I love you but you forced me to marry you...
I will love you if you get thinner and give me two kids.
I hate your family.
You are not my friend you are my wife.
2007-07-09 01:52:49 · 24 answers · asked by kishoti 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
II lived with someone who placed the blame on me continually. However, I wasn't married. It was family. I was never able to commit to marriage. I didn't love the ones who wanted me… and the ones I loved abandon or betrayed me. Some friends from my youth left a mark. When things got bad, he said if she hadn't gotten pregnant, he wouldn't have married her. It hurt, knowing what he was doing to her. They finally divorced.
He wrote me in the army. I discovered he had fallen for me years before. I could not respond because of his harsh words to his wife. I knew what he was capable of. You see, those cruel words affected my life. When I got pregnant, I really wanted to marry the father. But memory drew me back to Dunsmuir. My son’s father thought I got pregnant on purpose, which wasn't true. I think he may have needed to know I wanted and loved him. I don't know. But I could not do anything that might make him feel forced into marriage… so he slipped away. I think my behavior and fear pushed him away.
I said long ago that I wouldn't place myself in a punishing relationship. Funny how ironic life is. I avoided the men I thought would mistreat me… and moved in with abusive family instead. I could write a book on mental abuses. Take this as you wish, for I was never married… and advice is worth what you pay for it, nothing. In the end, we must all choose for ourselves. It is my belief that marriage is worthless if you are not friends. Without friendship, love, and respect, what foundation is there? If you notice, there seems to be a LOT of Blame and conditions in what you wrote!
I love you BUT…
I will love you IF…
I Hate your family…
You are Not my friend…
Just an observation. But if there's something I DO know about marriage, having children does NOT make things better. It makes them WORSE! I've seen too many divorces after children were born, partings that were predestined. Things grew horrible and very ugly. Babies are lots of work and take a great deal of attention. Certain people can't stand the competition. And believe me, children can be used as weapons. Now that one I really know about! It happened to me because I couldn't stand to see the children hurt. It was a very weak spot, which nearly broke me in half! And such guilt because I wasn't strong enough to protect them! That was nearly unbearable.
Anyway, I send you Love and Prayers. I know how painful such things can be. I may not have married, but I lived with someone 20 years. It was very close to marriage, with one exception. I pray that things work out for you, Love. Good Luck and God Bless! I wish you all the very best.
2007-07-09 07:13:29 · answer #1 · answered by Eudora 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love you but you forced me to marry you...
Is that true, was it a shotgun wedding. If he had any doubts he should not have done it.
I will love you if you get thinner and give me two kids.
Are you fat? Were children discussed before getting married?
I hate your family.
He can hate any one he wants to. nothing says he has to like your family.
You are not my friend you are my wife.
This is only true if number one is true.
Sounds like paradise over by you. I would say dump the zero and get with a hero...
2007-07-09 06:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by Shootsscores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh?
A. How on earth did you force him? You can lead a horse to water but cant make him drink unless he is thristy!
B. Hope he plans on staying his handsome self too, men always seem to let themselves go and we have to stay the same as when the met us, kids and all! Tell him to have the kids and then you can talk about body shape!
C. How can he? They are a part of you and who you are, so how did he fall in love with you then? Rude if you ask me!
D. Your best friend should be your spouse, they are the people you share the rest of your life with.
If it were my husband, i would really consider seeing someone as a couple for help. If that does not work, find happiness somewhere else! Easier said than doen I know, but wow the above list is something else.......
2007-07-09 02:12:44 · answer #3 · answered by *Lee*D* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think:
"Fine, love me, and I will force you to divorce me as well
I will get thinner as soon as you are out of my life (because I will be happier and empowered), then I will find a much better man and give HIM four kids
I love my family, you don't deserve them
I am a friend first, always -
You are not a good friend and do not deserve to have a wife if you cannot understand why that is so."
Marriage is a partnership, a friendship and loving union.
I see you having none of this, and deserving all of it.
2007-07-09 04:57:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-17 15:43:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that my marriage was probably a mistake. I would also rethink having children with him at all. Granted, he might be more attracted to you physically if you lost weight. But his love for you should not depend upon what the scale reads. This man sounds like a real jerk. He is right about one thing..he is definitely not your friend. He doesn't sound like much of a husband either!
2007-07-09 02:13:59 · answer #6 · answered by Sophie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your husband should feel that you are his friend. He should not ask you to lose wieght- but women if we were thin when we met him we should not let marriage be our excuse to blow up. It sounds like he does not respect you. He should not be talking to you this way. I must ask if there was a fight that led up to these comments or any special situations because it is possible he said these words out of fustration and anger.
2007-07-09 02:08:08 · answer #7 · answered by Sylvia Lei 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say what the hell are you thinking, get a divorce. This is NO way to speak or feel towards your wife. If he cannot accept what your body looks like and your family its a big no-no.
2007-07-09 02:08:18 · answer #8 · answered by Pam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll be SO sad.But there is no way I'll stand there crying and not say anything.I'll tell him that he should have said something instead of saying "i do".If he don't want to be with me FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE we're getting a divorce.I'll marry someone else who does care for me who doesn't say "i do" because he was"forced"
2007-07-09 02:00:42 · answer #9 · answered by Essie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
♥ I would say that love and being in love is two completely different things
♥ You can love someone without being in love, however you cannot be in love without loving them. :-)
♥ I'd say he doesnt love you for who you are.
♥ I'd that he doesnt appreciate you.
♥ I'd say the last statement is a deal breaker... I'd ask for a D-I-V-O-R-C-E!
♥ You can find someone so much better for you and you will be so much happier! Honey I dont know you but I guarentee you are worth it!
Good Luck!
2007-07-09 02:01:39 · answer #10 · answered by NCIS ♥ Addict 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋