My ex had a son with a man she never married because he was a drug addict. I adopted the boy when he was six and so he is my son and is now 22. Anyways my 11 year old told me since the divorce 1 1/2 years ago they went to meet the father of my adopted son with their mom. He said they went to a hotel to bring him cookies. That does not make sense to me. While we were married my ex who is a nurse got escorted from her office, she was fired because a patient claimed she stole pills from her home although no charges were filed. My ex had a bad back and always was taking oxycontin and other similiar stuff. Am I overreacting or should I be concerned between the hotel visit and my ex getting fired in regard to some drug issues?
2007-07-08 13:28:54 · 11 answers · asked by paco 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would be worried and keep a close eye out. Watch for any changes in your kids. Good luck
2007-07-08 13:31:50 · answer #1 · answered by Brandi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At the moment all you have is a "feeling" that something is not Kosher. Stay alert, but not alarmed. Keep an eye on the situation, and only if something else develops, take action. Keep an eye and ear to the kids, they can let you know what is happening, but don't get them to spy on Mum, that puts them in a bad place. Let them guide you, and always do what's best for them. Just make sure that there isn't any of your own feelings about your ex, clouding the issue.
A difficult situation, but best of luck.
2007-07-08 13:36:38 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very concerned. The cookies were a front. She went to get drugs. She sure wasn't there to bring an ex cookies. Honestly, I would be talking to a lawyer for advice. The clues are there, document it all. What's worse is she took your son with her to do this.
2007-07-08 14:20:10 · answer #3 · answered by Lish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sure sounds fishy to me. I don't know how you can find out not like she is going to be honest if she is using drugs with this guy. Maybe you can tell her you don't like your son being around an addict. The adoptive son is 22 and is old enough to see his father on his own there is no need to subject your child to him at all.
2007-07-08 13:35:11 · answer #4 · answered by Sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Concern
2007-07-08 13:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by What's Up? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may have gone to give this guy more than cookies. Where was your son during the visit? As far as the allegations that led to her firing, quite possibly, she is an addict. I'd suggest a visit to your attorney for some legal guidance.
2016-05-17 05:29:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my concern would be why a hotel, was he visiting from out of town and if so, why not meet at a restaurant. i don't understand why she would take your child to visit this long ago ex at a hotel? otherwise i think your being paranoid. i see no connecting dots here. just unrelated incidents.♥
2007-07-08 13:45:26 · answer #7 · answered by gone fishing! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know your ex better then we do. If your Spidey sense is tingling then you should probably be concerned. Peace and God bless.
2007-07-08 13:37:19 · answer #8 · answered by cave man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DOCUMENT!!!! Document everything that your children tell you, because odds are- you will need it later. I would be concerned, but be careful how you react. you dont want to look like a dumbass, but at the same time you need to protect your children....
2007-07-08 13:41:24 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
follow your gut instinct always when it comes to your kids. i would be concerned, talk to your kids often about their life at their moms and listen for any changes or topics that they don't want to discuss....good luck
2007-07-08 14:01:20 · answer #10 · answered by VW Girl :o) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋