Please help!!!???

Question

Ok, my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 8 months now. I love my dad and I feel completely comfortable talk to him about everything, which is weird because it is usually the mother a daughter goes to :P. Anyway, my boyfriend and I are ready to have sex and I refuse to do anything until I talk to my dad and go on birth control. Even though I am comfortable talking to my dad, I am nervous and I need some advice. My dad has already talked to me several times and told me that he's not going to over react and put me on house arrest or nothing, lol. He said that he would help with anything, condoms, birth control, running to planned pregnancy if needed etc. But I still seem to be nervous and we would like to talk to him early next month. (I go out of town tomorrow, and then again the 26th) Please help! Any advice is needed!

Answer 1

Umm.. your dad doesn't want to hear any of that ****.. Just let him think you're an angel k?

Answer 2

I'm proud of you!! At least you have one parent that you can talk to about such things; to many kids don't or won't talk to theirs. Tell your dad someone is proud of him to. You are in a very fortunate situation that you do have the this type of mutual respect and openness in your family so don't be nervous (that is natural, however). But a little insight into condoms and the pill....they don't always work. I have five children, my second from forgetting to take a pill and fifth from a failed condom. My daughter takes a shot every three months and I cannot remember the name of it. Your Dr. or local health office can give you the name and recommend if it would be right for you or not. Her Dr.'s office sends her a notice of her next appointment 2 weeks in advance we post it on the refrigerator so everyone in the house can remind her. This family involvement has worked quite well for almost three years now.
Let me say, 'I applaud you and your boyfriend for being so responsible; and your family for understanding that you are.'

Answer 3

You didn't say how old you are, so I am answering solely that you are at least 16. If you are serious about sex with your boyfriend, then you should be on birth control. It isn't fair to the child conceived to be born into poverty, and raised by a child themselves, so and unwanted pregnancy should be avoided at all costs, if you plan to be sexually active....You have privacy rights if you are that age I believe, to go to your local Health Department, Birth Control is free there, and you don't have to tell your dad...Now, I am not promoting sex by two young people, and for you not to talk to your dad about it, HOWEVER, your gonna anyway, more likely with no protection because your afraid to talk to your dad about it....SO, go to the Health Department and see the people there, they won't judge, that is what they are there for, to stop unplanned pregnancies, and just because you do get some protection, it doesn't mean you have to have sex either...But at least your making a mature decision....If your not mature enough to demand protection for yourself, then your not ready for sex anyway!!!

Answer 4

Seems like you have a great deal. Just tell him "Dad, I would like to begin having sex with my boyfriend. I would like to get on birth control, will you go with me?" Then the dialogue will be open, he will probably try to talk you out of it. You probably should listen to what he has to say. Having sex is a huge step at 8 months or 4 years... your dad can help you more than anyone.

Answer 5

I just want you to know how lucky you are. Your dad sounds like a great guy that knows how crazy things are now with kids and wants you to be safe over anything else. I'm sure that as a father he's not exactly doing cartwheels about the fact that his little girl wants to have sex, but he seems to be supportive. I don't exactly know how to go about talking to him, but from experience, I know that a little bit of humor comes a long way. I would also ask him for his opinion. Dad's like that their kid actually wants to know what they think. Other than that, I can only wish you good luck.

Answer 6

I think that you and your boyfriend are not really quite ready to have sex. When you are ready you will also be able to talk to your dad. And when you are old enough, you won't need a grown-up's help with how to get birth control or condoms or how to protect yourself from disease.

Answer 7

wow, that's rough. i think that if you're comfortable with your dad then talk to him. maybe just that you are thinking about it and not the specific date and time or anything. just let him know it's on your mind and that you want to be prepared for when it happens. i also think you are very lucky to have parents you can talk to. i did not and sex was a big taboo at my house. so i was not educated or preared when it happened and wound up pregnant at 17. so think about it and make sure you are ready first, then talk to your dad. it only takes one time to change your life forever, so stay strong and don't give in until you are ready, both emotionally and with condoms in hand. :)

Answer 8

It sounds like you know your dad, and you know what he will say. As a girl, I can understand your nervousness...letting someone in on your plans to have sex is embarrassing. As a parent, I can understand your dad's fear for you and your safety. So, if you think you can responsibly take precautions then you can hold off on telling your dad. But, if you feel like you need help, then tell him. Remember, you need birth control pills AND condoms!!!

Answer 9

Well i guess you need a second opinion.. Talk to your mom instead. Also, talk to your pastor. There is something wrong here somewhere. At least you are stepping back and wants to get real advice. Stop thinking about having sex. Think about how to plan your future.

Answer 10

It is awkward and He seems to support you so as it isnt easy talking about sex with your dad. He trust you and it would be a good idea to just talk with him so you can feel better in the long run

Answer 11

Okay girl, tough situation I see that you and your dad have a real close knit relationship. If you guys are open with one another like that then you should tell him. Now I'm not going to say that it's not going to bugg him that his little girl is about to start having sex but let him know. Evidentually he is proud that you are open with him... So let him know besides u'd rather be safe than sorry...... Hope I helped..