How to destroy overconfidence?

Question

I have a problem with being overconfident in social situations. I oftentimes know just what to say and do to create feelings in both guys and girls. This allows me to create feelings that make them become a better friend of mine. How can I stop being like this? I want it to end!!

Answer 1

Huh? Really it seems you get people to feel for you? I do that! Stop it! No really this is all a little bit confusing which is most likly why I'm the only one who answered, ether way. Your talking about the ability to bring forth feelings out of people so that you can accomplish the goal of getting them to be better friends to you. Only one thing wrong with that, its your opioion of what is "better". So that in itself would mean that your overconfident in thinking that you know the best way people should be around you which is quite...... manipulative. Reminds me of a young me back in my playin days getting boys to do their drugs with me and girls to do will you know what with me. The only thing that help me not just be a bad guy with it was that eventually I felt for them. With this I've been better able to understand for them what is the better way for them to feel. Unfronuntely I'm arrogant about it to, its just part of stepping up and being a MAN, you have to have principals that your willing to follow and getting people behind those pricipals is part of being a leader and a good social person. Its just making sure that you have the right purpose in mind, and that takes time, sacrifice, and much, much understanding. But lets just say this the differece between teaching someone and manipulating them is INTENT. So if your intentions are good its going to be hard for me to deter you away from a social ability which is part of leadership. But another good thing to understand is that good intentions pave the road to hell, so its not a simple matter. But really this goes beyond overconfidence buddy and strait into the realm of what it means to be a man and to have pricipals. You've got a ability there, only thing you need to worry about is how you use it. No since being the quite one any more, your on your way to self-actualization, but you did one thing wonderfully, your beating yourself up when you don't need to, shows an over developed since of social consciouness starting to come out, make sure to keep nuturing that, and the best of luck!