the relationship is just not working no more... and the kids always seem to be the ones who carry the consequences. Are there ways to do this right?
2007-07-08 21:14:13 · 26 answers · asked by freebird31wizard 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
as long as the kids have acess to both parents then it is prob better to be apart...............
2007-07-08 21:16:49 · answer #1 · answered by surfergirl 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Of course there are! Protect your kids. You can do it! Find a counselor after you leave him/her.
Try the YMCA or someone through your employer (an Employee Assistance Program). I bet there are many support groups in your community. You just need to know where to look!
Don't EVER bad mouth the other parent to your child. They might resent you or the other parent and that's not fair.
There is no right or wrong. Just be sure you are safe and happy and your child has the best care possible!!
2007-07-09 04:18:09 · answer #2 · answered by Dirty Knees 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
every relationship has problems, it is all a matter of honestly and fully opening up the communication channels to see the true sight of the existing problems and find a compromise in order to solve the problems.
people are different. even couples. all individuals have different goals. but what makes a marriage work is two individuals compromising, instead of picking at their differences, they find a midpoint where both are happy with. If the both of you try hard enough, i'm sure you'd find something.
keep in mind that if you do separate, the children will suffer because growing up with both parents is better and less stressful. However, if the mom and dad are quarreling and unhappy and lash out at the children, separation can be better.
so it depends on the seriousness of your situation.
Try to work things out before going straight for the split.
2007-07-09 04:21:37 · answer #3 · answered by Spidergurl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat, so I can't throw you a ring on this one, sorry....but I do think it is better for the children if they are suffering. Probably the most painless way for everyone would be to get another place and stock it up and furnish it before leaving, to make the transition smoother for the children. You may not want to mention it to the husband until the last minute, either.
2007-07-09 04:18:14 · answer #4 · answered by annie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You always have a choice but if it you think kids can save the relationship they can't. The other parent will always be part of their lives but although it is hard for the kids sometimes it is worse if there is always tension and fighting in the house. The kids end up thinking it is their fault
2007-07-09 04:24:22 · answer #5 · answered by cheri 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, dear. That's a good one.First, be damn sure the marriage is over. Then, resolve to keep the child, or at least be in his/her life EVERY STEP OF THE WAY, if you don't get custody.
I divorced in 1992 with 3 kids, coz I was a pathetic idiot. Be very sure you really want to end it.
Choose well, dear child. It's a life decision.
2007-07-09 04:22:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I decided to stay for the child's sake. The way I saw it was he's been a better father than most including mine. And I was not going to later on hook up with some idiot. Who apart from not being the child's father was a bad role model. Some women decide on leaving. Just to hook up with something much worse. My mother was one of them. And apart from making their lives more miserable than it was. Also ruin things for their kids. End up with guys that abuse the children and resent her having kids by another man. In my case my mother became an abuser. She took everything out on her least favorite kids. Before you decide on complicating the children's lives. Think what kind of father he has been.
2007-07-09 04:27:30 · answer #7 · answered by Sunset 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I left my husband when I was four months pregnant. It just hit me at that time that the life for my child would not be a pleasant one if I stayed (we had been arguing for months before I became pregnant). You can make a better life for yourself with your children, but try and keep things civilized, in allowing your partner access to the children etc.
2007-07-09 04:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by Nicky T 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Surround your child with love. Your are doing them no favors staying in a crappy relationship -- remember, that's where they learn how to be in a relationship! Get out now. It will suck for a while, but it will probably be better in the long run.
2007-07-09 04:21:19 · answer #9 · answered by Mama Sol 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
take d child w/u.... u cnt stay in a relation just coz u have kids. that's not fair 4 both of u & also 2 ur child coz they tend 2 grow up lacking love & attention fr u & ur partner
2007-07-09 04:21:08 · answer #10 · answered by 2D1iLuV 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be a single mum !
I split up with my man when my baby was 1 day old, he beat me up - wasn't going to put up with it anymore... so raised mine on my own.
Now 16 years later i just had another baby and have been in a loving relationship for years.
2007-07-09 04:17:03 · answer #11 · answered by • Koala • uʍop ɹǝpun 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋