My husband moved out on me and my two kids over a year ago. I am moving on and dating. However, my father in law recently took me to dinner. He said that he wanted to apologize for his part in this. I asked what did he mean. He said that over 20 months ago, his son told him that he was going to start having sex with someone else (he had probably already started by then). My father in law just took the "Heh heh, guys will be guys" attitude because his son was turning 40 and "Well, men sometimes think that they have to prove they still have it. I didn't think that he would take it this far."
I believe that I should not have much contact with them (in laws)anyway but they want to stay friends even though they have the other woman sitting in my chair at their house. What? Why apologize to me?
2007-07-09 02:04:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's feeling gulity, but the truth is there is nothing he could oh did to make his son stay faithful. You should forgive him and keep it moving. It is best to stay friendly for the kids, after all they are still the kids grandparents. Other women sitting in your chair might hurt right now but the pain will fade and you won't care. Just think if he did it to you he will do it to her. What goes around comes around.
2007-07-09 02:09:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He apologized out of his own guilt, to make himself feel better; so don't worry about it. What's done is done. Move on with your life and leave the past behind, including your ex inlaws. Best wishes!
2007-07-09 02:12:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he feels bad about it. I wouldn't say you should be the guys best friend or anything, but give him the chance to at least stayin contact. After all, he didn't ENCOURAGE your husband to sleep around - he just didn't stop it. It was a crappy thing to do, but not unforgivable.
2007-07-09 02:09:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your f-i-l realizes that what he done was wrong, but it was your husband that cheated on you. Just because your f-i-l gave that attitude doesn't really mean he was telling his son what to do. Your husband was grown up enough to make his own decisions
2007-07-09 02:10:58 · answer #4 · answered by valgalallen 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They want the relationship with their grandchildren. While you may hate them for their role in your breakup it is not fair or healthy to the children to deprive them (The children) of the relationship with their grandparents.
I would put lots of limits and controls on their access to the grandkids but I would not bad mouth them to the kids, either.
2007-07-09 02:10:47 · answer #5 · answered by Someone somewhere doing something 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's sad but as u r doing now, move on with life..what's done is done..forget about everything and start afresh..u have all ur friends' support and n family..do that for your kids too..they need u
2007-07-09 02:15:42 · answer #6 · answered by ccfruitpunch93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice family leave them both 2 bads don't make a right.Maybe he feels guilty i doubt that.
2007-07-09 02:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, why apologize to you? But then isn't that a good thing? I guess you should tell him he should apologize forever to his grandkids.
2007-07-09 02:24:35 · answer #8 · answered by wind m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋