my fear is taking over?

Question

am in a serious relationship now this 2 years, we r ingaged.. i love him so so much that my heart cant take anymore, he is really good to my daugter.but for me i cant help he is goin to cheat,i no in my heart he wont,he is not that type, but my head is telling me other wise.. am coming deeply depresed over it, im cry an shout at him for no reason. i no he loves me, he says it offen enough. how can i over come my fear of him cheating, even though i no he is not..

Answer 1

By not acting like its just your problem. Realize the only way your going to get past this is if your honest with him. Tell him about your insecuries, let him know of settle little ways or big things he can do to help you get past your fear of failure. Because hunnie this has nothing to do with him, and everything to do with your ability to feel that your are worth it, that he couldn't cheat on you, not just for his sake, but because you don't deserve it. Most of the time these fears don't come from the significant other as much as our own fears of failure. So let him know the truth, that maybe some were deep in side of you, you feel, your failing the relationship. Only with his constant presents, willingness to be honest, and him trying everyday to be with you, can you ever let go and accepted, that yes your worth not being cheated on. After sometime of being comfrontable with yourself you'll realise it doesn't matter, cause if he cheats, its over, point blank, finale. But if you feel your the cause, that it can be your fault, well you'd be in relationships like this. Were chances are the only way you'd feel comfrontable is if he just cheat.... get over yourself hunnie, I'm pretty sure you rock, let go of that self-hate and realise he is yours, but you'll only know for sure if you talk to him about it, so go talk!