If you no longer love your partner, is that....?

Question

something you can work on or do you take your loss?

and does it make a difference to have a kid?
or be married or not?

the question remains.... is it something you work on or do you take yr loss?

Answer 1

Leave him hun. Have read your other questions and you seem to have decided to leave him but lack the courage to do so. It's hard at first but you will feel much better than you do now.
People tell you to stay together for the sake of your kids but i think that's bullshit, seperating can only be good for your child as he/she will no longer be living in a negative atmosphere with an unhappy mum and dad.

Answer 2

Love changes. It isn't always that young, first flush, passionate type of love. Sometimes, love is realizing this person will put up with you when you have a head cold or are seriously unhappy. Sometimes love can be really boring, because you know each other so well, there are no surprises. Sometimes love is waking up and finding out HE got up with the sick child in the night so you could sleep..or he picks up your favorite ice cream on the way home.

Having a child changes a couple. You aren't just two anymore. And the priority becomes the child who can't take care of themselves for a long time.

Marriage can change love. Sometimes, when you marry, you fall into the belief that now this person is "yours" and you don't have to put as much effort into it anymore. This is where lots of marriages run into trouble.

Unless you're in an abusive marriage...or there's cheating.. drug or alcohol issues...or someone is a bum.. then you need to put the effort into fixing it. You don't walk away until you can walk away saying "I've done everything I can possibly do to save this marriage".

If it's that far off the path, then find some counseling. Talk to your partner and say, "I'm not happy. I don't know if it's me, or if it's us, or if marriage just isn't what I thought it was going to be. I want to find out because I don't want to end our marriage if it's just me being unhappy with something else, or my expectations were skewed."

Only once you put the effort into fixing it, do you have the right to walk away. Running away from a problem never fixes it. That problem will pursue you the rest of your life until you come to terms with it.

Good luck..

Answer 3

take your loss
you might fall back in love but it would have to have a healing period in between. there was a reason you feel in love first, and there was a reason you fell out of love, maybe a break might work but you both have to want it. not just for the child.

Answer 4

I am gonna assume you going through some things with your husband from your questions. If he beats on you or cheats on you repeatedly it's not worth it. Take your kid and leave the situation while you can before your kid grows up and thinks it's okay.

Answer 5

Take the loss. If the love is no longer there, why waste time if you can find it elsewhere?

Answer 6

I'm going to take my loss.
If people knew how I've been treated for the last 25 years they would never tell me I should work on the relationship.
Verbal and emotional abuse hurt worse than physical abuse.

Answer 7

If there is any way to salvage what is left of the relationship for the sake of the children, do it. If not, move on. You know when you've reached the point of no return. Does he still love you?

Answer 8

Dont have a kid if you dont love someone... it will usually cause more problems because babies are hard work and if you dont love them you could possiblky be soon to become a single mom

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Answer 9

YOU made a commitment! You swore to God to love honor and cherish, Unless you are being abused, you need to renew that commitment, and make it work!

Answer 10

Only you know the answer.