We agred to stay friends after we split up because neither of us know many people in this area or wanted to start a new relationship. Neither of us are over our ex's and jumped in way too soon so we mutually decided to keep things good between us because we get on well and enjoy each others company.
We chat most days on msn but over the last few days he has become moody and withdrawn. I dont want to ask too many questions as I have no right to but I also dont want to be treated badly by anyone. I have asked him if he is ok but he just gives me one word answers and then signs off a few minutes later. What am I supposed to think. He always chats first so I am not pestering him but when we chat I feel like he doesnt want to. Should I just forget our friendship. I have just bought a bike and lost nearly 2 stone and joined a gym but he doesnt seem interested in anything I say anymore. Please help can we salvage something.
2007-07-09 02:04:17 · 26 answers · asked by Jane s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First let me say good for you for getting physically fit!! It is a great thing and helps out emotionally as well!!
Second I would say that since he is initiating contact that he is not 100% ready to let you go but he is beginning to get there as evidenced by his short and to the point answers.
I would say that he is or is working on moving on with his life and perhaps staying "friends" with you is far too painful so he needs to now try to keep you at a distance if at all.
Let him come to you if he wants to unless or until you do not want to have contact with him any more.
Be kind to him and yourself.
Being friends may just not be in the cards for you two.
2007-07-09 02:11:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like a classic control issue, he starts the conversation but always signs off first, giving him some sort of satisfaction that its not you who ended the chat, he is probably feeling insecure at the moment but is channelling it out against maybe the one person who he should be nice to. Next time he logs on and initiates the conversation, tell him that there is no point in talking to him as he always signs out soon after, put the control back in your favour, i guarantee when you do this his attitude will change, hope it works out.
2007-07-09 09:19:36 · answer #2 · answered by Alkemy007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just need to let it rest. Relationships don't have to be black or white. There is no need to make a conclusion just proceed. Sometimes things with friends are gray they get lighter then darker at times. Go find some new friends. He is probably trying to find new friends too. You need more than one stop holding on so tight for fear of having none. The world is a huge place.
2007-07-09 09:10:56 · answer #3 · answered by MuseumGirl48 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much you can do now, if he will not even speak or msn how are you supposed to know, i would send a msn asking him if he rather you just left things and stopped all contact then the ball is in his court he can say then what he thinks and hopefully you will know
good luck
2007-07-09 09:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by susan m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is going through a depressing week. I wouldn't juge your entire relationship by a few bad days. Don't push yourself on him, and give it a few days. Keep losing weight and try to find new friends as well. Although this may blow over and the relationship may return to normal, it is not good to have just one friend.
Congrats on the weight loss.
2007-07-09 09:08:11 · answer #5 · answered by mel s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you could just ask if he is ok? Maybe he is a envious of your fitness/health kick and it's making him feel inadequate? Personally I'm not usually freinds with x's, I think a clean break helps to get over someone quicker. Maybe it's now time for you to move on. xx
2007-07-09 09:10:08 · answer #6 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he doesn't care if you two keep in contact or not. Maybe he met someone else or maybe he just decided you two weren't very compatable. Don't make it a point to be sure to talk to him. If you see him make small chat, but for now, keep low.
2007-07-09 09:09:12 · answer #7 · answered by tanner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that maybe your the one who has moved on with your life. You have found yourself others interests. Maybe he hasn't, he might be realising that. If i was you I'd continue to keep contact with him for the friendship side, but don't build it up to something that is getting you down. You seem to have good prospects ahead of you.
2007-07-09 09:12:06 · answer #8 · answered by Asil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him
stop being nice to him
he is'nt worth it
& does'nt deserve you
go on with your self improvement Mr. Fantastic is just around the corner
2007-07-09 09:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by . 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it is just a friendship, then leave it at that, give him some space.
maybe he is parted from other relationship bcoz he is the mardy childish one.
then is time to leave well alone, you have enough baggage of own to worry about others problems
good on yer for slimming. keep it up
2007-07-09 09:14:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋