say you tell your friend/family member about your problems/misfortunes, what do you want them to say? like do you want them to give you pity, or tell you to suck it up, or I'm sorry i hope things get better, i mean it could be anything. How do you want them to react?
2007-07-08 22:22:07 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I want them to comfort me.....and tell me Its gonna be okay....although I know it isn`t....it just helps to hear it.
My friends always just change the subject to one of their problems or self pity themselves. Heres an examle:
I would like tell them my grandma died.......
And they would like respond by telling me "Yeah,whatever my bf just left me,thats soo much worst".
That just breaks my heart...but yeah thats life,.......
2007-07-08 22:41:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I 'wish' they would have the absolute best advice for every issue I talk about. I 'wish' they knew not only the solutions but also the long term predictions. I'd 'wish' they were capable of providing the most sincerest form of emotional support and I'd 'wish' they would always be there to tell me that I am doing the right thing and that things will turn out fine. That's what I'd wish...
...But the reality is, it's hard to even get through half my issues because they're too busy interrupting to tell me their woes and so the conversation ends up with two people basically spilling their guts to each other. We'd try to assure each other that it'll be fine while saying 'Hang in there' and such. But realistically, you'd want them to understand what you are going through because they have been through it too.
Bottom Line: Misery loves Company :0
2007-07-09 05:33:11 · answer #2 · answered by Silkeez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been a loner for a long time. I don't tell my problems and misfortunes to others, unless it's just to shoot the breeze and/ or relay the events of my day or week. I have no expectations from others, as I do not cry on shoulders (no shoulders to cry on) nor do I look to any friends or family members to solve my problems.
I have found God to be sufficient for my every need, so I have no expectations (regarding MY problems) from the folks around me.
2007-07-09 05:27:53 · answer #3 · answered by scruffycat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you tell people your problems you want someone to really listen to you!
You want to know that they hear you, not just about the problem, but how it affects your life, how it makes you feel.
Ussually you're not looking for advice, but understanding.
If you ask for advice, you usually get it, but it will be coming from another's point of view which may not be the same as yours.
2007-07-09 05:27:04 · answer #4 · answered by Donna G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes acknowledgment is enough.
2007-07-09 05:25:10 · answer #5 · answered by wallerz2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋