Can you really love two people at the same time?

Question

How hard it is when you are torn between the two lovers?

Answer 1

She is talking about romantic love.

Yes, unfortunately you can. People that find themselves in love with more than one person at a time are often the most sensitive, loving kinds of people. The hard thing is you have to make a decision.

Answer 2

It is quite easy to love two people at once... everybody immediately screams about it because it is not tolerated... but when we normally love our family and spouse and children... then you love more than one as well... so... only because of the sexual attraction it is not allowed. It is looked upon as weird and no one ever tries to find a solution except for choosing one... which is probably good anyway... but yes.. you can love more than one, and being torn between them sucks.

Answer 3

You can love multiple people in a sort of caring way- for example family and friends.
But I personally thing for the whole love romance thing there will only be one true person who you love deeply.
That kind of love and passion can't be for multiple people as it's to strong to be spread out.
You might think you love 2 people but usually it's just you are attracted to both and at the end of the day, you have to choose one and hopefully it'll be the one you actually love and care most about.

Answer 4

I think if you Really love someone, with true, genuine love, that it can never go away. As much as we would like to believe that tribulations in relationships can sour love for another person, I believe that anger (or hurt) is what is at the surface and that the love is still there. And if old love and new love is not the issue, of coarse you can still love more than one person at a time.

Why on earth not! When you love someone you care deeply about their well-being. I am not talking about your own personal well-being and their ability or desire to return such affections to you. If you love someone or two or three and there are issues with having multiple romantic relationships or romantic contact - then that is another thing. Remember there are only a couple of concrete emotions - love and fear. Love is a beautiful feeling and fear is what causes hurt, pain, and jealousy. Remove the fear and we could all love as many people as we wished. Think about what each person in your love triangle might fear and see where you stand. If one person is hoping for a long term monogamous relationship... then there fear may be of wasting his or her own time with you and fear of losing you to another. If you know that your love for them is real, but you don't feel a long time relationship is right with this person then you need to be honest and let them move on. That is what love is. If you love them you would never want to do harm to that person and you put their feelings above yours just as a mother does with a child or man does when he meets his soul mate, best friend, and lover. You tell them the truth to prevent further injury and console what injury you may have caused already.
I love many people. I love many things about the people that I love. I love one from the inside out and backwards, we never speak and see each other in passing about every two years I know that he feels the same way because of mutual acquaintances. That love will never go away. Its lasted 17 years, is unchanging, and not directed towards my husband. I don't desire a relationship with this person so my husband has no need to fear my love for him. My husband is by far a better man and a better husband than I could have ever dreamed of. The other love... I care for, worry about, think of regularly, and still lust for occasionally, but I would never, ever trade the man I have and love for another shot with that old flame or any other. So my love for him should not induce fear in my husband.
Sometimes we are undecided about which one we want and sit on the fence and hope that the two people on each side of the fence can't see each other until we decide. That happens plenty. I think that is normal in the beginning of many relationships; it is not normal in already defined long term relationships. If that is where you stand you need to take a step back and figure out your direction, sort through where your obligations lie, and figure out who it is that you need to have "the talk" with.

Answer 5

Yes, you can, it happens all the time. The idea that you should only love one person is very recent, and it seems to be against our natural inclinations as a species.

It's only hard if your not honest about it. Yes, it will probably be the worst conversation of your life, and you will almost certainly lose one of them, but in the long run, it will be best to talk to both of them and spell out your feelings.

Answer 6

loving 2 people at the same time is easy i got 4 kids and love em all equally but to love 2 people in a relationship i dont think that is possible because one of those people is always going to take preference

Answer 7

two's company and three's a crowd...
you might think that you love two people at the same time but the truth is that you truly only love one person...
find it in your heart, the answer is there...
do not get into this kind of relationship...you will end up alone and losing both

Answer 8

i cant imagine anything harder... but i think there must be a way to find which one you love more.. try to break up with both, or try to take a break from both, u will feel the need for one of them more.. but the fact that you are torn between 2 says that none of them is truely THE ONE...

Answer 9

Of cousre you can..hell you can love 12 people at the same time.love is not limited to 1 person at a time

Answer 10

Oh you have hit a nerve here!!!
Loving two people isn't the problem its finding time to satisfy two people at the same time...
In my experience you find one is lust & the other one is love and they both have there advantages...But love is an adventure and lust is a stage...Depends where you are in your life to what you want at that time, and that may be both!!!