I worked as an escort on and off in college for about 6 yrs total - should I disclose this to a guy once we get serious or is this something that I should keep to myself ?
2007-07-08 14:53:54 · 5 answers · asked by la lab 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your past is your past. If you think he'd have a problem with it if he found out later, then I'd tell him up front. If he can't deal with it ... good bye. Do you want him to tell you about his previous girlfriends? We all do stuff we feel at the time, that we have no other choice or at least we feel that what we are doing is okay. Later, we realize that what we have done earlier in life may complicate things later. Love is from this point in time onward, it doesn't look back nor does it live in the past.
2007-07-08 15:07:41 · answer #1 · answered by Phil Conners 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep it to yourself, for the meantime anyway. I'd wait until the relationship grew and blossomed just a little bit more until I told him. Then after a time, you'll know if your past life will make a bearing on your relationship.
Unless you are the personality type that wants to lay all the cards on the table at once. Me, I like to disclose information about myself a little at a time and keep my cards in play close to my vest pocket!
2007-07-08 15:09:30 · answer #2 · answered by Ink Corporate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER!! don t ever tell him. EVER! trust me. He will use it against you when things go sour. He will ruin your reputation and any hopes of finding love again. If you guys have kids, and you have to go to court for custody issues, he will mention that you were an escort. TRUST me! Don t tell him, its not his business, it was your past that you no longer deal with. He is your present, and possibility a future. Don t do it. Telling him will affect your future, children, and future loves and family. Especially if he s a vindictive guy. Don t risk it.
2016-12-18 18:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by LoveLife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to marry the guy you're going to have to risk exposing your true self to this person, so yeah, some disclosure is called for. He has the right to an honest impression of you, and you'll feel better knowing your mate accepts you totally for who you are, flaws and all. If it helps you to know this, everyone has a past with elements in it we're not especially proud of.
2007-07-08 15:05:38 · answer #4 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe u should cause its better for him to hear it now than later. Another point, what if u never tell him and he finds out from smoeone else what do u think would be better
2007-07-08 14:59:39 · answer #5 · answered by congareejack1220 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋