i love and fancy my boyfriend, and i WANT sex, but nothing happens for me any more when we do. i usually just pretend i'm enjoying it because he will take it personally. i used to be highly sexual so this is a new problem for me. any ideas?
2007-07-09 05:06:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Try re-discovering your sensuality, and sexuality apart from him first. Like try belly dancing, or what ever connects you to your passion, and sensuality. Sometimes when we have a partner we put all eggs in one basket. Sexuality becomes all about your transaction with them. So if you are not feeding and in touch with your sensuality apart from your man, then you have nothing to bring to the table!
Does that make sense?
Point is you need to feel sexy, and passionate within your self, so your arousal and passion is not only dependent on getting it from him. Kinda like increasing your magnetic charge so the energy between you is more charged. when people have been together too long they tend to loose that charge!
Good luck!
2007-07-09 05:17:36 · answer #1 · answered by Delighted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See what you like first. Also I know my bf likes to just "get to it". Take things slow and have lots of foreplay this will help. Also KY jelly warming liquids and other things like that help make things a little hotter especially when applied to the clitoral area. A problem can be since you haven't enjoyed it in a while your have lost the sexual desire... it happens to women so easily... try to have sex when you BOTH want to not just when one wants to because this means if you BOTH want it then it will be more pleasurable and your libido will become greater and greater. Your body gets so used to not enjoying it that it just loses interest. Masterbation could also help get your libido booming again. So let your boyfriend kindly know that you need more attention BEFORE sex too!
2007-07-09 05:14:33 · answer #2 · answered by kerriannsurratt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could be medication you are on. That happened to me for awhile. It actually lasted a couple of months...then things got even better.
Your doctor was not very helpful at all. Try to find a private counsellor who deals with sexual issues, or read information from a library. Maybe changing your routine will help get things rockin' again. Good Luck.
2007-07-09 05:13:19 · answer #3 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you get a new doctor, the one youve got is rubbish.. have you recently started taking a new pill? is your boyfriend not making the effort he should? there are lots of variables here, if you have been enjoying sex prior to your current bloke, it makes me wonder if you are as turned on by him as you say...
2007-07-09 05:19:07 · answer #4 · answered by magpyre 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need a new doctor. One who will actually try to find out what is causing this.
2007-07-09 05:25:39 · answer #5 · answered by catsmeowjrk2000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try a new position, and your doctor is he a bloke?
2007-07-10 00:40:08 · answer #6 · answered by Isla R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry, im the same so your not alone. you just have to tell him that sometimes you'd rather cuddle. eventually you will get your drive back, he'll just have to be patient!
2007-07-09 05:11:21 · answer #7 · answered by Venomous Doll 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your boyfriend and tell him what is going on.
2007-07-09 05:20:14 · answer #8 · answered by krzychk30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try somethings by yourself see what feels good and tell him what to do...guys aren't mind readers we do what feels good to us if u tell him to do something else he will
2007-07-09 05:10:35 · answer #9 · answered by diablonekokiller 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋