Why am i always getting picked on?

Question

Am always getting picked from left, right and centre. Am a person who wouldnt even hurt a fly. I do my best to help everyone and then at the end am always the one who is upset and left out? why?

Answer 1

then go to the back and find some real friends

Answer 2

After suffering many years at the hands of bullies all i can say to you is people will only pick on you if you give them the opportunity to, by that i mean always hold your head up high, never say sorry unless you truly know it was your fault,and always ask the people who hurt you why they treated you that way but don't be confrontational about it.

At the end of the day these guys are not worth worrying about you and how you feel so why should you give them a second of your thoughts/feelings, save them fo the people who matter.

My boss was giving me a hard time the other day, as she frequently does, and i was tempted to apologise but for the first time ever i said to myself that it was not my fault so why apologise and be done with it.My boss was so nice to me afterwards, i think she knew that she was in the wrong

Life is too short and you do not have enough time to spend thinking about what appears to be,cowardly behaviour,and i TRULY believe in Karma.

Good luck and keep me posted.

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Answer 3

because youre too damn nice. You need to toughen up and shock people by not being at their beck and call. You get much more respect. You may only have to say no to a favour once and thats when people will be shocked. Youre not everybody elses mug!!!! Only there when they want you. If they still 'pick' on you then do you really need to be spending your time with these users

As I said earlier - you will only need to bite back once, but be firm and do not give in. The old saying is 'the worm turned' do it hun turn on them!! Another thing that may be worth thinking about. A bully is a very insecure person themselves, they need to get a kick out of others suffering - because there is something in their lives that's making them suffer.

Answer 4

They are jelous of you. They dont want to include you because they see you as better then them. They dont like to be around people who they think are "higher" then them. Keep doing what your doing. Always help people, never gossip, be very kind. It will pay off in the long run. People are jelous because your so nice and they wish they could have a reputation like that to live on. Youlll find that special friend hun. And to bbe honest guys are the best to hang out with. just as friends, it doesnt have to be more. They are just not catty, they hardly gossip, most are nice and easy at letting people in their "cliques" so to speak. They can keep secrets better. and they will never be bitchhes. Most of all jsut be that kind hearted person you say you normally are, because in 20 years, thats what people will remember about you and then they will realize what a great person they missed out spending their lives with. Hope the situation gets better with you. Im sure it wiilll!

Answer 5

I was picked on and bullied for over 2years, I know how it feels, nearly the whole of my class hated me and made me feel bad. Soon one of my best friends started acting strange and giving me abuse. Be strong find people that DO care about you. Try and ignore the best you can, if not let them and other's know how you feel. If they are heartless pigs and don't give a toss about how you feel then fight back. It's not you that's the problem, their the one's with the problem, you shouldn't be the one to suffer. Don't let anyone ever tell you there is something wrong with you!

Hope this advice helps!
Good Luck
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Answer 6

The age old answer is jealousy. People have transformed so much from modern times that they probably aren't used to people with decent personalities and a helping heart. I can't really say anything but continue to be yourself and karma will give them what they've got coming. Good luck though and don't let this get you down.

Answer 7

You have to pick back there called one liner not everyone can do they but watch some comedy show and pick few to try you would have a really hard time in my family we pick on each other all the time mom,dad,bro,sis,grandmas,grandpas we just give it back they call my daughter a big head kid so his tells him they have poor vision etc... I wish I could send you a tape recording but I dont know how to then you would see humor makes people smile and they may have dry humor

Answer 8

i was in this situation before. but, honestly, just ignore everyone. you HAVE friends. you HAVE a great family. i once knew about this girl who used to live in a village, hated by everyone and is know one of the most successful people on earth. one who does not have a happy childhood is the greatest person alive. trust me, i'll see you on TV 10/20 years later. :)

Answer 9

Maybe you are a gentle person and you feel you don't deserve this treatment. BUT you should try to be positive and not behave like a victim. Perhaps people are picking up on your negative energy. Respect yourself, love yourself, and when you feel weak, project strength anyway and you'll feel stronger. Surprise yourself!

Answer 10

This is bullying, and can only happen because you continue to let it. Either face up to your tormentors, or walk away and find new friends. Bullies are always cowards at heart, and almost always back down when confronted. Stand up for yourself.

Answer 11

You have a low self confidence. Just cheer up and take on each day with a smile!