2007-07-09 00:40:50 · 13 answers · asked by candie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yep they do indeed change. It's called midlife crisis... and many of them go through it. It's not fun.
Some snap out of it. Some don't. You either get through it with him... or not. Depends on how deep in he is. There are many books on this subject. You can get them at your public library. A great resource is the midlife crisis website.
There is a book at the website on how to survive your husband's midlife crisis.
Check it out
Good luck!
2007-07-09 01:02:39 · answer #1 · answered by teritaur 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is about compromise and open communication.....not "giving in and persuading". Sounds like you have power play issues going on. Everyone, however, changes as they go through life...men and women and it's to be expected. It doesn't mean that one or the other is going to change roles or somehow become a totally different person unless they have some problem with themselves. That's a different story.
2007-07-09 01:19:39 · answer #2 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "giving in and persuading role"?
Sorry, but where did that role come from?
Life is a negotiation from start to finish.
The ability to negotiate,compromise and agree does seem to get better as we age. If that is the change you refer to then I guess.
To attempt to define giving in and persuasion as a role?
This sounds like you are locked in a power struggle with someone.
2007-07-09 01:03:04 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny you should say that I grew up watching my quiet humble uncle being a yes man t my dominant but loving aunt, he was about 45 when whoosh now he argues about why the should have skimmed milk as opposed to semi skimmed, about which road is wider in their town, etc my aunt is great it is never bad arguments an usually end up in her going out to the garden to get peace. But the point is he changed he didn't want a Porsche or hair transplant lol he stopped saying 'yes dear' and started saying ' no I think .............'
2007-07-09 00:48:22 · answer #4 · answered by angelrose0105 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 40. I would not say that men throw in the towel and give in on things that are important to us. We fight you less on things that we don't care about.
For example, my wife wants to paint the bathroom herself this weekend. She checked with me and showed me the color sample that she likes out of respect for my opinion, knowing that I don't really care what color it is as long as I don't have to squint when I enter the room because of some bright color.
We're just comfortable enough to say "We don't really care about certain things and we're not going to pretend we do anymore."
If we care about something, we still have plenty of fight left in us. Tell us that you've planned for us to go on a vacation with your mother for a week, and you'll see that no amount of persuasion is going to make that happen.
2007-07-09 01:27:52 · answer #5 · answered by kadisciples 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say my husband is 46 and it seems like he changes every day there is always something wrong with me or the way I do something it just seems like it gets on his nerves no matter what it is.
2007-07-15 03:00:52 · answer #6 · answered by Tania S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is 41 and I'm 23, he acts just like a 23 year old.
2007-07-09 01:46:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've sadly discoved that most 40 plus old men prefer to pursue 20 year old girls. Sad really.
2007-07-09 01:44:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess everyone changes throughout life the only consistant is change!Also change is different for everyone so no one here can really say?
2007-07-09 00:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all the men.Only the ones who come from Thong Sang.
2007-07-14 08:23:58 · answer #10 · answered by gen2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋