Why do guys think i'm gayy?!?

Question

I got nothing against gayy but alot of guys tend to think that... or at least they like to hit on me. It's fukt upp. I dont' give any indication i'm gay and yet they come flowin. Like for instance i'd be talking to a guyy and tell him about how all my relationships with girls get fukt up and i can't stand any girl i've ever met and they'd interpret that as me sayin i'm gay and start like... doinn shiit. it's always awkward. Ya sure i'm sick of girls but doens't mean i like guys anymore than i ever had. I'm pretty sure if anything right now i'm asexual, i got no preferance either way. Girls are outta their minds and guys piss me off.

I think maybe it's cause i go to the weight room alone alot (alot of guys see that i workout alone and assume i'm gay for some reason) and i wear stylish clothing... but so what? I look good in them.

Another thing... where does the gay accent come from? i've always wondered.

i'm not gay... not even the slightest bit close to it. I get the creeps when any guy touches me. I never go into the showers at the gym or any point in my life cos i really don't feel comfortable bein naked with a bunch of other naked guys even if they arn't gay. Seriosly, i'm prolly the furthest thing from gay.

Answer 1

It sounds like you may give off that kind of vibe.

You said you talk to guys about how you have had bad relationships with women in the past. That sounds like it can give off that vibe because you are you talking about how you can't stand the girls you've met. And I'm a girl so I don't know exactly what guys like to talk about with their friends, but I don't think they talk about their relationships with women that much. Like they do talk about it but they don't usually go in-depth about their relationship experiences with other guys. So if you are doing that it sounds a bit feminine, because only my female friends discuss their relationships with me, never my guy friends.

You also sound like you dress very well and go to the gym a lot, which in my opinion is a good thing, but it sounds like you take care of yourself very well and it makes you sound metrosexual.

So I guess you can just try to be a little less feminine. Don't talk that deeply about your relationships with women to guys and don't make it sound like you can't stand women and aren't attracted to them. You can also try to dress a little less stylish. You can still dress nice but try to dress down a little. And try not to go to the gym more than nessessary. And next time you feel like a guy is coming on to you, try to clear things up and indirectly show them that you're straight so they stop.

And I don't think there is a gay accent because there are a lot of gay people who you can't tell is gay just by the way they talk or dress. And for your trouble with women, maybe you are looking in the wrong places. There are plenty of nice girls that I'm sure you would like if you just looked in different places and tried meeting more people!

I hope this answers all your questions and I hope everything works out 4 you! =)

Answer 2

The interesting thing to me is that you seem to have lots of conversations with gays or bisexuals, so for some reason they are either attracted to you and you are responsive in some way, whether you know it or not, or you just have a lot of interests that are similar to the gay guys that are around you. One tipoff that I would see is that you don't go in the locker room or use the showers ----something a gay guy would more likely do than a self -confident heterosexual who has no qualms about being naked in front of other guys. Getting naked in the locker room is the norm, so by avoiding that you are sending the message you are not in the norm group, i.e. possible fresh meat.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

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Answer 5

Um aside from accent and walk- I dont think there is really a way to tell if people are gay. Just sterotypes. People claim to have a 'gaydar' but thats jsut plain sterotyping. Because you dress nice is more than likely why. going to the gym alone is not a reason. I think going with someone is more'gay'. Maybe you are too pretty. My friend has a bf who does his eyebrows. Now that would make you wonder but it does not make him gay. its jsut that today's society is so messed up and there are so many 'undercover' gays out there.

Answer 6

Guys are used to other guys freaking out and being completely obsessed with girls and sex etc. They are shocked when someone comes across as indifferent. It's a strength, not a weakness. It's good that there are more important things in your life. Maybe you'll find someone (female :) ) that you like someday. But maybe not. Either would be fine as long as you're happy. Maybe try to talk about cars around guys. j/k

Answer 7

I think you're gay , but didn't know so about you're self yet, and naturally didn't admit it . . there are allot of gay guys who sound and act just like any straight guy , so .. you don't have to be a queen to decide that you are gay , its ofcores difficult to admit it for the first time ! .. i say just try to hang out with a straight acting- gay guy ! that would help you allot to understand if you are gay or not !

Answer 8

Hmm, well I guess you come off as being gay. You seem a bit metrosexual. Just don't talk about hating girls in front of gay guys...

But yea, gay accent? That makes me laugh. Most of my gay guy friends do not have this gay accent that you speak of. Most of them you couldn't tell are gay from appearance and the way they talk.

Answer 9

I'm sorry women that you've dated have hurt you. Gay men will hit on you , it's not a big deal . Most the men in my life have been hit on by gay gents. My 2nd husband, Construction work, my brothers Office personal and my new husband car inspector. They just see you as a attractive.
GOD BLESS

Answer 10

I don't know you so I have no opinion on whether or not you are gay. As far as the gay accent there is no such thing, however, there are certain words that are used in gay vernacular. They have just come down from words the gay community used to use as code but now it is just part of the dialogue.