my frnd is a little rude.....wat shud i do??

Question

shes sometimes a little rude to other people and sometimes to me as well....
she has no intention of hurting me....but i get hurt wen she becomes a little rude wid me.

Answer 1

Tell her how you feel. It really makes a difference by just talking. You can explain to her what it's like so that she may have a better understanding of the situation, but try not to be abrupt. When I explain things to my friends I use examples in what I mean.

Ex.) "Hey, I know you really don't mean anything by it, and would never try to hurt me or anyone else, but sometimes I get hurt. I know that if I were to be rude and hurt people, you would probably stop me and ask if something were wrong."

Something like that maybe?

Answer 2

I know exactly how you feel because this has happened to me before and more than once. I would tell her what she's doing and explain to her how it hurts you. Then if she doesn't stop, and as much is it may hurt you to do this, I just wouldn't hang with her anymore just because she'll keep doing this to you and you will always be hurt. Friends don't do this to friends. Unless... there is good reason, like Pms, stress, tired ya know how that goes and sometimes friends need to blow a little steam. So if thats the cause just tell yourself this and maybe blow it off. But then your friend should always apoligise for this as well. But this is just my opinion and how I handle things..

Answer 3

Sit her down and have an honest heart to heart.
I have put up with a rude friend for over 30 years, and it galls me to this day that she can be so unknowingly insulting and abrasive.
She does not know she is this way, but knows no other way to be, as she is very much like her father...whom she adores.
I can't stand him. PHD in Rude, if you ask me.
I'd long to say, "So-and-So, can we talk for a minute?
I need to let you know something,
sometimes when I _____, and you come back with ______, (blah-blah) it really hurts my feelings or makes me very uncomfortable. I wondered if I do that to YOU?
I know you would not want to hurt me intentionally, but it does
and I don't like it, and I thought you'd like to know now, rather than wait 30 years down the road and have me love you less for the abuse!"
Remember, Clarity leads to Power, and if your friend knows "where to scratch" on your back, then chances are, the spot will be found and the itching will stop!
Know what you want and stand up for yourself,
you ARE worth it!

Answer 4

Tell her that you really like her and are sure she is unaware that her rudeness can be hurtful. Tell her that you have put up with it in the past because you really like her but that it does hurt your feelings and you don't want to feel like that anymore. If she truly is a friend, she will want to try to stop her rudeness.

Answer 5

Theres 2 ways to approach this situation. 1) Blank the happenings completely and just ignore this everytime she does it, accept thats her metality and focus on her more positive points. 2) Or subtly aware her of her doings and softly suggest to her a way in which she could stop this.

Answer 6

Right tell this friend how ya feel and that she hurts you when she's rude if she's a good friend she'll stop good luck

Answer 7

Tell her how her actions are making you feel, and no doubt others. Tell her that because of these actions people wont like her. Also that if she continues this way, then you can no longer be her friend.

Answer 8

Give her time. By the way, who's Daniel Radcliffe?

Answer 9

If she's oblivious to it and is doing it unintentionally, you should tell her gently about how you feel.
It'll be better for the both of you and for her alone as well.

Answer 10

call her out on it....thats not fair....friendship should be equal...its not like u deserved it or something for her to be rude to u for no reason...