will not go on a family vacation with her husband and kid but wants to go to the beach with her single girlfriend? my wife skipped and would not attend our summer family vacation with me and my son but wanted to go away with her single girlfriend...how much of a problem is this and why would she not go after pleading and asking her for 3 months.
2007-07-09 01:04:55 · 19 answers · asked by amayseng 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she obviously does not have a problem with it !
2007-07-09 01:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by one_nastyned 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes that would be a problem. It is nice to have a girls night out sometimes but a vacation with all her single friends. No she should know the temptation that would be cause those other girls don't have to rein in for anyone and will be pushing her into throw caution to the wind. My single friends are like that and I have to be cautious when I go out with them. They don't mean it to hurt anyone we all ran around together b-4 the husbands came into the picture so they don't always think about the way things look or sound or how i should act. I know I have to watch what is said and done around me and I don't go out very often I usually invite all to my house for cook outs and stuff that way my husband and his friends can be there and it is lots of fun and my husband and I can still be together and hang with our friends and there are no questions as to what was said or done during our fun. I would never want to be away from my husband and child on a vacation. I would start talking to her find out what is really going on.
2007-07-09 01:18:00 · answer #2 · answered by IRON GIRL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a wife, yes I would say her refusing to attend a family vacation with her hubby and son in the interest of her girlfriend is a problem. Yes, everyone needs to get away at one point or another but you and your son should come first in her life period. She could have taken the vacation with you and planned her vacation with her friend for a later date. I would recommend you have a conversation with her about her priorities and whether she has any interest in re-structuring them or whether the two of you need to pursue an alternative course of action. Wishing you the best of luck.
2007-07-09 01:25:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know how much of a problem it is. If you don't mind your wife hanging out at the beach with her single girlfriends, it's not a problem. If you would rather have a wife who acts like a woman, instead of a teenager, it's a serious problem that you need to deal with! If this is your son and not hers, you have probably married the wrong woman; because she does not accept him as part of the family.
2007-07-09 01:23:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) I wouldn't plead anymore
2) I would just come right out and ask her (be prepared, you may not like her answer).
3) I would take the vacation with my son. Invite her and let her know you are going with or without her. Your son deserves that and so do you.
4) Expect the worst and hope for the best.
2007-07-09 03:48:49 · answer #5 · answered by MrsRusty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh she's truly disrespectful. The fact that you let her do that, is a problem. You need to get alot more in control. You can't let her come and go how she pleases, especially if her child and the family is involved. Your family will eventually hate her.
Do not tolerate that nonsense. You could make an agreement, that if there's a family function that comes first and then another day, you could go act like a teenager with your girlfriend. That's what I'm wondering. Is she a teenager, because that is so immature?
Overall, don't let her make any selfish decisions. If she's going to just please herself, then she should be alone. Good Luck
2007-07-09 01:13:38 · answer #6 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that there is a problem with this, yes. Not so much that she likes to spend time with her girlfriend because a married woman can spend time with a single friend and still behave like a married woman... but what concerns me is the lack of interest in spending time with her family AND hanging out with a single friend instead. I think it could be a red flag and I think you should be straightforward about your concerns with her.
2007-07-09 01:48:31 · answer #7 · answered by mike_hughes03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You two should be the most important people in her life (and vice versa). Communication is the key. Did she tell you why it was so important for her to see her girlfriend over you? Perhaps the friend was going through a personal crisis and "needed" someone?
It is too easy to jump to conclusions. But, to be safe, I would "trust but verify", meaning that I would start looking at her email inbox/sent items and for any new numbers on her cell phone.
I know it doesn't sound very nice or trusting but she is the one whom sent up the red flags.
2007-07-09 01:48:42 · answer #8 · answered by Someone somewhere doing something 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can determine what this means for your marriage but a wife and mother who would rather spend more time with a single friend than her family doesn't bode well. There must be plenty of other red flags going up with your wifes behavior.
2007-07-09 01:12:31 · answer #9 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmm well I would say follow your intuition...I would ask her why she wants to go on a single vacation instead of a family vacation. not to put ideas in your head...but is she really going with a girlfriend?
2007-07-09 01:12:46 · answer #10 · answered by Catryem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What reason did she give?
Maybe she just needs to recharge her batteries, or maybe she's looking to get some while on vacation.
The reason is everything to know if it is a problem...
2007-07-09 05:04:51 · answer #11 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋