Have you ever had conflicts with your parents because you were gay or lesbian? 10 points for best answer?

Question

I am bisexual and I have been put out the house 4 times, some of them were because my dad did not like my old friend because he was Mexican, I am 19 and my dad is almost 50 and I don't know how things were when he was growing up, but I don't care about that, anyway I have been through some really hard times with my parents, they think who I am is a long phase, well what they do not know is I am exactly who I was meant to be, rather they like it or not, I have been out the closet for 10 months now and I feel good about who I am, I hope you read the question I posted about my blood pressure dropping low a little, and me starting to cry a little and me staring to shake because I had all my feelings trapped in me and about one of my friends standing in front of me holding me because she told me after I came out, she could feel me shaking and she could feel, I just had to LET SOMETHING GO
that had been inside of me for years and years and years and years and was tearing my life apart, so

so once I came out all those evil feelings went away and my blood pressure returned to normal
because I finally let the secret world of my sexuality out and I wanna say I felt so relieved
when I came out, now have you people who love differently ever had conflicts with your parents because they were having a hard time dealing that you came out to them? and have you ever been kicked out the house because your parents didn't understand who you were, and they did not want you in the house because they were not educated on people that they don't understand? what I mean by that is why do you think haters of people who love differently talk about us and call us names
and say we are going to h***, that say that because they are not understanding where we are coming from, it's just like trying to learn about Tina Turner, you have to get educated on her, what I mean by that is you have to read all about her, you have to watch the movie about her life, you have to learn all about her and her

and once you learn all about her, you will be EDUCATED on Tina, I know a ton of her songs, I have to do something for my mom but, I will add more details later,bye

OK, you know why I can sing hundreds of Tina Turner songs without the music because I got educated on those songs, I did that by listening to them over and over and over and over, and I printed out the lyrics to the songs and I studied them without the music, I love Whitney Houston too, and I got educated on her and learned all about her like how I watched these links, surprise
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kf_NLLpv8pY&NR=1****
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dYHuHUQlGEk&mode=related&search=
so haters of gays and lesbians have to get educated on US, we are still human beings, we have the same rights, as anybody else does, we are god's children, the bible is the only resource Christians and haters of gays have, there are too many editions of the bible and the stories in them are all twisted around and changed, I said this 107 times and I am going to say it 108 times, I believe homosexuality is a beautiful thing, I know it's not sin prior to what the bible says, we should be

we should be proud of who we are!!!!!!!!!!!!!
yes I know it takes a man and a woman to create a baby, but I have had no intentions of having kids since I was growing up, if haters of gays and lesbians can read the bible and get educated on it, then why can't they put down the bible and go to the bookstore and buy all the books they can and read about people they don't understand and learn about them and GET EDUCATED AND START TAKING INFORMATION INTO THEIR BRAINS
SO THEY CAN LLLLLLLLLLEEEEEEEAAARRRRRNN ABOUT US,AND STOP SAYING WHEN THEY LOOK AT TWO MEN KISSING, IT'S GROSS, you know why someone looks at that and are uncomfortable and they say it's nasty, well it's because they are not used to SEEING IT, they are not used to seeing that kind of love, gays and lesbians are NOTHING to be afraid of, we eat just like anybody else does, we shop at the same stores anybody else does, we like the same music anybody else does, we are god's GREATEST LOVE OF ALL,so are straight people

I am so you know what sick of hearing about teens getting killed on the news because they were gay or lesbian, I am so sick of seeing people who love differently suffer because someone doesn't understand them that they have to talk smack about them, the person they are talking smack about just might end up saving their life, we are gay and proud- applause, I am bisexual and proud- applause
now all I got put out the house, I had nowhere to go, I wasn't a legal adult like I am today, I went from house to house, asking people if I could use their phone, if you had a boy in a white shirt, with short hair come to your door about 2 years ago that was probably me, i will post my real photo in some weeks, I may look familiar to you, anyway I waled around the city, it was about 12 am and I had no food no water, I had to drink from the water hose, which made me sick, my evil parents, locked the door to the house, I kept ringing the bell but my dad just sat there, I didn't know Ellen DeGeneres

I didn't even know she existed at the time, I didn't know p flag existed, I didn't even know Whitney Houston existed.....................................
I have been in st.mary's psychiatric warp in Chicago because I live on the south west side, while in the warp I had to take medication that I didn't even need, I had to go to sleep at about 9, I had to eat food that
I wasn't used to but I loved the ice cream,
I had to show a man my well my privates
I admit I had a good feeling when I did that, I will add more details later,
my questions are new all the time.

Answer 1

My parents found out I was gay when I was 15 and threw me out of the house. There was no going back for me. The rest of my family disowned me, except for my Grandmother. She took me in until I went off to college.

I hope things work out OK between you and your parents, it sucks to lose your family.

Answer 2

I like your idea of a meeting. It could even be scheduled for those who are interested, like at a set day or so have a Monday Meeting Post. Where one of the leading posters on the board for example states what in his or her opinion where the main issues over the past week and if LGBT section came any step further with anything. At the other hand I am here a few weeks now and it seems that it are always the same questions and points that come up. Anyway, food for thought. As to the risks... I'm afraid i never took any. I let things drag until people themselves start to ask questions. Perhaps not good, but apart from one case i never had any negative reactions either. Mom smiled soooooooo hard when i finally confirmed. "I KNEW it", as if she had placed a bet on it and won the jackpot. From that moment also my family started to tell it to every postman that happened to come by. "Our Lucas is gay"! As i had received knighthood or so, lol. Then again, I come from a smiling family :) Thank you for your post !

Answer 3

Sometimes parents can suck, I feel bad for gay people who are disowned or treated badly by their parents, that is so cruel. As far me me, my parents have been cool about it, they aren't jumping for joy or anything but they accept me. The only arguments I had with them was when I first came out and they kept insisting it was a phase or something. Other then that things have been pretty good, but who knows what will happen when I seriously start dating, but I think they'll be okay with it, I don't think they'll make a big deal of it.

Answer 4

We recently found out my brother is gay. Hes 19 and im 16. Im finding it difficult to come to terms with, and so are my parents. He also said he always knew and he wanted to be open and honest about it. I think in time we will accept it properly but it just takes time to come to terms with when its a close family member, i think more so than if it was a stranger or even just a friend. I think its still a bit of a shock at the moment but we will support him and get used to it. I hope everything turns out well for you.

Answer 5

No. My father had passed away before Gwenneth and I decided to tell our parents. My Mother thought for a while, then said "You know I was looking forward to grand children but Gwen is a lovely person. Love and treat her kindly. My brother and his fiance were really good too.
I never found out what Gwen's people said at that time but their reply to our invitation to our house warming was cruel. Vile would be a better term.
We had 42 years of happiness in clouds or sunshine, joy and tears.
With much love to you,
Rose P.

Answer 6

I'm not gay, but my brother is. We all accept him now, but when he gets a little flamboyant my Dad gets depressed. When he came out my Dad [this was one my Mom's b-day and at dinner] he ended the dinner immediatly and for the first time in 15 years he wanted a beer. Anyway, my brother had never told my Dad to shutup until that day.

Answer 7

listen dear this is a problem in many societies and it'll remain to be one.
Older people have grown up rejecting many ideas regarding sexuality due to religion and other members of the society's opinion. you won't be able to change that.
you see alot of people think that the idea of sexuality is kinda new but its been out there for centuries but many people kept it hidden. today things are getting better so alot started to come out of the closet but people like parents don't agree with it cause for them this all new and according to what they've been living with in the past this is all wrong!

What you have to do is be smart about it! treat your parents as kids.
you see weather its about school, being gay or whatever it is you have to just make your parents happy.
NOT by giving up and doing what hey want but by just letting them believe what they want - make them feel that you are what they want just to be happy, and you can be what ever person you want to be.
I know you might say ya but that's deception and you want to just live your life freely the way you are with no strings attached. but consider it, your parents aren't going to accept any of your ideas even if they're right because they always assume that they're right and that everything you do is wrong even if you were 50 years old

am sorry about what your going through and i wish you all the luck
take care

Answer 8

Well, I'm trans and my dad and I run into disagreements all the time because I put transitioning right now as one of my highest priorities. Back in my teens they just were 100% against me transitioning. I eventually got depressed and suicidal and pulled away from the world from my early teens until I started to transition at 19.

Answer 9

I didn't read your whole book, but I figured you need a little support. Check out pflag.org -- nat'l supprt educational group the helps parents and families/friends of lgbt people to understand what being gay is all about. Your parents need to be educated and you need a safer place to live. be safe. Be happy.

Answer 10

I was fortunate emought to be raised by a single mother pretty much all my life and one who taught we four siblings independence from the get go. She loved men, has been married 3 times but was well aware what it was like to be oppressed by them. She wanted better for my sister and I especially. It wasn't a problem when I came out to her, I think I was more wrung out about it then she. However, over the years, she has not really accepted my partner of 27 years, gives all us siblings little guilt trips because all of us are almost/over 40 and not married and the only grandkids she has were born by my "black sheep" brother out of wedlock. She occassionally says, "maybe you kids needed more male influence in your lives." And we all say, Mom you are all we ever needed! A loving parent is a treasure forever. I wish everyone had at least one.....I see this too in all the foster kids my Mom has taken care of since I was 10. Most of these kids wouldn't be messed up if they had at least one strong parent to love them. Now, my partner has a strong family and her sister outted us to her Mom who was understanding. Her Father makes alot of negative comments about many races, gays and ect as he gets older but was not as opinionated when the girls were growing up. He said he "taught them to be free thinking". But now he's turning into his own narrow minded father. With him, our relationship is a "don't ask, don't tell", which is kinda silly...almost like a game, because he's intelligent enough to see what's going on...I mean they just came to see our new house a few weeks back and there's only ONE bedroom and ONE king-size bed....C"mon on. But he is always kind to me and we are lucky to have parents to love us.......my heart goes out to you.