I'm expecting. And I was wanting to know if it is better to find out the gender of the baby on the ultrasound or should we let it be a surprise...much like the baby?????
**And please include Why or why not to which answer you choose...
2007-07-08 15:40:16 · 18 answers · asked by *Ashlei* 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think it is easier to find out before hand but if you want to keep it a suprise just make sure you buy unisex things because you dont want to have a boy and have all blue things and have a girl or vice a versa you know what i mean or you could find out then not tekk anyone and just tell people to buy uni-sex things and just let it be ur little secret but i think if it where me i would like to know that way i could know what to buy and things like that
2007-07-08 19:06:53 · answer #1 · answered by Jimmy T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here in my city, they wont tell you. You have to have your only ultrasound in a city 3 hours away(driving), or I could fly to another province and pay 125 dollars for a private ultrasound clinic to tell me.
That said, I can't find out and wont be. I didn't with my son, and am currently 36.5 weeks along with number two. I would have taken that flight this time and found out. Money wasn't the issue, it was my wishes vs. my husbands. My husband thinks we should have a surprise, and it felt too selfish for me to go against his wishes too. After all, this could be our last time.
The surprise when you have the baby is great. It's what keeps most women going through labor. They just want to push this baby out to find out if it's a boy or girl and if it's healthy. It's a sort of focal point to labour. It's what helps a lot of women through.
Another point of view, finding out next week, or finding out at birth will be a surprise either way. And at least you can prepare the nursery and buy clothing in either pink or blue :)
It's totally up to you and your partner. I didn't want to know the first time around, this time..I am more curious. I wish I had some new pink clothes to take to the hospital in case it's a girl, but instead I've washed up my sons newborn clothing and packed it in my bag :) I'm sure I'll be able to get my hands on some pink stuff if I have a girl.
My husband wants the surprise and most of my family feel really strongly about not finding out. It's not a big deal to me. I have only 25 days(hopefully I don't go over) to go! I'll know soon enough.
Good luck and congrats on the pregnancy :)
Do what you feel is right.
2007-07-08 22:50:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a feeling with my first that it was a girl and the ultrasound said it was, that is my Brenna.
I had a feeling with my second that it was a boy and when I had the ultrasound he wouldn't cooperate but I still thought it was a boy and 3 weeks before he came the ultrasound confirmed it, my Peter.
I would have to know in order to prepare for the right clothes and bedding. The looks and disposition of the baby is surprise enough.
I will say that I can not even imagine trying to pick out names for both genders just in case. I had trouble enough knowing what sex I was dealing with.
Good luck!
2007-07-08 22:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We both felt that our baby was a girl, and when we had our u/s we found out it is a girl. The only problem is that now I am worried that the doctor is wrong and it will be a boy. The other down side to finding out is you will hear from a lot of ppl "thats what they told me and I had a" It gets really annoying. My aunt was told she was having agirl, and she had a boy and she is driving us nuts, to the point that I dont want to talk to her. I am off work now so people dont say anything now since I am not around as many people. If you do find out and dont want to be told you are wrong tell people that you dont know, and keep it to yourself. We have bought everything pink, and the nursury is tinkerbell, but if its a boy the colors are still neutral and we will just have to replace the tinkerbell stuff, and some clothes. My advice would be if you find out make sure you still have a name for the opposite sex just in case. Good Luck
2007-07-08 23:04:10 · answer #4 · answered by krickee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a very personal opinion. There is no right or wrong answer. Its just whatever is right for you. My first two I REALLY wanted to know. I couldn't wait the whole 9 months to find out what I was having. With our third, we didn't want to know. We've told EVERYONE that we don't know the sex, however.... we got so anxious, we just HAD to know. We weren't planning for anymore children after the second, so got rid of ALL the baby stuff. We had to replenish everything! The fun thing is that the family still thinks we don't know. Its fun for all of them to have the suspense of the biggest surprise you'll ever have. That's why many people DON'T find out the sex. Its one of the very few surprises you truly have in life.
2007-07-08 22:48:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lam 35 weeks pregnant with my second child, l have ten years old daughter, l wanted to have a boy so bad at the beginning l felt that this baby is going to be a boy %100 its completley different than my first pregnancy, the way l carry the things l crave all told me its aboy, lmagine my surprise when l had my ultrasound when they told me its going to be a girl, lam happy its agirl and l have prepard myself for it, but if l didnt know it will be a shock for me, till this time and after three ultrasound l still have hopes deep inside that this baby will be a boy, my midwife told me %98 its aboy whicj gives alittle hope, but of course l believe ultrasound more, and l will love my kids no matter what gender they are, good luck and l hope evrything will go well, good luck.
2007-07-08 22:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can decide that.
For me I wanted to know the gender so I could better prepare. When I registered for the baby shower, everything didn't have to be yellow & green. I was able to buy clothes, toys, bedding, etc. that was for a boy. I also wanted to be able to pick out a name and call him by that name, rather than some general "bean" or "baby". I wanted to call the belly Andy. It helped both my husband and I connect with him before he was even born.
2007-07-08 22:50:39 · answer #7 · answered by Jamie-Ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I decided to find out. We both felt that it was a surprise either way and at least this way we could prepare. One reason not to is if you like the suspense of not finding things out. Also another reason is some people have strong feelings on this. Some people were outraged that we found out. I find it funny cause everyone in our family was happy we found out and would have killed us had we waited. It was outside strangers that got mad we found out. I had one woman lecture me on it. I told her "well then aren't you glad that you have absolutely no connection to this baby anyway". You have to decide for yourself what is best.
2007-07-08 23:00:17 · answer #8 · answered by hunneybee1979 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wanted to know with both of my pregnancy's. Really so that we could get the room ready and have it decorated for a boy or girl.. However a lot of people prefer to wait untill the birth to find out, but it makes it harder to get a baby room ready I feel.. Either way you will be happy with your decision.. Plus you can always change your mind and go ahead and find out, but you can never unknow once you find out.. Congratulations and Best of Luck......
2007-07-08 22:56:37 · answer #9 · answered by auntietawnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is totally up to you, its quite a personal thing. I prefer to know so that we can get everything ready (I dont like neutral colours much) and you can keep the name a suprise for everyone else. Also; how the baby looks, whether he/she has any hair or not is going to be a suprise too. Good luck x
2007-07-08 22:46:08 · answer #10 · answered by angelcakes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋