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My boyfriend and i have been dating for three years. Most recently we've both gain somewhat large amount of weight. keep in mind we're both still attractive. Somehow, it's been five months since our last imntancy. He's not cheating on me and i'm not cheating on him. He says it's because we see each other everyday, before it was just once or twice a week. How do i get that flame back again?

2007-07-08 19:01:26 · 12 answers · asked by camille 1 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

12 answers

Absence sometimes make the heart grow fonder.

2007-07-08 19:04:09 · answer #1 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1 0

I'm feeling where you are coming from. I've been with my girl for 6 years now and we had to get over that 3 year hump. Our problem was that we didn't have anything interesting to talk about. Everyday became a ritual and I admit, I was very close to just trowing my hands up on the whole thing. What saved us is learning how to play. Learn to get out of the serious role and try to make each other laugh. You would be amazed at how much closer and comfortable you feel to someone who makes you smile.
When it comes to sex, I'd say be adventurous. Go to the Adult store and get some message oils, edible body paint, and/or a book of different positions, and throw experimenting into the mix. (I would stay away from any hard core handcuffs, whips, and stuff like that until you guys talk about it first! That could just freak him out.)
Lastly, just have fun with it. Don't worry about what other people may think because this is time that you spend alone with him. If you guys are into it, then do it.

2007-07-09 02:35:02 · answer #2 · answered by torgan 1 · 0 0

I have been married for 9 years it has always been 1 or twice a week. The ? is are you happy with 1 or 2 a week? i used to be 120 lbs now I'm 203 lbs, yes 203 lbs. my husband also gained an about 70 pounds, i still find him very attractive and he finds me attractive. what does he like? tell him what you like, is he willing to play around, how about you? Find a middle ground. Kids? Is there enough money to travel, if so leave (alone) for a weekend. Anywhere you can do it all weekend. Is he under a lot of stress? Anyhow maybe you should buy a "friend" and tell him to watch them have him jump on and join! :)

2007-07-09 02:11:20 · answer #3 · answered by LUISA S 1 · 0 0

Surprise him! Be creative and act out a fantasy or take him on a trip. Pre-arrange it with his boss if he's going to miss work and see if he has any vacation time available. If you explain that this is a surprise most often bosses with a heart will work with you. Go someplace romantic or someplace that you have both been talking about but haven't had the chance to go. Variety is the spice of life. Mix it up a little. He'll love.

2007-07-09 02:07:40 · answer #4 · answered by SoAZ Gal 6 · 0 0

Well pretty rough thea but yea you should talk to him about it and tell him dat u dont want to lose him for anything in da world and dat u really love him (i dont know if u really do) and dat u want to get the flame back again!

2007-07-09 02:04:18 · answer #5 · answered by ~*~ Kikis ~*~ 2 · 0 0

by coming closer and by meeting everyday if u think that ur relation has improoved, then it means both of u have the best understanding, so u must go on.......

2007-07-09 02:11:58 · answer #6 · answered by â?¬mOn 1 · 0 0

he has lost the spark.
be very careful cos he might just not be there for you anymore.
might be worthwhile taking the lead and start working on him.

2007-07-09 02:05:25 · answer #7 · answered by dirtyoldman 4 · 0 0

You work hard at it. Relationships are not easy, it takes lots of work, compromise and communication.

2007-07-09 02:03:27 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1 0

You don't have to be intimate to have a good relationship, so enjoy.

2007-07-09 02:05:55 · answer #9 · answered by clareskee 1 · 0 0

too much time together and start exerciseing mabe you don't need to worry at all

2007-07-09 02:05:51 · answer #10 · answered by trinavanilla 2 · 0 0

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