Men are not oblige to do the household chores and women are the one who's responsible.Is this just & right?

Question

Especially if both couples are working outside. Are you favor with this kind of situation???

Answer 1

PPL make this whole husband wife thing so complicated when its really really simple. Men are to submit to God and they are to submit to their wife. Their wife is to be to them what JEsus is to the Father. A husband is to place his wife beside him, and to love her and make her feel loved and needed, yet he has been given a certain authority to be over her. Whats that about since God says a man is to submit to His wife and that we are all equal??? There are times in relationship when one person has to be head.S omeone has to have the final decision. Example, a man has a chance to go to another place and have a better job, and wants to go. The wife says no, my mom is close by and I wont move. Well, this will cause divorce, heartache, alll of it. SO , God says that man can take authority over certain things and have final say to stop the problems. BUt, thru this he is treating his wife like he would treat God himself if he stood right here, with total love, honor and respect. So he may make that final decision, but he does it in love, not with a do as I say attitude, I am your boss, shut up and just do it. NO NO NO> JEsus doesnt take to us like that ,huh? What if a husband tells his wife she is dressing to immodest? Does he have that right? YEP. But, if he is asking you to do something God would say not to do, the womans first authority is God. Women are to submit to God first, and then to their husband. And, we must follow our husbands lead, if it is doing things as God says to. If a husband tells his wife to go hook for money, she is not ogligated to obey that command. So if a man is truly going to take on that position, he better be first very submitted to the Lord, or he loses that authority. That doesnt mean a man call tell you every move to make and treat you like less than a dog. NO. God doesnt want us to be doormats to anyone. OH NO. We are to be strong in Jesus Christ, knowing His love peace and Joy. Cant do that if you are with a man wanting only to tear you down, and be unfair.
When both husband and wife work, they should share the chores, absolutely. To discuss who does what, etc. Maybe a wife is not strong enough to do the lawn, then ok husband, take it over. But, then wife you be in the house doing the dishes or something else. Its all to be disucsses and shared, with love, honor and respect. These men that are married to women that work, and come home and do nothing, as the wife works herself to death on her firs t job, FAMILY, will be answering to God for it all. And women, should not allow that. We can only be helpless little victims if we agree to that.
I dont mean run off and get a divorce, but go to a pastor and insist on counceling. Do it all in love, but do what God says to do. IF you take abuse, you are saying its ok, and thats never ok with God, no matter WHO does it. They will answer to God , as we will, and its cruel to let them think God is ok and I am ok with this. Stand up women. Read the book by TD Jakes, called WoMEN THOU ART LOOSED, get the Bible too by the same man, and read the scriptures, and see who we are as women, as who men are to be. Fits one hundred percent along the Bible, doesnt lose the Bible teachings at all. God is our only source for truth, and this book literally lines up, line upon line, precept upon precept, to tell it just like it is, How God says to do it. Read that book, and read scripture and see how clear it is. No one is to be bossing and ruling over anyone else. Man is given the authority over a woman, for certain reasons, and none will be unfair or abusive. How would that man do Jesus???
thats the question. What would Jesus do? Jesus and your man knowing each other, close friends, and Jesus is a hard worker, comes over to visit your man HUSBAND. Would your husband say, just shut up and go mow the lawn, as sI work all day? Or only you do the household cleaning, as I work all day?? I dont think so. and if He did, Jesus would respond with no, we will do this together, as I also have a job.
Jesus does have a job, and if we follow His teachings we will always know jsut what to do. If in doubt, err on the side of love.
Jsut live like Jesus, speak like Jesus and live for Jesus.
He is the ONLY way to go. Jesus saves, Jesus delivers. Jesus heals, and if we are like Him, we will always know what to do. God hates divorce, but He also hates abuse
If men take advantage of women, its sin, and they will be held accountible for it, the same for a woman that takes advantage of a man. My husband is so good to me, that I have to deliberately make sure I dont take advantage of him. He is a child of God and would do everything for me, If I let him. But, I wont allow it, as Jesus wouldnt allow it.
WE all, men and women, have been givien jobs with roles to fill and we must do them according to the word of God, the living Word of God, that is alive and will speak to us if we will only LISTSEN, and then obey.
God bless you. Know wjho you are in JEsus and you will never again allow someone to victimize you, tho you will love them, and pray and forgive them, you will stop any abuse. and that is abuse, for a man to not help out at home. Even if you didnt work. I dont work outside anymore as I have been dealing with arthritis. Still praying for healing and expecting it to come. Yet, he will do everything for me, if I would allow it. I wont. Thts what husbands and wife do for each other, love each other, and protect each other as JESUS DOES>
Great question. it makes us think and that is always good.

Answer 2

What kind of question is this? I mean, what culture are you from?

This debate has gone on for centuries.

There are a lot of songs both old and contemporary about men trying to do all the domestic chores - and realizing that it's a really, really hard job. Whereas the women in the songs are quite content to go off and be the bread winners - and do a superb job. The movie, Mr. Mom - while idealistic and silly - also drove home a point that our society doesn't value the one responsible for domestic duties.

That said, in the U.S. one of the most commonly sited reasons for divorce/break-ups is because the man doesn't help around the house. This ranks even higher than money and sexual issues.

Also, statistics show that children whose fathers who are involved with domestic issues - housework, child rearing, etc. tend to have fewer problems, issues etc. than those whose fathers were less involved.

And this is especially true for couples/families where both adults work outside the house.

Is there an answer to this? No. of course not.

So why are you trying to stir up muck? Don't have anything else to do? HMMM?

Answer 3

When I went back to work I bought a second clothes hamper and put them together. I told my hubby that one was his and the other was mine. I said, "since I am working I can no longer do everything". Since I worked hours that my children were in school I still did the cooking and during the summer months I took back a few of "his" chores. I mowed the lawn but he would trim the bushes and trees.

If he was working I'd be working. In other words no one was just sitting and playing on the computer while the other one was working at making the home clean.

Now, that we are retired - newly retired - we still have this same kind of arrangement - but things have changed. He loves to bake and he does a lot of that. Since I do not indulge in sweets it works out wonderfully.

If he's responsible for changing the oil in the cars, taking care of the outside of the home and he does this with great care and concern then you should be doing most if not all of the inside chores. He should pick up after himself, exp. picking up his own messes, putting shoes, etc. away after they are used.

Some battles I let go - like it's annoying to me the mess my husband has on his table next to his chair - so... I just leave it - if it doesn't bother him then I have to be more relaxed about it. But it does get to me some days.

He brings in the firewood and makes our home warm and comfortable all winter long = I on the other hand bring in very little wood.

You just have to work out what works for you and yours.

God bless you in this situation.

Answer 4

That is a good situation...if you're living in the stone ages.

With both people earning incomes nowadays, why does the man, in your opinion, skate while the woman works AND does the household chores? If she's helping the family with income, then he can help with the chores. Relationships are a two way street and that applies to domestic chores.

Now, put away your furry loincloth, get a shave and a haircut, and join us in the 21st century.

Answer 5

I think that sucks! I work and so does my hubbie, I am actually making more $ and yet, I do all the cooking, laudry, general cleaning! What's up with that? I can see if I stayed homeall day and didn't earn any money, then I would do all the stuff and not have a lot to complain about but!! geez! If he wants me to work and be equal that way, why can't he do household chores? Men don't get it! I think he doesn't even realize how his dirty underwear get up off the floor, wash, dry and fold themselves! He must think it's magic! I have tried not doing some of the things, but then he doesn't either and I HATE messes!!

Answer 6

Not just. Not right.

A relationship is a 50/50 situation. If both partners are working and providing for the household, both partners need to share the household responsibilities....chores included. It's all about compromise and supporting each other. It is not solely the woman's responsibility to take care of the home.

Answer 7

Heck NO! The instant a woman is outside the home working, is the instant the HOUSEHOLD chores get shared. In my home that is the case, and if I find that the weight isn't being shared, I say OK... well I am quitting my job, so I can handle the full time household jobs, as accountant, house cleaner, cook, daycare provider, taxi service, night nurse... and I could go on.
I'd demand participation or go on strike.... LOL
Have a great one!

Answer 8

You have to find what is comfortable in your situation. In my situation I am responsible for the cars, the lawn, trash, maintanence and up keep and my wife does the kitchen and our bathroom, the 2 daughters do the rest of the house.

Now some men just arent into the cleaning thing. Now they did switch with me for about a 2 month period and I hired someone to come in once a week. You can alternate weeks and on his week he can have someone come in and do. If you keep the place reasonably neat maybe have some come in once a month for a good cleaning, just to relieve you of some of your burdon.

Answer 9

Depends on who makes the most in my book. I make more than my hubby, and I only do about 2 chores around the house. He does all the cleaning. But keep in mind, what works for one couple might not work for another. Don't assume that a woman wants to get off from work to start rubbing on your feet. Unless, you pay all the bills, buy all the groceries, and she works to keep all her money herself.

Answer 10

welcome to my life, there are 7 of us in our home 2 small children and 3 teens, they help some, but lets face it they are kids. my man does NOTHING makes it all me. I am lucky if he gets out of bed to go to work. I get up and work every day, come home make dinner most nights i do the kitchen, do laundry and take care of the kids. Oh yea, God forbid if I decide i want a drink and relax. nooooo. that makes me a bad mom. It is wrong. I think It should be equal. we do not live in the dark ages, Some men may think so though. I think we should take a stand.

Answer 11

I'm not in favor of that when both are working. Sharing some of the housework makes it easier all around. Both people eat, bathe, and wear clothes. Cleaning up after one's self is the adult thing to do and thoughtful.