Do people who make it a mission to stand in judgement of other people,?

Question

enjoy a vicarious pleasure in someone else's misery?
Um...Could it be that they have been judged before & are now
venting their spleen to even out scores in some vague kind of defence mechanism?

Ahhh...the sweet sound of silence...
: )

Edit: Oh Babysham...wasn't referring to you at all...Tongue is still firmly tucked in cheek about this...and was referred to those who are completely obsessed with judging the McCanns. I hear you on society judging and i assure i've been judged (& not just from afar!)...Its part of growing up i guess, but when someone makes it a mission to judge, try & hang someone (that precious petition), it does tend to wind me up.
Not you honey, definitely, not you...
Tho' we disagree, i do love reading your posts...honest.

Nicely put, SilkStockings.
Methinks the line between judging someone casually & making a mission of judging some, is the malicious intent involved. Its not justice you're after, but you want to see & revel in the criminal's punishment....Scary, huh?

Answer 1

Oh, absolutely spot on, Faith. They do protest too much, don't they.

I know I have been judged for things I have done and, as a result, I try to be conscious of my own impulse to judge others. I try not to do it though I know I don't always succeed. I think the impulse to judge others very harshly can be an indication of low self-esteem. Some people need to break down others of whom they are envious in order to make themselves appear better in comparison.

Of course, it can also be a sign of casual ignorance. People who have limited consideration and understanding of other people, especially those from different backgrounds, can misread behaviour that they see. They don't necessarily have malicious intent.

Answer 2

Hi Faith, I dont make it my mission to judge people its just sometimes my natural instinct/opinion is judgemental I suppose. I cant help it when I feel something was avoidable and through the failings of an individual/s someone suffered.

We all feel about certain things that we would have acted differently. Then you cant help but call it avoidable, and naturally it does seem you are standing in judgement. It is perfectly acceptable to be judging of others, it may not be the kindest approach to take, but society does judge and we all behave in a certain fashion because of societys limits, of what is and what isnt classed as acceptable.

Personally I dont take any pleasure in the misery of anyone.

In answer to have we been judged, I am sure I have been judged at points in my life.
A dress too short? You will get judged in the pub for that...
Stole a boyfriend at 16? Judged for that...

Faith, I am sure someone has judged you from afar and you just havnt heard them.

It would be some sort of paradise- to live in a non judgemental community.

Answer 3

I never judge people Faith - I treat everyone as I find them. However, I also hate to see injustice and double standards. The McCanns should be charged with child neglect. That's not judging - that is weighing up the facts that are known which clearly show neglect. If one of my brothers or sister had done the same with their children, I would want them prosecuted - they would be in the wrong and I wouldn't and couldn't defend them.

Be honest Faith, since day one the McCanns' campaign has been about downplaying their role in the child's disappearance. Why would they do that if they didn't think they were in the wrong? They have manipulated the press and their friends to present one side of the story only. I think you'll find it's that which people are finding infuriating.

Answer 4

For me it is a matter of suspicion. I guess some see the McCann situation one way and others see it in a much different way. The only way I have been judged as what some would consider a bad parent is being a bit overprotective. So I will have to disagree with Saturn just a bit because I am one that has never left my child alone at such a young age. My oldest is son is 14 and he has just started being left for short periods of time if I run to an appt or to the story but my younger children are not left alone. I think we can all agree well most of us anyway that we want Madeleine brought home safely and alive. For me I have let this little girl in my heart and yes I do have suspicions and no I do not believe with no shadow of a doubt that she was abducted because the only evidence shown thus far is her parents word and it was also shown that the parents were inconsistent the night in question. I wish I didn't think they possibly had some involvement but I have seen this before over here in the US. I wish I had more faith in the parents as you do but, there are just to many things that have made me suspicious of them. I also do not feel that parents who do something to put their child in harms way should not be punished in some way because they will suffer for the rest of their life. As I have said before the mothers in Pitsburgh who recently left their young children home alone only to die in a fire should be exactly where they are. I also am a parent and can understand these mothers probably did love their children and did not leave them home alone in hopes that they died but they did and this is what can happen when you leave children unattended when they are not old enough to be responsible for themselves. I can tell you from experience that I had 1 parent who was neglectful and I feel I am lucky to be alive and lucky my life turned out the way it did. I guess I do get more angry when I here of children being neglected because I can relate. I was of an older age then Madeleine and her siblings but the fact of the matter is when we are children through to age 18 our parents are suppose to guide us, look after us and protect us. If Madeleine was indeed kidnapped then I do feel it is partially her parents fault. They were thinking of themselves and thinking about the good time they wanted to have rather then the safety of their children. Many other bad things could have happened to all 3 of those children being left in an apt alone with a door unlocked and partially open. I do not leave me doors open for my toddler to go out. I live on a busy street and it would only take me going into the bathroom for 2 minutes for my toddler to walk out and get hit by a car. Lastly, I do disagree with some of the jokes being made about this whole thing. I will not answer to them. I don't think this situation at all is a joking matter. I also want to say I respect your opinion and as I said earlier I wish I had the faith in these parents that you do but I just dont see all their ducks in a row at this point and I don't see them giving any blood sweat or energy into finding their daughter. It just all seems to be about the fund with them.

Answer 5

it is not to dis-similar to bullying, and the reasons for it are the same.
Often it makes people feel more secure, more certain of their own superiority.
That is why so often the react in such a cruel and unforgiving way.
How many times have you heard people saying, with reference to the McCanns "I would never leave my child alone".
I know I have and I know that it could have resulted in tragedy, I think there but for the grace of God go I.
I recognise that the McCanns were wrong, but who am I to judge.
To express concern and sympathy for the missing child is so natural, to become an obssessed bigot whose only aim in life seems to be to set themselves up as the focal point for moral outrage and indignation is sick.
We only have there word with regard to the blameless life they lead, why keep posting day after day the same old diatribe, I think it is to impress others, to experiance a sense of acheivment where maybe none has been experianced before.
To be seen as the Knight in Shineing Armour, setting the standerd of moral indignation for others to follow, a legend in their own lunch breaks.
You know, like there 15 mins of what they see as fame.
Once this issue is long gone from the Q&A forum I have a feeling some will go with it, no longer able to rant on and on and make themselves feel better for it.
Some even have the arrogance to think they are doing it in the pursuit of justice, yeah right, of course you are, I may of been prepared to go with that had their obssesive behaviour and total lack of compassion and understanding not been so very very apparent.

Answer 6

I don't know why it's so complicated to answer a simple question. I can sit here and write testimonials too, with an attendance at three Universities and one med school and majors in English.

Everyone forgot the simplest term. "Judge not, lest ye be judged"

Answer 7

I don't like to stand in judgement of other people. I'm sure I have at some time or other but it doesn't make me a better person and do you know why? Because I know I am not perfect myself and any one thinks they are, are only fooling themselves.

Answer 8

Arrrgh, I'll see ye swingin' from the yard arm for this Mr. Christen.

Answer 9

My past experience has been, that people who harshly judge others have much to hide themselves. Hippocrates come to mind.

Answer 10

You are in line.

You are numbered.

You justify to stand in judgement of other people who are ahead of you.

Regards