I have a friend who has a girl friend. But the girl friend is always getting drunk and is mean to him, even though he DOESN'T DO ANYTHING TO DESERVE THAT KIND OF TREATMENT, and he knows that. I told him that he deserves better, but I want to help him more. What should I do?!
2007-07-09 00:54:59 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
he just showed up at my house in tears.
2007-07-09 04:12:30 · update #1
it hurts 2 c a friend who doesn't deserve that treatment bing treated like this.
2007-07-10 02:17:15 · update #2
just b dere ..... nd leap into action wen ur frnd needs u thee ... also try rehabing his girl .... if u can i.e.,
2007-07-09 00:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by Narut() 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you have already talked to him that he doesn't really deserved that kind of treartment....I agree of what have you done. Me in your place, i will also do that, for the sake of my friend. Tell him that her girlfriend does not deserve him, he should find a girl better than his girlfriend. But if he insists that he will continue on this relationship, try to talk to his girlfriend personally.But please tell also your friend that you will talk to his girlfriend. Maybe it sounds rude to mind their own bussiness but try to tell her that its for her and for your friend. Try to make her understand that your friend doesn't deserve that kind of treatment. Tell her to be a loving girlfriend as possible, because maybe some time right now she will be the one treated like the way she treats her boyfriend.
2007-07-16 21:27:07 · answer #2 · answered by spit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done all U can do. the next step is up to him and her. I have a nephew who is an alcoholic and wants nothing but the alcohol no matter the cost. What your friend needs to do is give her an ultimatum, him or the booze, because she can not have both. Now if your friends continues to stay in this abusive relationship , he needs just as much help as she does. You need to back off and let him and her grow up or break up.
2007-07-17 03:23:06 · answer #3 · answered by Charla C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do some research on "Alcoholism". It is an awful disease. It is a controllable one. While your friend tries to do all he can for his girlfriend and she in turns says bad things and does bad things...it is the alcohol. While he in turn tries to rationalize with her...he is talking to the alcohol. It looks like her...sounds like her voice...but it is the alcohol. People are worth saving...but the girlfriend needs to do all the work. Your friend and YOU can be a support system...but not the cure... WHEN she decides to let loose of that liquid poison.
2007-07-15 23:45:40 · answer #4 · answered by Jeannine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When they say "love is blind" its literally true. Your friend is blind and even though he gets hurt it doesn't matter, you can give him advice but it won't help. Its tough but there is nothing you can do, unfortunately this is something he must do himself all you have to do is when that moment comes you be there. There are things friends can't help with, sometimes the person has to learn this alone but you can help them deal with it later on.
2007-07-15 18:21:38 · answer #5 · answered by VM4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, unless your friend wants your help then it really is not your business. If your friend is in love then he probably can not see the mean things she is doing to him. It is kind of like an addict, unless they are ready to see the problem and to make changes, then there really is nothing you can do.
2007-07-09 07:59:35 · answer #6 · answered by ellen d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to stay of it and still support him emotionally. Some people get tired of that crap and send the witch to hell, but some will stick around and wait for her to get through the phase and settle for what's left and still manage to be happy. Think Forest Gump.
2007-07-17 00:03:03 · answer #7 · answered by sprinkle_sprinkle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be straight up with your friend. It is never easy seeing someone that you care for getting hurt. But there is also an old saying, "First time shame on them, next time shame on you."
Tell your friend the next time he cries that she is only doing to him what he is allowing her to do. All you can do is tell him what your thoughts are on the situation, but this is his life and he needs to learn it himself.
2007-07-15 19:53:08 · answer #8 · answered by Clara C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately he must be thinking he is getting something good from her. He probably has some issues of his own if he allows her to treat him badly. Encourage him. Help build up his self esteem so he won't put up with her stuff anymore.
2007-07-16 17:43:50 · answer #9 · answered by lilbitsanantonio 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Introduce him to some sober girls. Either he enjoys being dumped on,or he really loves this girl.He needs to get away from her and, find some one nice.The girl doesn't love him,you don't act that way around a guy you love.
2007-07-17 06:13:18 · answer #10 · answered by lotteda717 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off is she drinking DARK liquor b\c if she is then he needs to drop her a** before she end-ups hurting him physically. I suggest you introduce him to another girl or if your single and interested in being more than his friend hook up with him( go for it). Either way something bad is bound to happen soon to him or to her if he doesn't cut her off.
2007-07-16 22:30:42 · answer #11 · answered by midnitesnack21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋