my parents are getting divorced and i really want to not have to spend time with my dad. i just really dont like him. i just want to no if i have any rights about what i can do being 13.
2007-07-08 19:31:28 · 13 answers · asked by .. .. 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
You have the right to shut up and do as you are told to do for a change...
2007-07-08 22:03:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
Your best bet is to talk to a counselor at school--they can help you get a separate advocate in the court who addresses your concerns directly, apart from either your mom or your dad.
This way, anything you decide won't turn into a political football between your parents.
You have a considerable amount of say as you are old enough for the judge to listen to you directly. Judges usually listen carefully whenever older children have a concern, and they're not likely to force visitation if you have at least one parent you can live with.
Be clear and concise in your statements; make sure you repeat the same thing every time, or you'll be accused of changing your story.
2007-07-09 02:37:25 · answer #2 · answered by nora22000 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you open your mouth and just say that you don't want to go with him it should be good. Let them know in a kind manner exactly how you feel. The fact that you just don't like him could help depending on why you don't like him. Just tell the truth I don't know about CA but in some states I think if you are at least 12 you have a say so in the process. Just let your mom know how you feel and tell dad to not take it personal but make sure it's in a kind manner because the minute it gets out of control it could get ugly!
2007-07-09 02:40:24 · answer #3 · answered by sugahsweetened 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally you don't have a right to choose which parent you will live with. The court will make that decision. Depending on your parents and the judge you may or may not be allowed to voice your opinion in court. Your parents may make a decision before the divorce in which case you may not be asked at all. If your parents are fighting for custody of you then you may be called in to voice your opinion.
Your best option is to let your parents know how you feel and who you want to live with. Whichever parent you don't choose make sure you explain why and let that person know that you still love him / her.
Good luck.
2007-07-09 02:56:52 · answer #4 · answered by yn_tennison 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the judge. Some judges care what you think because you are 13 and not three. Other judges may say tough, you will visit your father. Most likely, unless there is a good legal reason for you not to vist him, you will be there. But legally, who are not entitled to not see your dad just because you don't "like" him.
2007-07-09 02:36:36 · answer #5 · answered by Speaking_Up 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have the "RIGHT" to love thy father and thy mother. Whatever issues you have with dear old dad needs to be resolved. Are these issues abound because of something your mother told you? if so, perhaps you should listen to both sides of the story. Is it because of illicit activity? If so you need to talk to the judge overseeing your case. Other than that.....You need to love your dad and appreciate every opportunity to tell you do
2007-07-09 02:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by Linderfan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have no direct rights, but you do have the ability to tell the judge what you want. He is not obligated to listen to you, but most judges will take your wishes into consideration. Tell your mom to tell her attorney that you want to address the judge, and her attorney will give you a chance to do so. You can then tell the judge what you want and why. There is no guarantee he will listen, but he will consider it.
2007-07-09 03:13:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly, your rights are SLIM to NONE. your mom can fight for you in the custody battle. take the stand, and explain how you don't want to spend time with your dad...if he is verbally abusive or neglegent or whatever. talk to your mom's lawyer, i'm sure you guys can work this out!
good luck <3
2007-07-09 02:35:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have a say in who you want to live with, mom or dad, in your case i guess you will choose your dad. other rights, you totally have the right to ask both of them money for shopping!
2007-07-09 02:34:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yea u can ask , everyone has the same rigths but kids are just limited with out some of the adults
2007-07-09 02:34:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋