He always had an 'alter-ego', the front he put on in front of people, a sort of fake charm that used to embarrass me frankly, because he didnt need to do it, I loved him the way he was, he was just a normal guy with all that brings! But he used to do the considerate caring 'new man' thing with other women, but at home, he was just himself ! Anyway, I hear that with this girl (well I say girl, he's 48 like me, and shes 26) he runs around after her like a puppy dog, she gets the alter-ego all the time. What does this tell you?
2007-07-09 01:55:49 · 41 answers · asked by myfavouritelucy 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is trying not to die. Soon he will learn that having another younger woman will not make him immortal. Nothing you can do about it. IT IS NOT ABOUT YOU.
2007-07-09 01:59:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yeah girl! I hear ya! My hubby is also 48 and lusts after 20ish girls. He`s going through a mid life crisis, and the young girls are a real challenge for him without the responsibilities of a wife or family. He needed to prove to himself that he still had "IT" and I guess that flirting at work fulfilled him some how. He said he was happily married when I confronted him about this, but the thrill of it made him feel like a man and not just a provider with his family depending on him. It was a no pressure relationship. The alter-ego is a game he`s playing with her to get his jollies. I told my husband that this behavior had to stop or he`d be getting his jollies all the way to divorce court! It stopped when he realized it wasn`t a game to me, and he had more to lose than to gain. Best of luck to ya, girl!
2007-07-09 02:07:57 · answer #2 · answered by MISTY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, I know the type, my sisters husband is 43, left her for a 21 year old, that was after shagging her for nearly 3 yrs so she was 19 when they hooked up. Its freaky cos she looks like my sister 15 yrs ago. Its very sick, the poor children will have to find out what type of father they have, their son is only 10 and has a fair idea. It sux for all...I think that the dirty little sex addict girls who play araound with men like that are worse. The men are just stupid men, woman really should know better, but there is a place for all immoral people isnt there. Dont worry, the dirt ylittle whore and the scum bag STBX husband will get there's. He will go thru woman till he is too old and ugle to even attract a fly and will die a bitter old man. The dirty whore will never hold dowm a loving relatiuonship, due to her fears of men. She will always attract the losers. My STBX husband was a different type of predadtor, weak frail, "intellectual" serial cheater. They all will have crap lives. Me, yeah I sound bitter, but actually, I am a gorgeous, pettite, happy, cheerful blonde who is getting over the trauma from immoral people and doing the best to raise may baby boy. I have learnt from experience and will NEVER go for those types of men again. My Dad did it, my mum was the cheater, my dad is now the winnner in a amazingly loving relationship that will last till death till they part. My mother, the cheater..well,.,, I lov her but her life sux.
2016-04-01 04:51:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seen this exact situation with a very nice lady who was 39 and her husband 38 and she had really kept herself up to she was a very attractive woman, and nice too-but thier relationship was suffering b/c he owned a restaurant where he had hired a 19 year old girl who was into drugs and just all around a no good peice of trash-he almost tripped over himself when the girl was around-I seen that with my own eyes and I was disgusted-she was such a low class thing and I had so much respect for him till I seen that-well anyways this young girl would call him at like 2am and he was giving her money all the time b.c. she was always in some bad situation or another-in the end they had to actually sell the restaurant and move 2 hours away to save thier relationship-but they did save it and much to my surprise they even had a baby! Neither of them had had any kids until then- Id say what you can make of your husbands behaviour is that he is a MAN, and thats what they are-predictable and unfaithful,but not necessarily without loyalty-some men can be counted on no matter what to not break up the family-if he is like that then I guess you dont have to worry-unless your thinking that you might leave this one and find one that is superfaithful-beleive me I think the chances are slim- Good luck
2007-07-09 03:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by multicurious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MID LIFE CRISIS. And it will all end in tears.
I wouldn't be surprised if he'd bought himself a new car or changed his appearance somewhat.
I'm sorry you have been left with the aftermath but rest assured, he'll get his. You see doing the whole 'new man' thing is tiring, you have to keep up the pretence that you're like this 24/7 and it will fade. He was obviously flattered that a younger woman found him attractive (shallow b***ard) but the moment he slips up, she'll be out of there.
Don't be surprised if he trys to come back with his tail between his legs, cause he probably will, and hopefully you'll be happy enough in your life to shut the door on his face. It always amuses me though, we go through the same thing and dye our hair or reinvent our personal style, they try and get there leg over with some young piece of skirt that doesn't want to work for a living.
Move on with your life, pamper yourself and get back into the dating game and rest assured, Karma's a ***** that has one hell of a bite!
2007-07-09 02:13:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you what will happen. After several months, you will be prepared to move on without him. You will be unhappy and depressed at first, then you will figure out you are happier without him. In the meantime, the 26 year old will lose her appeal and/or will dump him for someone younger or richer. He will want to come crawling back to the life he gave up with you. You, of course will no longer want him back. I wish I had a dollar for time this scenario has played out. In my own family it has happened to me, my sister, and my niece. I know countless others as well. You did nothing to cause this to happen. He is a womanizer and you need to have the self-esteem to say enough is enough. You will move on and be a happier person.
2007-07-09 02:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All men go through a mid life crisis and some of them deal with it by going after younger women, buying fast cars, dying their hair and reaching out for their "younger" selves. If you plan on staying with him then you both need to sit down and talk about "life " and "the aging process" in general and attempt to make each other understand that you're only going to get older and that chasing after younger women isn't going to help anything.
Someday he'll regret doing what he's doing and he'll eventually face up to his age. Oh, and yes, women do this too, just not as often as men.
2007-07-09 02:05:15 · answer #7 · answered by Rock Hard 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Leopards do not change their spots. He's having a midlife crisis and he's pretending to be something he is not. He will go back to his old ways - he can't keep up the charade forever. You are what you are. He will get tired of running around like a puppy dog. When that happens - the excitment will go out of the relationship. She will get tired of the "old man "and find a younger one. And hopefully - you won't be waiting for him. He's an idiot.
2007-07-09 02:51:31 · answer #8 · answered by Babycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's just happy to be with a younger woman. He's impressed w/ himself that he made a much younger catch & is getting some hot, young as*, so that's enough to satisfy him to let her take some charge. He probably thinks all his friends admire him. He could be going through a mid-life crisis too. He's trying to find a new identity, his new self. Just leave it be & get on w/ your own life.
2007-07-09 02:12:24 · answer #9 · answered by tanner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you saw the answers from the guys, here's MY opinion.. He's going through a mid life crisis and thinks that by "latching" onto this younger female it'll make him live forever and be youthful again. He's wrong.. Seeing a female that much younger he's feeling insecure and his ego needed a boost since he's realizing he's getting "older". He probably is in total amazement that a younger female took interest in him, so he' s enjoying the "lime light".MEN!!!!!!!! ugh
2007-07-09 02:05:07 · answer #10 · answered by sweb76 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ummm how long can he keep that up for if its not his true self, he'll default back to the real setting soon. Will she then still like him? Sounds like he's might have had a bit of a mid life crisis running off with a 26 y/o perhaps he will realise what he had with you. x
2007-07-09 02:13:06 · answer #11 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋