okay...
long story shorrt.
My sister slept with her OWN cousins boyfriend and is now pregnant.
she lost her virginity about 2 weeks ago with this boy. Please you guys..
Tell me how I should handle this situation.
and if I should be worried.
2007-07-08 14:32:29 · 16 answers · asked by blonde_avril229 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
well...not a good choice on her part...not at all but she did the crime now she has to do the time. there is no easy way outta this for her.
2007-07-08 14:36:12 · answer #1 · answered by inmybiz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for YOU is to not only have a close friend that you can share your concerns with; but talk with your family as well. You cannot bottle up your own feelings. And, as harsh as this will sound, your family may not notice until it's too late if you start having troubles if you don't keep talking to them.
Let me share a brief story to illustrate...I don't want to compare my family issues to yours, so let's just say there was a problem. My mom would always talk about those problems, not really hearing mine or how I felt about those problems. Each time, I said nothing, letting my feelings of being ignored build and build. I finally got so frustrated I essentially told her off...and nearly put her into tears. We eventually worked it out, but for a while it was rough. For the record, I was in the wrong...if I'd said something earlier...
Your parents are going to feel a lot of pain. Your sister will be in agony. Your cousin will be outraged. You will feel ignored. But don't let it bottle up - you're family too..just because you don't have huge problems right now doesn't mean you don't matter. If you don't share your feelings, you will have huge problems and that's added pressure don't want to be responsible for.
And now for the balancing act...share your feelings, but don't forget to listen to others. Together, you can get over anything. Apart, you'll drift.
2007-07-08 15:06:27 · answer #2 · answered by one_of_paradox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would a whore conceal her true nature? There is deceit on her part. Technically if true, 1. this is not a valid marriage, she is under the violation of bigamy or deceit. 2. waiting period for a woman is 3 months or 10 months for a pregnant woman. ============================= Book 11, Number 2126: Narrated Basrah: A man from the Ansar called Basrah said: I married a virgin woman in her veil. When I entered upon her, I found her pregnant. (I mentioned this to the Prophet). The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: She will get the dower, for you made her vagina lawful for you. The child will be your slave. When she has begotten (a child), flog her (according to the version of al-Hasan). ►► The version of Ibn AbusSari has: You people, flog her, or said: inflict hard punishment on him. ============ 1. Note: it doesn't say WHO the woman had affair with, so based on the verdict it is assumed that: with a male -slave, off-spring of a male slave is a slave. But the off spring of a master and his slave girl is free. 2. various versions of the story exist.
2016-04-01 04:08:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think thats its natural to be worried as it is your sister
but hey this girl (ur sister) needs to confess to your cousin and her boyfriend and let them know whats happened..
no use in being old enough to have sex if you dont think your older enough to handle the consequences now is there???
poor girl should be feeling bad, but after all, if you come into someone elses relationship and cause trouble between a happy couple, theres no excuse for that.. its just completely SLUTTY and she deserves whatever she gets
2007-07-08 14:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your sister handle the situation. She got herself into the situation. She should be one to get take care of the problem
She may have alienated your cousin though... Other than what why should you be worried?
2007-07-08 14:37:20 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is going to be so much drama, anger, mistrust, and just too many emotions to list. People do make bad choices, but that choice took two. Your sister will need your support, but you should let it be known that you're not taking sides. Just be there and be neutral.
2007-07-08 14:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by natasha d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is it your problem? Butt out. This is an issue now between your sister, the BF and your parents. It is no longer your cousin's problem the moment she finds out as he is now an ex-bf unless she's pretty stupid.
2007-07-08 14:46:07 · answer #7 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I'd stay out of it completely!!! I'd just let your sister and your cousin's bf tell your cousin. Let them deal with the consequences!!!
2007-07-08 14:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by Kristen P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your cousin is gonna be pissed at your sister. But she has to tell her and she also has to tell the boy. another thing is she has to tell your parents. she cant hide it forever it got to come out soon. the sooner the better. and if she doesnt tell anyone then you do it. who cares if she gets mad everyone has to know. good luck.
2007-07-08 14:37:35 · answer #9 · answered by Momof4beautifulGirls! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realize this is your sister and all, but its her mistake and honestly its between yoru cousin, cousins bf and your sister. Theres really nothing you can do except be there for support.
Maybe call the jerry springer show.
2007-07-08 14:37:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
How does this affect your life? Stay out of it unless you're going to support her. But it's your sister's life, and her decision on what to do.
2007-07-08 14:37:20 · answer #11 · answered by alimagmel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋