Why does my friend smell?

Question

My friend shelley smells whenever i see her but i dont know how to tell her

Answer 1

I worked as a manager at a restaurant for a few years. One of my first "managerial" duties was to tell a friend to bathe, invest in [better] deodorant, or do what ever else she might need to do to improve her personal scent.

I told her the truth. I told her that there had been complaints from both customers and staff about her body odor and that we, the management, would really like her do try more to do something about it.

She responded well and the problem was taken care of.

When you aren't her boss it's not as easy, I know.

Maybe ask her if she would want someone to tell her if she has spinach in her teeth. We all would like to know. Most likely she would too. Then tell her, kindly and gently, that sometimes she does kinda smell like she needs a shower. Let her know that you are saying this because you care about her and don't want her to suffer because of it.

If she insists she bathes enough, wears deodorant, perfume, whatever, then offer to take the time to help her find ways to improve it. Maybe she's very active and showering once every day or every other day isn't enough. Maybe she's using that funky natural rock deodorant that, I can tell you from experience, just isn't as effective as the regular kind.

Maybe she does just need to shower more than most people.

I also have a friend like that. She needs to shower twice a day, at least. More when she's really active or it's really hot.

Some of us just sweat more than others and give off heavier scents.

The most important thing for you to do when talking with her is to help her understand that you are not judging her for it. It's her body. She can only control it so much. She's your friend no matter how she smells and that is the most important thing.

Answer 2

When I was at school. there was a girl who had filthy, waxy ears and everyone spoke about it behind her back. Her best friend told her, and she cleaned her ears.
So I think you should tell her. Say it to her in a very polite way. I would say "Shelley, I've noticed that you don't smell very nice lately, I thought I should tell you before other people notice it"
This way, she should be grateful to you and do something about it.
She might be embarrassed at first and act a bit strange with you, but she'll get over it.

Answer 3

shes your friend now so dont forget.
some people who smell dont even know they smell, because its there own body smell, there senses are more amune to there own smells, which means then that they dont even realise that they smell.

so be nice about it. just talk to your friend away from everyone else.
and just tell them, and say its a concern.
its possibly B.O (body odour) which everyone has, and as someone gets older they need to learn to shower everyday, and put on some sort of body deodorant to help not make there under arms smell.

just give them some advice, and make sure that you try not to say anything to make them feel that they are the only ones going through it, as im sure it could seem quite embarrassing for them!

hope this helps!

Answer 4

It's also possible that she could have an infection going on. You could ask her how she's been feeling as of late and if she asks why let her know that you are concerned about how she might be feeling because you noticed something that wasn't there before. Then when she asks what just let her know that you noticed the smell and are concerned. Something like that.

But she definitely needs to have this evaluated by her dr to see what they think is going on.

Answer 5

If you're a good friend then you have to tell her. Tell her in the kindest way you can, and make sure you point out to her that if the situation were reversed, you would want her to tell you, and you are just trying to save her the embarrassment of being told by someone who doesn't like her or care about her feelings.

Answer 6

Just call her Smelly Shelley and keep spraying her with a deodorant can- she'll get the hint x

Answer 7

how good a pal are u? if ur truly very good acquaintances, perhaps u could in basic terms tell her privately that she needs to care greater approximately her hygeine. or possibly in basic terms bypass alongside a sorta cleanliness susceptible stuff, or possibly a possibility approximately who could be the cleanlinest. or possibly in basic terms attempt to furnish her a makeover, she has to take a shower too. tell her that u truly like a undeniable cleansing soap, deodarent e.t.c. and it will smell truly good on her. supply her a fragrance as a present day.

Answer 8

Maybe she isn't conscious of her body odour herself, you could go to the supermarket with her and ask her which deodorant and soap she uses because your getting fed up with yours as they don't seem to be working as well as they did, then you could treat her to some and say its a thank you for her advice, hopefully she will get the message and use it and buy some more herself, good luck.

Answer 9

oh this is a tricky one, maybe you should invite her round to stay over a yours and run her a bath after you have had one & get out all the bath products you can get your hands on & leave them out for her. Ask her do you need cream doedrant just in case you forgot to bring them round?.

Answer 10

Take her to a sheep farm on a day out and watch them dipping the sheep, and casually remark "that looks like fun"