OF THE OPPOSITE SEX) You will feel so able, and happy, you'll exert so much wonderful energy, and zest, people will be waiting in line to just stand by you, to just know you as a person, and you will look back and laugh at what you once thought life and love was supposed to be! Where you are now is not living my dear, it's just barely even being!! God bless you and good luck!! To find a counsler, call the local mental health dept. or ask your doctor. Depending on your insurance alot of counslers can work with you on a paying scale, charging you by what you earn!!
2007-07-09 14:48:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you in your time of sadness. Please don't harm yourself.
There is always hope but sometimes I know it is hard to see it through all the pain. Hold on, someday (and soon I'm sure) you will feel the warmth of true love and it will feel wonderful to know that you have found someone who will always be there for you when you need a shoulder to help you stand your ground in this shakey world we live in.
2007-07-09 13:13:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
life is short.. don't let the unnecessary keep you from living your life happily.. for one.. love.. (if) youre still a teen.. and ask yourself this question.. what are the chances that the relationships you get into are eventually gonna lead to marriage? pretty low ain't it? all teen relationships are meant to be broken.. in the end both of you are gonna be hurt by it.. all the "i love you forever" crap are fake.. best advice is to be single and just chill with your friends.. but i know that's like doing the impossible.. but.. if you do get into a relationship.. don't put a 100% effort into it.. because its not worth it..
2007-07-09 13:24:30 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yaa..even i hav the same feeling at times!!
i hav got hurt many times for my broken or false relationships...! it really hurts.
i believe that heart does heal and we'll love like this again! except that wen we do, we wont believe that we had this kind of feeling before!!
so...wait for some time...give ur heart some more time to heal up!!
2007-07-09 13:03:04 · answer #9 · answered by Rose 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only answers is time :( and/or meet someone else which could just start the whole cycle all over again which is even more depressing but hey what can you do
2007-07-09 12:59:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋